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Grym text ang. acceptence and being - godsgift - 2013-09-14
One of the reasons guys fail at this is because they are attached to the girls that they meet. They are attached to wanting a certain result. They want her to respond to them a certain way. Want them to validate who they are as human beings. This stems from the idea that getting women or anything outside of you makes you happy and validated as a human being. Why do we do this?? Because you were raised to believe that if you do not succeed with this thing and get what you want that you FAILED and should feel bad about it. Truth is there is no amount of women validating you or amount of money you could get that would make you completely happy. No matter where you go and what you accomplish, you will still drag around yourself and your problems. No matter what there is something else your thinking that you need to have to complete who you are and become the man!
You think that it's wrong to feel bad or negative emotions because we have to be happy all the time or something is wrong with you. Well here's the news, were never going to be fully happy all the time. No matter what you get or don't get, life is happening. It's a roller coaster. Negative and positive emotions are just emotions. Getting from outside of you doesn't change a damn thing. You still experience all of those emotions and there's nothing you can do to stop life from happening. No matter what there is always going to be a women who will let you down and there's always going to be an answer that is suddenly old advice. That car you bought will be old and rusty. That cool new shirt will be out of style real quick. So what is the bright side? The bright side is that you are alive! You are here and get to experience all of this. You get to see all of this for what it is. Life and its happening whether you like it or not.
So what is the difference between living a life where you are open and positive to all of this experience we call life? What will make you want to experience more of it rather than sitting and wishing there was something that would make it all better?? Sex isn't the answer but its great, money isn't the answer but that shouldn't stop you from getting more of it, style and cool clothes isn't it but its nice to have. It all comes down to full acceptance for who you are completely. Accepting who you are, accepting other people for being who they are and what they want for themselves, accepting whatever emotional state you are in, accepting the amount of money that you have in your bank account, accepting that some people will just not accept you, accepting and taking responsibility for where you are in your life. There is no feeling sorry for yourself and you really have no control over others and how they feel about you. All you have control over is how you respond to it all.
There is great strength in this. What your ultimately doing when you accept everything about you, other people, and every single thing that surrounds you is you are BEING. You are allowing everything that everybody considers to be NEGATIVE to occur. Rejection, hatred, disapproval, fear, doubt, disbelief in yourself, and everybody else's same negativity to BE there. Maybe even more important to some is your allowing for all the POSITIVITY to be there. Some people can't understand or even come to the conclusion that somebody would like them or who they are. You are allowing for all LOVE, COMPANIONSHIP, TRUST, BELIEF, CONFIDENCE, and COURAGE to all BE there as well. You BE open to all occurring. Negative and positive experience to be. And you know what's even crazier?? They are both the same!! There is no difference to either of them. They are just experiences. Well you might be thinking now that well some experiences are better than others. Really??
You may have learned that its better to experience love rather than hate, that you want companionship more than disapproval. Well I won't argue that but let's look closer shall we? When you were a kid you welcomed all experiences to be. You didn't care if women liked you or that anybody else liked you, you just enjoyed living and experiencing all that there was around you. You went up to anybody around you and just were who you were. Full acceptance of yourself. So what happened?? You learned that this is bad and that is good. You learned from your parents, TV, movies that its only good to experience this and only bad to experience that. When this bad experience happens you should feel bad. When you get more of this into your life you feel good. What happened is you learned the concept of good and bad. Positive and negative. You learned that negativity is something to avoid and should push away from yourself. You learned that the only way to feel happy is to get more of this into your life. Sex, money, companionship, cool clothes and cars are all just concepts that you learned!!
You learned that if somebody doesn't accept you that it reflects poorly on you and you should feel bad about yourself and that you should get more money, sex, cool things to validate who you are as a person!! What should we do?? You have to come to a place where you are validating yourself regardless if you have any of those things in your life or not. Accepting everybody else if they have those things in their lives or not. Accepting everybody exactly as they are. Even if they are still believing that these things validate who they are as people. You judge nobody especially yourself. Now does that mean that you shouldn't get nice things for yourself?? That you shouldn't have sex or work hard for nice cars or things you like?? Absolutely not. What matters is that you accept everything as it is. Realize that these things aren't what brings you happiness. Realize that there is no difference between negative and positive experiences and just fully accept and be open to both occurring. Because you can't avoid them.
You have been brainwashed into believing that you have to experience more of one than another and I'm here to tell you that is absolute BULLSHIT!! You are going to experience both. You are going to experience love, rejection, passion, regret, fulfillment, scarcity, and all of that. But realize that they are just experiences and if you treated them like when you were a little kid and put zero meaning on them, the words love, rejection, passion, regret, fulfillment, scarcity, sex, companionship are all just concepts and experiences. Nothing more. The more open you will be and will be more like the little kid you were scraping yourself up and falling down everywhere with full enjoyment of the present moment. Coming from this place will make you be more vulnerable and will make you be more courageous to do what you want. When you realize how dumb all of these concepts are, the easier it is to take action for what you want in your life. You will still fall and be "rejected" but it won't mean anything. And you know what? It doesn't mean anything either when they accept you. Be fully accepted in yourself and everybody else and everything around you then nothing else will matter.
Creds till användaren theheathen @ TP för texten!
RE: Grym text ang. acceptence and being - godsgift - 2013-10-10
Relaterat: http://markmanson.net/stop-trying-to-be-happy
Bra skit.
RE: Grym text ang. acceptence and being - Flumrider - 2013-10-10
Citat:Lay on your death bed with a to do list a mile long and smile at the infinite opportunity granted to you.
Just den meningen träffade något inom mig. Gjorde på något sätt att man nu verkligen VILL ut och prata med brudar, på bussen, på klubben, på stan etc som man annars har tyckt vart lite obehagligt. Jag vill absolut inte ligga på min dödsbädd och ångra något jag INTE gjort.
Bra artikel.
RE: Grym text ang. acceptence and being - TheD - 2013-10-11
Bra grejer!
RE: Grym text ang. acceptence and being - illdan - 2013-10-11
Om någon tycker denna var bra o vill ha mer av samma skit så bör ni kolla in "Power of now" samt "The sedona method", i båda dessa böcker snackar de om exakt samma sak, fast bredare samt att de inkluderar övningar man kan göra.