PARADOX RESOLVED: Being a HARD CLOSER VS maintaining total freedom from outcome!

[Benson!]

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Clarity Of Intent + Freedom From Outcome

-You always want to be developing both your COI and FFO

-Clarity of intent means you have an alignment in your thoughts words and actions

-You've taken the foot off the break and are just on the gas pedal

-To develop intent you use a combination of taking action, challenging yourself, meditation, food, and good sleep

-In the field you can practice by constantly monitoring what you KNOW you should be doing. Getting a clearer and clearer idea of what to do.

-Challenges could include approaching every girl in the bar, approaching the hottest girls in the bar, mixed groups, etc.

-From there you want to be clear on how you follow up. Girls will try to run away and you have to follow them, or re-approach multiple times.

-In late game you may have to text multiple times, try hitting them from different angles, and try many things to get a day 2. You may have to try many things to get her into the bedroom and then later to get her turned on enough to have sex.

-I'll often endure MARATHONS in bed to get her turned on enough for sex.

-Guys who have a very powerful drive to get laid and who will do ANYTHING to get laid, most often do. They are closers to the bone.

-Ultimately they find SOLUTIONS to challenges, instead of looking for excuses. For every 1 solution finder there are 100 excuse makers. Be a solution finder. Think outside the box.

-You would be SHOCKED at how far you can push. ABSOLUTELY SHOCKED. You really have no idea until you go out for many years and find out.

-On the flipside you also have to be free from outcome.

-You cultivate freedom from outcome by massive experience teaching you nothing really matters, getting other hobbies, other girlfriends, the ability to get laid, and general abundance with women. Also from a positive perspective of life, bigger passions and goals, and anythin that cultivates a more positive state of mind independent of any external validation, such as meditation.

-In the same way you want to be developing better and better COI, you want to keep developing your FFO.

-You should learn to hit mental states of deep presence and internally generated enjoyment, enthusiasm, and positivity.

-You want to learn to create a "natural high" from the enjoyment of the process itself. You can also enhance this with exercise, and most importantly foods like heavy greens, green tea, dark chocolate, reishi mushroom, and anything healthy that amps up your brains 4 main neurotransmitters -- seratonin, dopamine, acytylcholine, and gaba. Research them.

-Other important keys are dance and self amusement in general.

-The main reasons girls are so free of outcome is they have massive abundance with men, but also what we often forget is they massively self amuse at the club with joking and hugging and dance.

-You can steal this frame from girls by joking a lot with friends and dancing and screwing around. You should always be having as much fun as possible at the club.

-You want to get your game to a point where you are a MASTER of self generating positive emotions, to the point it's a bit freakish. Imagine someone who is depressed and at the mercy of their environment and emotions -- you want to become the exact OPPOSITE of that: a total master of making yourself a happy dude.

-In a pickup, realize that any time you appear to just be enhancing your own emotions the girls will go for it. So if you dance dirty or want to make out, or later sex, and it's NOT FOR VALIDATION AT ALL but rather to simply self state pump through the enjoyment of the process of doing it, the girl will almost always go for it instinctively so that she isn't the "fun ruiner". But if she senses you're doing it to gain EXTERNAL STIMULUS and EXTERNAL VALIDATION she will instinctively cut it off.

-If you escalate, for example, simply to enhance your own state through the process of it, it's sexy and fun and she allows it instinctively. If you do it to gain emotions from the RESULT, she instinctively cuts it off.

-That being the case, you want to eventually master both being extremely good at taking massive action and being super pushy, while at the same time LOVING THE PROCESS OF DOING SO. Example: You can be hitting open after open, and escalating fast, but singing and laughing and dancing while doing so, and it's amazing. But if you're annoyed until you get a result, it's a terrible result.

-Master being very focused and getting things done from open to close, but being in a massively positive state from the open right to the close. Once in a state of momentum, you should ideally be BORDERLINE EUPHORIC just from the massive flow state of engaging with the process itself, amping up your brains neurotransmitters and whatnot, while pushing EXTREMELY HARD for the close all the way!

Tyler=)