On Dominance @truestory

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- I trust that….You will not judge me!” FOCKING IMPORTANT! VERY! This is your KEY to kinky sex. She will watch how you talk about your exes. She will watch how you talk about girls with your buddies. She will ask you stories that will reveal how you think about women. She will tell you stories like “Jenni is such a slut. She is such a whore. I cannot believe she slept with that guy, and that guy, and whatever. I bet she has an STD”…and you dumb-fuck would happily say “oh yeah honey, she’s a skanky whore. Yeah I am glad you are not like that” WRONG! Now she knows that woman who’s promiscuous in your opinion is a whore. Now she knows that god forbid you’ll learn her past, she’ll be a whore too in your eyes. Well boys, she is not a whore. The right thing to say to that: “Baby, don’t talk about Jenni like that. Seriously. There is nothing wrong with women liking sex. I think she’s confident and just comparison shopping” Make a joke about it, but sound serious. This is where your true beliefs come in. If you really believe that that behavior is whorish, you need to rethink your beliefs. Because, if your buddy Bill told you about his friend Josh who’s fucking a new girl every other day, you’d call him a player and would probably want to know how he does this. Drop the double standard. And if you think that having multiple partners is “wrong” and unhealthy, you should still not judge people that do.

- I trust that….You will make me feel comfortable being myself”. Otherwise known as she will be ok with being a woman. This is probably a little caveat I missed and many other men miss for longest time. You need to embrace her womanhood. She will thank you for letting her be who she is. When she’s irrational she doesn’t want to reason and have logical discussion. When she wants sweet cuddling loving she’s being a woman. When she wants rough fast hardcore fucking, she’s being a woman. When she wants to have romantic picnic she’s being a woman. When she makes you dinner and puts candles on the table, two glasses of wine she’s being a woman. You love woman and what they do for you, themselves and people they care for. When it takes her 2 hours to get ready in the bathroom, account for it. You know it will take her that long. Planning is man’s job, remember? She is getting pretty FOR YOU, ASSHOLE! So don’t blame her for being late because “someone” had to spend 6 hours getting ready. Plan this into your arrival time, so you’re not late for the reservations. Thank her for being a woman. When she’s finally done getting ready, tell her she looks gorgeous, pretty or stunning. If she was going for “sexy” look then tell her she looks sexy. Come close to her, put your hands around her pull her in, whisper in her ear “baby, I already cannot wait till we get back, the things I will do to you” give her a kiss and pull away, take her hand and walk with her. When she made you dinner, eat with her, look into her eyes and tell her that it was great. Even if it wasn’t. She asked you “how was it?” you tell her it was great because she did it for you. When she’s washing the dishes after, come behind her, put your arms around her lean into her ear, kiss her neck and say “it turns me own when you are being such a good little girl” in low voice. Who knows, this might lead into makeout and passionate sex on the kitchen floor. When she’s being irrational, do not tell her she’s being irrational, do not tell her she’s acting stupid. Just let her vent. Give her a big hug, hold her close and tell her that “everything is going to be ok. Trust me, I will make it ok for you” RE-INFORCE that she can rely on you even if you physically cannot help her, she will still trust in your support.

Vulnerability and Sex

Nobody wants to be vulnerable. However, often, women become very vulnerable when they are intimate with men. Why? Because, in order for woman to orgasm, she has to LET GO of all her concerns, issues, and thinking, and accept that man in her; literally speaking: let a man enter her and know her on the level that only few got to.

The amount of trust she has with you will determine your sex experience.

(Side note, there is also the “amount of anonymity” factor. I’ve had some mind blowing one night stands, with girls I didn’t care about nor they cared about me. Because we both knew we don’t know who we are and chances of running into each other again are none)

If you have sexual experience and know what you’re doing you will naturally lead in bed. Even if she had more partners than you have had, she will still allow you to take her through sexual experience.

When a girl cums she’s very self conscious and she’s afraid you are going to judge her. The judgment factor plays in many other situations: If you “suggest” that she gives you a blow job in the bathroom at the bar, she will immediately think “he’s gonna tell all his buddies, and I will look like a slut” if she does NOT trust you.

However, if you’ve develop connection and TRUST with her, you can TELL her to do things. Because she doesn’t even think about it, all she thinks about is how please you will be. To woman pleasing a man is HOT. Often, girls I date cannot wait to suck my dick, not because, they love it, but because, they love the fact I love it. Their desire to please me sexually is very strong that it overpowers any ‘rational’ thought. You have experience with woman, you have sexual knowledge, she will want you to dominate her. IF you tell her “get on your knees”, she knows that it’s going to be fun. If you say “baby, can you please give me a blow job” she thinks “óh geez, not again…why can’t he just …be a man and just do it”

Same reason she wont be into it, and you will kill the mood if you say “baby wanna try doggy?” YES MORON! I Do. Now you killed the mood.

I’ve made that mistake once. My girl and I were really horny driving around town. We were both cranky from various events in our lives and a good car fucking would fix this. But I couldn’t find discreet spot, I was driving around, asking her if “this is good” or ”how about now”… well guess what I killed the mood and we nearly got into bickering. If I would have had my shit together, and pulled into empty parking lot without asking and told her to get in the back seat, it would have been different ending.
Girls want to be fucked. Fucked hard, soft, slow, fast, aggressively but they want to be fucked. They don’t want to “fuck” a guy. They want to be fucked. In bed assume ownership. Assume that she wants to do everything. If you want to fuck her doggy, bend her over put her on her knees and fuck her doggy. Also women like to be fucked in other places than bed and other times than before you fall asleep. Catch her coming out of the shower and grab her by the robe, pull her in the bedroom and fuck her on the floor. If you two are alone, at home, fuck her on the couch in living room. Fuck her in garage while working on your car. Call her over, “baby, I am thirsty, please bring me some water”, when she comes in pull her in for kissing and fuck her right then and there.

Girls like to be slutty, but they will never admit it. When she’s behind closed doors she fantasizes about men treating her like a dirty whore and degrading her. Those sexual fantasies are just fantasies, but often you can fill some of them. Usually, through dirty talking and role playing. Remember that everything you do in the bedroom is play. You don’t think she’s the whore in real life, but in bed she is. You treat her like one; some women enjoy being slapped, spanked, scratched, bitten, and abused. They like their hair pulled, they like you being rough on their nipples, they enjoy the hard pounding, they like that somewhat “forceful” nature of a man. You flip her around, toss her, grab her, pull her hair, slam her pussy with your dick, put your fingers in her mouth, slap her ass, suck on her neck and tits. She’s not as precious flower as you think she is. She can take it rough. Actually, I was blown by the fact how rough you can get with the girl and she would love it. Let me say that one of the girl, I casually dated, liked it soo rough that her friends seriously thought that we had a serious case of domestic abuse. She liked being slapped, spat on, and even pissed on. Once our sex was soo rough she had a huge red mark across her face I slapped her so hard. In the act, she didn’t feel anything but ecstasy. I am not saying that all girls like that. But it can get pretty rough.

If you want her to talk dirty, then take the lead and talk dirty to her first. Start slow but escalate. Good phrases to start with are (progressively):
“I like hearing you moan”
“you sound so hot when you suck me off”
“I like how your tits bouncing up and down when I fuck you like this”
“I want you to suck my cock like a good little girl”
“I want you to be my naughty girl tonight”
“you are soo good, wet, tight and slippery”
“I want you to be a little slut for me tonight”
“when you cum like a good slutty little girl makes me want to cover you with cum”
“god ..you’d look so hot with my cum all over your slutty body”
“oh baby…I like the noise you make when you suck my dick. When it’s soo deep in your throat”
“I love how you choke on me. I like how you gag. You like your mouth fucked”
“I want to cover your face your tits and your pretty slutty mouth. You’ll be my sexy whore tonight”
Ask her questions, “How does it feel to be filled by me?”
“You look so hot when you cum …do you like when I pull your hair as you cum”
“what will my slutty little girl do to please me?”
“who are you? Are you my little slut??”
“you’re such a whore, I love when you get pounded by me, do you like being my worthless whore?”

I have personally uttered those lines to more than one girl I’ve been with. After a while you develop sense of novelty a girl would have. Some wont really care much for whore-master play.

Give her roles and names. Several times I would tell my girlfriend “I am picking you up at 10, dress slutty, we are going to pickup girls tonight, wear a skirt and no panties” (my gf was bisexual).

Tell her to dress up for you. But make sure you dress up for her. If you want her to have her tits half exposed with pushup bra, make sure you dress in sexy button up and designer jeans with NICE shoes. She will directly reflect you. If you wear shorts, flip flops and t-shirt, she’ll wear same thing. I don’t think a girl looks as hot in casual tee and shorts combination as she does in a dress, skirt, and blouse.

Ever single girl that I’ve been with, “Good girl” and naught girl, likes when man manhandles her. It’s very hard to explain in text, but almost all your actions should be determined. You should not hesitate. You need to be confident and handle her like if you handling something you’re used to.

If you want to fuck her in the ass, assuming you’ve done it before, start by playing around her asshole with your finger. Anal sex is best left for “when you two are drunk” or “right out of the shower”. Otherwise she’ll get self conscious. When she’s drunk she won’t care. Some girls are absolutely not into anal. Nothing you can change about that. Some girls are not into other girls. Nothing you can change about that either. No matter how dominant you are. But if you want to do it, don’t make an ‘event’ out of it. Don’t approach it as “TONIGHT is the BIG NIGHT we try anal”. Just go for it. Play with her ass a little bit, if she tells you to stop, stop. Don’t question it. Come back to it in a little bit, she’ll probably tell you “I don’t wanna do it” You can say “If it hurts I’ll stop” …she might need a little bit ‘convincing’ but all you need to convey to her that you know what you’re doing and she should trust you. “Baby, I know how to do it right, you won’t hurt, I promise, trust me” Then again if she says no, then she says no. She also needs to know that she wont hear through the grapevine from her friends that she was fucked in the ass. So don’t yap your mouth. This shows in your conversations about your exes. If she knows you are discreet she will want you do a lot of things to her and with her.

Sometimes, if you’re very determined it might take several one-on-one talks about things you two should try. But never ask. Dominant guys don’t ask. “Baby, we should try anal sometimes” If you don’t know what you’re doing, don’t say it; if she asked you If you’ve done it before, say yes. She needs to feel safe and that you’re not going to hurt her. Again, when doing it, self control comes in a major play. You have to be SOOOO SLOW AND GENTLE and it takes a lot of patient. If you cannot control yourself, you’ll find it hard to do it right and you’ll end up hurting the girl.

Threesomes:

It’s a lot easier to find a girl that’s already into girls than trying to convince your girlfriend to have one. Because, then she’ll “do you a favor” and she wont enjoy it. Plus there will be a lot of awkwardness and jealousy.

Dominant Male Attitudes and Behaviors

You do not “own” her but you do in a way. She’s not your possession but she’s there for you to “use” and enjoy. I know this sounds pretty sexist, but it is true. Women want to “belong” to a man. We are not talking about financial or materialistic way. We are talking about emotional and psychological way. You don’t own any rights to her but being intimate gives you right to touch her where ever you want on her body. It also gives you sexual access to her. In other words you should never ask for sex. In fact, most of the time, if you’re REALLY good she will be asking you for sex. Trust me.

Dominant men are good in bed. LEARN! Practice multiple orgasm, exercise your PC muscle, whatever it takes to get good. Read books, watch porn, do whatever you can. My good friend once said, that if you fuck woman 4 times and out of all those fucks JUST ONE was ABSOLUTELY MIND BLOWING - toe curling, and the other three sucked, she will come around just to occasionally catch that ONE GOOD FUCKING. Needless to say he has no issues getting girls.

Alpha male are dominant in life over almost everything they do. This is why “quarter back of the team” bangs cheerleaders. Because football players are usually dominant, they own the game, they strive to win. That’s dominance. If you’re not athlete, learn to be dominant in other aspects of your life.

You can do no wrong. This is pretty selfish thing to think. But a human can do no wrong. Human makes mistakes. A bit zen-ish but think of your life as experience. All the decisions you make are good and sound at that specific moment. However, it might not be good and sound after you suffered the consequences. And as a man you are responsible for ALL your actions, often action of your loved ones too. Guys with kids know exactly what this means.

Always push the envelope! Be bold. Dominant man are bold. They don’t pussyfoot around the bush. You want something get it.

Dominant man says “NO” more often than he says yes.

Your cocky and funny only works when you have dominant frame behind it. When you tease her and neg her out of bitterness and angriness, you may hit on her self esteem and actually manage to get her. But eventually you will run out of ‘juice’ and she will see the true submissive you. So when you tease and play always come out on top. Girls are not competitive and they secretly like when guys put them down. Use common sense.

Treat her like a little kid. I don’t know why but girls love it. Freud would probably mention obsession with father figure. But Freud is a sick fuck.