några frågor om mindsets o sånt...

[TonightIsTheNight]

Angående Identitet så läs detta med:

http://postmasculine.com/diversify-your-identity

Han pratar om faran att identifiera sig med en sak. Extremexemplen är professionella idrottsmän som identifierat sig så starkt med denna förmåga dom har, sen när karriären tagit slut har de tagit livet av sig eftersom deras identitet tagits ifrån dom.

"For instance, a well-balanced individual may have a successful law career, a wife, some golf buddies, and enjoy reading in his spare time. But in reality his career dominates his identity. He works so much that he has little to relate to his wife about other than work. His golf buddies are also lawyers. His reading relates to his career. He has no diversity.

This is the reason pick up and dating coaches notoriously have turbulent personal lives and often quit the industry within a few years of starting (as I did): they have no identity diversity. As soon as dating becomes their career, there’s no more division between their dating lives, business lives and social lives. It’s all one big mess. And if something goes wrong in their social life, it puts their business and love life at risk."

[...]"If you invest all of your identity in one basket, then you put your self-esteem and emotional well-being at risk."

Så poängen är att identifiera sig med flera saker och få mer bredd. .