The difference Between "Buying Temperature" and "Sexual/Romantic Attraction"

[slyngel]

It's easy to misinterpret momentarily increased buying temperature for sustained, sexual attraction because of what we are "programmed" to think "attraction" looks like and also becuase on some level we WANT "attraction" to look like buying temperature. In any movie, play, book, tv show- ANYTHING you have EVER watched, the "cool" guy with all the girls, is always seen making girl laugh hysterically and being super charasmatic in front of large groups of people and having girls leaping on his dick. Well, what they are depicting is a guy raising the buying temperature of girls. What they are depicting is not firmly built attraction but we are made to believe that's what attraction looks like- which is why it's so easy to "chase" that reaction, as opposed to actually going for sex.

But also, on some level, don't you WANT attraction to look like what buying temperature is? Don't you just LOVE shooting a girl full of heroin and spiking that buying temperature sky high and seeing the reaction this creates? It's fun. It looks cool. It makes you look cool. But it's not attraction, folks. It just isn't and it's really crazy that it isn't but.... it isn't.

Somehow we think that if we get that "movie-typical-reaction" from girls, we'll just start having sex with these girls... Nope... funny enough it actually doesn't work like that. And for me, this is probably The single biggest "Mind Blown" moment in all of my time in game so far. The recognition and actual understanding of what attraction is and isn't. It's significant. And I hope that by writing this I can speed up that process of understanding for you guys.

This is also why a lot of guys end up chasing validation and reactions, as opposed to actually getting attraction.

Anyway, if it isn't obvious at this point- it is so important to understand the difference between "Buying Temperature" vs. "Sexual/Romantic Attraction" --- There's a big difference and you can get really good at amping up a girls buying temperature without actually creating any "romantic//sexual" attraction.

It's the difference between being looked upon as providing, "Fun Value" and being looked upon as providing, "Sexual or Romantic Value"

Kind of odd- but that's the way it works... it's why you can look like you're dominating but actually you're just doing a bunch of BT shit that isn't going to translate at all.

Don't get me wrong-- you can pump BT all the way to a bathroom fuck but if that's all you're doing- you can fuck her in the bathroom and she won't respond to your text the next day... Gotta hit on actual attraction switches which require more than just BT work.

If you don't understand the difference between these two concepts, it is quite possible that during the night, you can get 10+ numbers and have a blast, makeout with a ton of chicks, maybe even get a bathroom pull or be very close to something of the sort.


BUT

The next day or the next week when you go to text all of those numbers you got- You are going to be viewed, in the eyes of the woman who you are texting, as, "Just an emotion" - like sometimes girls won't even remember you as a person but rather just as that "fun", momentary, emotion and for a lot of women, that's not enough to get them to invest in seeing you again.

They may remember your name... but that which you provided, that "Fun" vibe- just doesn't exist anymore, so it's going to be very difficult for you to get the meetup.

If that's happening to you- it's because you're pumping her BT like crazy but... That's IT....

Buying temperature is just a momentary phase of heightened emotions but it quickly dissipates when the spark//cause is gone... You can look at it with the following analogy:

Buying Temperature: Pouring gasoline onto a fire that's still kindling- It will create a momentary burst of intense flame and heat but as soon as you're done pouring the gasoline onto the flames, it immediately goes back to its previous state

Sexual/Romantic Attraction: A properly built fire, built from the bottom with kindling and then putting pieces of wood on top of that and slowly increasing the heat, with each new piece of wood. You can increase and decrease the amount of flame/heat but once the fire is going, because it is built on actual wood- you could leave for a couple hours (given the fire is big enough and built properly) and come back and it will still be going

So if you meet a girl at the club/bar and you go super direct- you just jump started her BT... you then insta-makeout with her... again- BT... you run a lot of humor and cocky/funny- again.. BT - this is all great, too, there's nothing wrong with this. Maybe you pick the girl up and are jumping around with her- again, this is all BT WORK. And I want to reiterate that there is nothing wrong with this, at all... Pumping a girls buying temperature is actually a very important part of game but the issue is that it, like everything, has its place.

But in order to get that "longer-lasting", properly-built, fire going- you have to take a moment and actually build attraction or as soon as you leave the environment, you will cease to be a person to her and you are simply that momentary emotion.

It's also the difference between doing this shit for "validation" and doing this shit to "Fuck"- if you want validation... pump her buying temp... if you want to fuck her- flip the attraction switches - and furthermore- do it methodically and consciously. Don't leave it to chance.

Attraction and Buying temperature look very different.

Attraction looks like nothing... I mean, it looks like you talking to a 2set and the hotter of the two girls, slowly and discreatly getting closer to you and touching you in discrete ways that only you notice

Whereas buying temperature everyone at the club can see and makes you look like a boss
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