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The Blueprint Decoded NOTES
IntroductionGoals evolve.
Once you reach one goal, the natural tendency is to always want more.At first, most guys just want to get one girl and get out, then they want to get the skill. They get good,
but it’s not consi
stent.
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The blueprint is about becoming
consistent. Having that click where you don’t have to thinkabout it anymore. It’s not something you’re doing, but something you are.
(Being, not doing.)

The Secret Code
You’re not meant to understand more than what w
ill take you to the next level.
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Every
time you watch it different things will pop out. You’ll understand more.

The same info will mean different things depending on where you’re at. If you watch it again in a year it’s gonna hit you at a different level.
From surface to deeper levels.
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(de2e: Like when you’re underlining important stuff in a book. If you read it again in a year,
the stuff you had underlined will now
seem obvious, it’ll feel like you were missing the point.)

Old Paradigm
When pickup first started, it was built upon the basic belief/frame that the woman is higher value thanthe man, on a pedestal, and the man needs to find some way to getup there through tricks/techniques.
For guys who’ve had little success with women, this makes a
lot of sen
se: She’s attractive, socially proofed, guys want her, andyou’re just an average
-
looking guy. It’s LOGICAL that she would behigher value, “above” you socially.

The Big Realization: THIS IS ALL IN YOUR HEAD. In
reality, you’re equal.

When this old paradigm is what you really believe in, your
reality, then everything you see you’ll try to fit it into what you believe
in. The Blueprint is about giving you a new reality through pieces ofthe puzzle, so you can give yourself permission to do what works.
(From social conditioning and ego to authenticity and self esteem.)

All The Old Stuff Still Applies
Learning this stuff doesn’t mean you can just sit around. You still have to go out and approach girls
and be social.
IF YOU GO OUT, MOST OF YOUR PROBLEMS AUTO-CORRECT.

All that changes is that we’re coming from a different frame now.
Being, not doing.

Social Conditioning
- Limiting Beliefs
Most people in the world walk through life in a walking daze.

They don’t know what their values
are, who they are or what they want out of life.What most guys think gets girls:
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Money -
No. There is a small % of girls that are attracted to guys with money, but it’s the
same as with anything different, like bodybuilders
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most girls are terrified of them, but small% are obsessed. So most are not attracted to money, except for gold diggers, and do youreally want to date those!? But guy sees dude with money and hot chick, and thinks he
NEEDS money. You don’t need it for chicks. It’s not a bad thing, if you do it for yourself.

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Looks

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No. Only thing about this is that being good looking means that you usually have
less limiting beliefs, it’s easier to approach because you think you deserve a good reaction


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You also get results faster because some girls will select you. “He’s cute.” B
ut for the most
part, there’s no difference. What happens is guys will have this belief and see random
anomalies to validate their beliefs.
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Romance

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No. Most guys see romance in movies and think that’s how you get girls. The
romantic approach could work i
f the girl wants you so bad that she’s intimidated by you. Shethinks you’re too amazing to like her, but then she thinks: “Oh, look at these flowers andchocolates and stuff he bought me, I guess he really does like me.”

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Commonalities

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No. (de2e: People will rationalize connection and find commonalities ifthere is value, as explained later.)
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Friendship First

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No. Lots of guys think they can become good friends with the girl andsneak in under the radar, listen to her problems, then suddenly come up
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“S
URPRISE! I
have a dick!” and become her bf.

There’s no cause
-effect relationship between all these things and attraction.
If attraction already
exists the girl will let the guy get away with these, but they aren’t the cause.

Social Conditioning
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What Everyone Else Is Doing

Comes from: the media, society, parents, work, friends, religion, movies, music, television,advertising, billboards, radio, magazines.
Ever since the day you were born, it’s hitting you from all
angles.The common view is wrong because:
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Girls are wired to go for guys that stand out from the crowd. (The crowd is doing what SCtells them to.)
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The types of approaches encouraged by SC are, generally speaking: chode, lame,desperate, needy, weak, beta. They communicate low social value.
Mass ConfusionHas there ever been a time in history when we as a people had a wrong belief aboutsomething on a mass level?

(Ex: Earth is flat.)
Could it be possible that maybe even today we couldbe wrong about some things?We have no clue how most of the stuff around us is working because we live in such an amazing
society. (Ex: It’s normal to fly in airplanes with thin windows, sitting feet from being in midair
thousands of miles above ground.)
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As a result, the natural tendency is to
give authority to society
. We let society dictate our
beliefs to us, we think “Well, they’re right about all this other stuff”.

It’s easy to give up control
of beliefs and let society dictate beliefs because it seems to be the right way, just because ofthe way that our society is structured.
Social Conditioning
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Why It Works

People are very FAST learners. This is because they learn and are influenced socially. We learn fromthe people around us constantly. This is both very good and very bad.There are 2 ways to learn:
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1. Firsthand experience.
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2. Socially.
We know most things without having to actually try it. People are constantly
looking at what other people are doing; they’re looking to see who they can learn off of.
(Ex:
Don’t have to jump out of a very high window and get hurt to know it’s bad. Learn it from
mom/TV/teacher. This is good.)
MOST SOCIAL CONDITIONING IS A GOOD THING
, lets you survive. But it messes guys up in the
rare case it isn’t right.

We accept ideas socially based on:
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1.
How certain they are of their ideas.
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2.
How in alignment they are with their own ideas.
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3.
The number of other people that buy into those idea


3So whenever something passes through those filters
your unconscious mind tells you “this must betrue.” The consequence is that
IDEAS, NO MATTER HOW STUPID, CAN SPREAD LIKEWILDFIRE.

Most myth, propaganda, etc. is based on the logic: “It’s true. I can feel it.”
You have to become a person that can look at stuff with your own set of eyes and outside of social
conditioning because social conditioning…

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Gets you to look at the surface of things and not the depth.
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Gets you addicted to never-ending stimulation.
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Gets you addicted to letting other people think for you.
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Gives you beliefs that seem so real because so many other people believe them that you
don’t
listen to your own common sense.
ValueThe core root of all attraction.
You get attraction when you know how to communicate value.Value is anything that:
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Helps you survive.
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Helps you have kids.
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Has characteristics that those kids would survive.
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Beyond th
at, it’s anything that gives you good emotions.

Value is like a magnet.

Your focus goes to the value. (Ex: If you’re really hungry and talking to your friend, then someone walks by with a plate of hot food, you’re focus will instinctively go to the food,
make you look at it. Same as if a hot girl walks by.)
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For millions of years, we’ve been hardwired to want short
-term more than long-term benefit.(We eat oversaturated foods, we procrastinate, we have faulty belief systems that make usfeel good, take drugs, drink alcohol, believe in convenient falsehoods, etc. -> Guys likeattractive women even though one you pick based on looks may not be a good mother.)
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Day-to-day, the quest most people are on is pleasure, building value for themselves.What constitutes value for a man is different than for a woman.
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Man
: wants attractive, skinny(represents youth and health), large breasts(represents fertility).
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Woman
: decisiveness, resourcefulness, dominance, confidence, fearlessness, a guy whodictates reality and does not have reality dictated to him, leadership. (These qualities aregonna be a lot more important to survival than anything else.)
If you’re walking up to a woman and you’re nervous
, your heart is beating fast and you talk like
you’re unsure of yourself and q
uiet, THAT HAS ZERO VALUE. NONE.
That’s like having negative
value. How well could you kill an animal to eat in caveman days if a woman intimidates you?
(Sidenote: Caveme
n didn’t need a mirror, you don’t need one either.)
Before, being a provider to a woman had value. Now she has male groupie/parents/job to take care of
that. She doesn’t need money to survive, so being a provider isn’t all that appealing anymore. Somerespond to that, but most don’t.

Sub-Communication
It takes a guy a couple seconds to decide if a woman is attractive, takes a woman a couple hours.Why? -> Men look for visual cues, women look for behavioral cues.
Communication is the words that you’re saying,
the surface level. Women are looking for sub-communication, the communication beneath all of that. The words that you say very rarely register to
a woman, you’re thinking that they are, but they’re not. The more attracted she is, the more that thewords that you’re saying are irrelevant. You could talk in gibberish.

2 types of sub-communication:
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1. Your behavior.
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2. How people react to you.
Some examples of sub-communication:
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Eye contact, vocal tonality, body language, your sense of individuality, humor and
playfulness, comfort in your environment…

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indifference to what people think of you,
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your concepts and boundaries of what you will and will not accept,
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your control over your own emotions and your own sense of reality,


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your confidence to say what’s on your mind and stand out,

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your self-directedness, conviction and grasp of your own standards,
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your sense of entitlement and willingness to go for what you want,
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and the types of things you say and the way in which you say them all in relation to the otherpeople there.
If your behavior is on, but logically you’re not the kind of guy that she goes for, then she’s still gonnabe attracted. It’s why, even when a gi
rl finds out Tyler teaches pickup
, she’s still attracted. It makes
no difference. The attraction triggers are not influenced by logic.