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[Insecureboy]

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(Sidenote: As soon as you go all “logic” on her, y
ou have cut off the process of attraction that
you two’ve been building up.)

As a man, your behavior, and therefore your attractiveness, can change second-to-second. This alsomeans that attraction is a very fast and straightforward process. It happens within seconds.

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Also, attraction either happens or it doesn’t. She either likes you or she doesn’t. Don’t try tochange her mind if she’s not attracted. It’s done. Tyler doesn’t get crushes on girls that don’t
like him.

Objectification
(and Why It Doesn’t Wor
k)

On some level, you can sense that women look at you as an object of value, just like you may look atthem. So the tendency is to objectify yourself, turn yourself into something that has value.
SC tells us that the way to get value isn’t to become a bet
ter person, more authentic, but to:
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1. Get the job.
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2. Get the money.
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3. Become like the guy you see on TV. (He has the girls.) You see how he looks, whatproducts he uses, etc.Society has in many ways evolved to preserve social order. It is designed to give you a set ofachievable goals that you can strive towards and meet. It gives you never ending mental stimulation.Gives you the answer to everything. The unconscious assumption is that if you believe in the system,everything will be fine. Go to work, get the girls.
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Fight Club: “You are not a special snowflake
. You are not the contents of your wallet. You are
not your furniture. You are not your fucking khakis.”

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All the things society tells you to do will not inspire the confidence or qualities to get attraction
and have success with women. All it’ll do is give you a temporary fix of confidence, but not a
real set of values or self esteem.
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Society is in many ways a lot like a Hollywood movie. There’s a good guy, a bad guy, and an
ending that reinforce
s social norms. It’
s real simple
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everybody believes they’re good, theother guy’s bad, there are no differing opinions. People don’
t want to have to dig in deep orbe required to be aware all the time.
Attraction will never work by a superficial set of values
(looks,money,etc.) because, by a
superficial set of values, an attractive girl is the pinnacle of achievement. You could be a doctor that’ssaved 1000’s of lives and a 19
-year-old girl with fake tits, some nice clothes/hair, skinny because shedoes coke will have more value than you if you believe in that set of values. No matter how high yougo, you cannot win this game if you believe in SC. This game is rigged against you. YOU CANNOTWIN THIS GAME.
Social Conditioning
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Consumerism
When you buy something, like when someone buys their 12
th

pair of shoes, they aren’t buying the 12
th
pair for comfort, utility, etc, but for a little piece of self esteem for a couple weeks. You feel great forthe first couple weeks wearing a new shirt, then the feeling wears off until you buy a new one. But hasit ever occurred to you that you should feel that way ALL THE TIME?
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Best consumer: mild paranoia, confusion, no identity, no values (just wants what other peoplewant.)
There’s nothing wrong with possessions, a good

job, etc if you’re doing what you love to do andyou’re not doing it to impress anybody or live up to somebody else’s standards that you didn’t even
create. The problem is when you see a cute girl and hesitate and think you need more money, looks,etc to talk to her.


5All guys who are good at pickup understand SC on a very deep level. They look around like in thematrix and see how much everyone is affected by what other people think of them.
Spectatorism
We’re constantly looking for other people to have the glory. We’re looking at movies, 6 hr/day of TV.
People would rather watch a show about the natural environment than actually go out into wilderness.
It’s easier to watch other people.

THE GLORY IS TO BE HAD.
This is your life. Turn the TV off, turn off t
he web surfing. It’s garbage.

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Tyler believes in a life of your own design. Doesn’t worry what other people think. Life’s too
short. Do what you want, because this is all there is.
Social Conditioning
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How It Affects Your Perception of Your Value

When you see a girl you like,
your mind is processing your value to her
. Is she out of yourleague? Do you live up to her standards? Are you good enough?
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If you’re looking for other people’s standards to determine your value, you will always come
up short. Even if
you’re successful, you’re still a dumb chode that spends all his time living upto other people’s standards. You still are coming from a foundational level where you react to
other people is how you spend your days.
If you have your own standards
, and you walk up to an attractive girl and she has one of your
values (beauty for example), and you’re screening her for more, then you don’t really care what shethinks. You’re not immediately won over just because she’s attractive.
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All this is sub-communicated
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when she can sense that she’s trying to live up to your standards, and you’re not trying to live up to hers, she’s gonna be far more attracted.
(
Who’sreacting to who more? Who’s trying to get the other person’s validation?
The lower value person in any interaction looks to the higher value one to dictate their identity.)

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But most guys go up: “Please give me IOIs so that I can go into state. Tell me I’m cool.” Then
they try to live up to her values.
Living In Reaction
Lacking a crystal-clear concept of:
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1. Who you are.
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2. What you value.
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3. What you’re grateful and appreciative for.

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4. How your emotions work.
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5. What you really want out of life.
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6. Why certain influences are positive or corrupting.Say you go out and get plastic surgery or you go out and pu
rchase things that’ll impress people –

while on the surface level it feels like you’re helping yourself, on the deeper level you’re establishingthe pattern that you’re constantly living up to other people’s standards. A pattern of living in reaction
through habits of behavior.
People want the shortcut, the magic pill, they don’t want a slow, gradual process. They want tactics,not principles. We don’t want to fix the larger problem, or face the complexities. When we’re living inreaction, we’re just puttin
g a band-aid on our problem.
The Self Is Always Coming Through
When you’re a cool guy, you can say the dumbest stuff and get away with it. A different guy who isn’t
cool could do the exact same thing and get a very bad reaction.
Who he is is showing through thecracks

of what he’s physically doing.

It’s a liberating thing because you realize you don’t need to keep “doing stuff” all the time just
to attract a girl.
Also why this stuff will keep on working no matter how much media coverage it gets. You’re jus
t a
cool guy, women’s magazines can’t warn women: “Watch out for any guy that seems cool.


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Value Causes Rationalization
On one level, you have the person you think you are. The values you have. On another level, youhave your biological drives. Your biological drives are telling you to do what will be
good from theperspective of value
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There’s sometimes a tension in some situations because what would benefit us the most, selfishly,
goes against our values. The tension is resolved through
backwards rationalization
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To feel good about your emotionally motivated actions
(and feel like you’re the one in
control), we invent logical reasons for them during or after the fact. All of us do it to someextent.
Value Comes 1st
(Rationalization)

How you are perceived depends on your value.

A nice guy with low value won’t really be seen asbeing nice, but a total dick with high value who does one nice thing for a girl will make her say “He’ssuch a nice guy.”
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> Because he’s high value and the girl likes him, she will f
ind something to
rationalize why she likes him. “I like him because he’s nice.” She will impose the qualities that she
likes in men onto him unknowingly.
Some girls will say: “I don’t care if a guy has value, I just want a guy who can make me laugh / that
I
can feel a connection with.”

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But if you have value, how easy is it to make a girl laugh?
When you have enough value,sense of humor is automatic, you could do anything and the girl will laugh at it uncontrollably.Think about the popular guys in high sch
ool who said stuff that wasn’t even really objectively
funny, but everyone still laughed at it.
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And when someone has value, we pay more attention to them and see these slight little
things in common and say: “Oh, wow, we have a connection.”