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It’s why you can’t get attraction just by simply reacting well to everything she does. You haveto be the one leading the interaction. She’s following.

Chaos vs. Grounding Energy
One big part of masculine polarity is being at home in the environment.
“This is my house. This is my environment. We’re already friends.”

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Carrying yourself with total confidence and even playful cockiness.
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Asserting that what you have to say is funny, interesting and worth being heard.
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Positioning yourself as already chosen by every girl in the environment, and you are choosingthe girl that you like.


20Women draw their state from their environment,
men draw state from themselves.

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This means: you can feel happy whenever you want, it’s simply a decis
ion you have to makeabout where you want your awareness to go.
(The limitation that most guys are under is that SC tells them that constant never ending stimulation is where the happiness is.)

Exercise:
Shift your awareness from outside to your breath. Take a 4 second breath and feel it in
your hands, feet, etc. Stimulation can get you focused on “the little me” (and where you fit into it all),
but when you slow it down, your perception dilates and you feel the depth. Lets you feel good andenjoy the moment, instead of overwhelmed. You can feel good independently and not look to yourenvironment for instant gratification.
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Another way to change your state at will is through your physiology. Jump up, clap yourhands, etc will make you feel happy.
Consciousness vs. Self-Consciousness

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Consciousness, us being aware of everything aroundus, is a great gift. The problem is self-
consciousness. When we’re just conscious, that’s wheneverything flows. You can retreat into your mind to fish things out, but that’s all

that it is, don’t bealways thinking about past memories or future projections. When you’re having a great night, it’s not“I am the doer.” It’s “This is happening through me.”

The energy you need to get in state
, you’re not gonna find that by feeding off

other people’s
reactions. You bring it up from yourself.
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It’s why guys use tactics –
to get some type of positive response and pump their state up. Sowhen they get success they think it was the tactics, when it was really the state they got,which they could have had anyway if they had the ability to draw it from themselves and not
the environment. Don’t need tactics.

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In fact, Tyler believes that at some point the girl will withdraw IOIs completely to see if youare drawing state off of the environment. A dude who does will start reacting, attraction goes
down. It’ll make you feel as if when you make one little mistake, the girl goes away.
When you have a
proactive social strategy

(You act the same no matter what the social pressure or
who you’re with, not

reactive, you don’t keep changing yourself for everybody.)
, you’re making the
choice to be authentic and be yourself and let the chips fall where they may. And you realize that just
by doing that, it’ll solve 99% of your social situations automatically.

Trust In Yourself
You are responsible for yourself. Other than a couple close family members or friends that you mayhave, who will help you, the responsibility is all yours.
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Your main responsibility is holding your awareness where it counts.
If you’re a bu
siness owner, you realize quickly that the people around you have the luxury to whine
and complain, but you don’t. You can’t blame people or take responsibility on anyone other thanyourself. When you’re the leader, there is no one responsible other than y
ou. If somebody elsescrewed something up, you screwed it up. Personal responsibility and accountability is what being a
leader’s about.

Most people are constantly playing out all sorts of imaginary mental movies in their minds
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aboutpast events or possi
ble future scenarios and don’t know how to be “present” to what’s directly in frontof them. They’re looking for a way to escape, mentally.

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It’s future projections that create the anxiety.
Think about it: the moment itself is perfectlyfine
. It’s so easy to do it when the road is perfectly in front of you and you’re in the momentand you keep your focus on it as it’s unfolding. It only gets difficult when you think too far
ahead.

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You are like a plane that has a system where it can land by itself, all you have to do is
ALLOW it to. Then everything’s fine. But say you start thinking into the future that you’regonna crash and burn, then you start jerking the control. “No!” That’s like what happens whenguys “get in their own way”.
Most of your thoughts are useless and repetitive.

It’s good to think when you are acting through
your own intention,
(Ex: actively brainstorming, working on something, crunching something out, etc
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“It’s thinking time.”

But it’s not good when you are just being compulsively drawn a
round becauseyou are not able to hold your awareness where it counts


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If you had a case of amnesia, would your past events still affect you? Then why should they
now? We can learn from the past, but…

You trust in your faculty to carry you forward as the moment unfolds. You experience life more vividly
because you’re free of all the distracting, useless noise who’s only purpose is to bog you down.

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No matter what happens, you know that your mind will be presented with the right course ofaction, not before, not after, but when and only when you need it.

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It’s not a belief, it’s an understanding. You don’t have to keep telling yourself that you believe
it, no, you understand it. - It takes time to calibrate yourself.
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You don’t think of the words, you allow it to arise out of you. (Being, not doing.) You’re just
the intermediary;
don’t take credit for what comes out of your mouth.
Read Ayn Rand
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The Fountainhead + Atlas Shrugged.
Walking Through The World With Ease
Core confidence, having a strong reality, acting through your own intentions, masculine polarity andbeing present. When you take all of these and merge them you have WTTWWE.
There’s a certain way of walking through the world that is just a lot more natural.

If you’re in a
fun envi
ronment, merge into that. Don’t resist it. It’s walking with the current of the world, not
against/above/below it. Knowing you are just a necessary part of the greater whole.
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You don’t attach your identity to a
nything. Not being rich/poor, your current circumstances,etc.
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You can navigate the complexities of the world with the same certainty and understanding asyou could for just the most basic of facts, like the way you know the ground is stable and thesky is above you.
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While most people are stuck in what they fear, whining at what they think is unfair, your mind
is dialed only for what’s right in front of you. The way forward is to exist
in each moment. Theorder of things as it is is fine, but at any moment you could just break out and do whateveryou f
eel like doing, not to impress anybody, but because you feel like it and it’s something
that you enjoy.
WTTWWE allows you to be self-forgetting.
Conscious, but not self-conscious. Allows you to bespontaneous, think of what to say at the right time instead
of straining. More importantly, it’s this
foundation that makes people want to look to you.
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This is not about a technique, it’s something you are. It doesn’t mean you can just not
approach anyone or not be social.
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It’s not about egoic learning (where you read every single book and check them off your “ticklist” and think you’re not a chode anymore), this is about signposts pointing you to a better
way of being.
Being successful with women is one of those things where, once you “get it”, you will look back
inutter disbelief that you ever found it difficult.
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In any type of success, there’s like this “glass wall” between the haves and have
-nots.
The Bearings That Make Your World Make Sense
AKA your map/reality. Your view of who you are, what people are like and how they should respondto you and your view of how the world works and what is possible.
There are empowering/disempowering realities.
In a disempowering reality, the person has theirworld make sense to them and they feel comfortable, without achieving the success.
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Success Barriers
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You think that you want success, but your mind has blocks that it has put up tostop you from getting it. In getting any kind of success, the further that you push beyond what yourprevious concept of where you should
be at is, the more anxiety you’re normally gonna feel


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Ramifications of a new reality:

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1. The doubts that you have the mental energy to learn all the ins and outs.
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2. The nauseous feeling that you’re going backwards in your understanding of the world.

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3. A sort of instinct that people might not accept the new you.Whenever you decide that your idea of reality may not be what you think it is, that puts you intodisarray
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which makes your social status go down, so that’s why people may have developed an
inst
inct to ignore outside input. It’s better to be confident and wrong than uncertain.

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Having to reconsider your reality is stressful on you, that’s why when it expands so much youeither feel like you need to take a nap or you can’t sleep.
As far as your mind is concerned, your perception of reality does not have to be objective, it just hasto be accurate enough to keep you going and alive.
Most people are not too concerned withobjectivity.

Otherwise we’d be seeing all sorts of random particles and energies
in the air that have
nothing to do with our survival. Flawed or not, if it’s kept us alive so far, it’s easier to go deeper into
the existing reality than deal with the headaches of thinking through a more complex view of reality
Strength Of Reality (Expanded)To make their reality stronger, what some people will do is link up one belief with anotherbelief.

“Of course this is true, because before I did x, and that relates to y.”

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We are continually seeking validation of our existing beliefs. People want to find out theywere right all along, not wrong.
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Some people are not capable of having a shift in their thinking because you would bethreatening too much. If one belief turned out to be wrong, it was attached to a bunch of
others. So now they’re stuck. Thi
s is usually what creates difficult people to get along with.
So people develop blind spots.

A guy who has strong beliefs and thinks he’s god’s gift to womenwill have many blind spots and his state won’t go down when he gets negative reactions, because it

doesn’t fit into his reality.

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But someone who has weaker beliefs will have less blind spots. They’ll see how people areactually reacting, and are affected if it’s a negative reaction. They are addicted to response,
total social calibration, and most people who have it get shy. Sometimes, they get creativeand come up with the perfect line for every situation, (if she says this/gives a certain reaction,
then you say this, and it’s all good.) But if he doesn’t get the reaction, his state drops.

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There are pros and cons to both. One dude of the first type could be socially out of step andget blown off, other dude could get bad reaction, have a good comeback, and stick in.
The “Third” Guy

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He can see the negative social feedback, but not focus on it. It’s a m
ix, redefines
our concept of a strong reality because it is simultaneously strong + weak. It’s “be like water”, you are
adaptable. A strong, but flexible belief system.People do this all the time.The ability to quickly sift through ideas and either take them on or reject them is actually a strengthand a skill. The more adaptable you are in allowing conflicting or paradoxical realities to exist in yourmind without being shut down by them,
the more readily you can jump between maps
, and whereother people would fall flat on their face, you will stand.
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Ex:
You know that people rationalize value, what’s best for them, but there’s also the belief
that you want to believe the best in all individuals, even see yourself in them. The people who
see everything through the lens of “The Selfish Gene”, value, etc. tend to be so…empty. So
you have to hold the paradoxical realities in your mind without having to resolve them or haveeverything make sense
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because concepts are limited, they are not reality.
(The map is not the territory.)

From an evolutionary perspective, your mind doesn’t care if your life sucks.

You’re not gonnadie, so it doesn’t matter.


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Everybody says they would want to be the alpha wolf when asked, but bein
g the alpha isn’t
all only good. He has to expend more energy, is responsible for the groups survival, has tohold down competition for the alpha role.
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When you raise your social value, you’re gonna get conflict and haters. They hate that you
have success
when they don’t, so they find little things to focus on that are true, then blow
them out of proportion and rationalize hating you this way.