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So your mind does not want you to get high status. It’s pretty good living being a beta male,
while being that outgoing guy you have to expend more energy. Your friends may not like youanymore.
Leader of Men vs. Wandering Nomad theory.
There are 2 types of guys who get laid a lot. One isthe alpha, leader of men. The other is the wandering nomad
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women seem to be attracted to guyswho have something genetically different about them, like an accent. The genetic reason for this maybe because they want to bring in new genes
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it would have been good for the tribe.
Bootcamp Revelation
Guys would go on program, get great
results, and then bitch and whine later that they didn’t do good.

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Why? If a guy’s reality is that he’s not good with women and 4/10 approaches go well, theninstead of focusing on the 4 that went well, he’s gonna focus on the bad. Whereas a guy who
believe
s he’s good may only do 2/10 and focus on the 2. Reticular activation system –

they’re
validating their map of reality.
See the best in other yourself and see the best in other people.
Cut yourself a ton of slack. Whenyou see the best in other people, you assume they are seeing the best in you. That becomes a part ofyour reality


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Success Barriers
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Success barriers means you think you want something, but if you got it right now you may notbe able to psychologically handle it.

(Ex: Being president seems like a good thing, but it would mean not only having a few people ripping on you, but whole channels dedicated to it.)

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If you think a girl’s more attractive than you perceive yourself as being, then you’re gonna
become outcome-
dependent and needy. If your unconscious mind understands that you’d bedevastated by being broken up with, then it’s gonna self
-sabotage and try to put you into a
situation where you wouldn’t even get the relationship in the first place.
But
being in a position of high status is easy once you understand it, it’s no more difficult than being ina position of low status. In fact, once you’ve completely come into alignment with it, it’s actually easier
than being low status and dealing with all t
he self hate and mediocrity that goes with that. It’s getting
there and dealing with all the new headaches of social pressure is where the success barriers comein.
Put yourself into a position where mistakes will occur.

(Ex: Tyler had to screw up several relationships with hot girls in the beginning because he still had insecurities. But the important thing was, he let himself get far enough to screw up
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most guys won’t even get that far.)

This Seminar Won’t “Fix” You

Just hearing “be in the moment” won’t

make you get it. But if you go out, you’ll start to see theconnections between when you do bad and times when you do good, and in a year’s time you’ll be a
lot less in your head than you used to be. The ratio of time you spend in the zone that you want to bein will slowly tilt in your favor.This stuff takes time. You may think that the destination you want to get to is great, and getting thereis the bad part
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that’s not really true. Life is about moving towards that core self and authenticity, and
the journey that you take to get there -
that’s meant to be enjoyed. Even if it’s difficult, man, that’s
your life.
Anticipated Responses / Assumptions
Everyone has a reality of how they expect to be treated. How you expect the world to respond to you.This is the core of natural game.
You could really make an argument that this is what it’s all about.

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1. Whether a person of your status can be expected to be treated badly or well.
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2. Whether people are generally trustworthy or manipulative, friendly or mean.
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. Whether there’s an abundancy or scarcity of people in the world who could like you.
Ask yourself:
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Do I like myself?
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Would I hang out with somebody like myself?
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If I saw a guy who looked like me with a really attractive girl, would I be like “What’s thatabout?” or would I be like “Of course he’s with her.”

(
RSD calls it “when you believe that a girl could like you just for you.”
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People are always doing things to cause their anticipated responses to come true.

(Ex: A girl who has low self esteem and her a
nticipated response is that attractive guys won’t like her –
will blow off guys that approach her more than an attractive girl.
She’ll have behaviors that keep her model of
reality intact. A self-fulfilling prophecy. On the other hand, a girl who thinks sh
e’s attractive who then
meets a guy who shows no interest is gonna start flirting with him.)

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Someone who believes that the world is a friendly place and everyone is his friend is gonnahave all these little behaviors that reinforce his reality.People are always trying to maintain their reality. They are trying to make their world make sense.
They’re not willing to shake up their reality, they don’t want to take on the new bearings.
They
’re
maintain their reality by seeing everything through a lens.
Take the fucking lenses off! Allowyourself to experience reality head on


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People will go home believing The Blueprint, find an example that contradicts this program(which inevitably you have to because the world is always shifting around), what a lot ofpeople
do is say “No, that has to go with that principle I learned at The Blueprint.” –

but that’s
exactly what Tyler is trying to teach you NOT to do.
He could spend 4 years coming up with
the most accurate map, but it still wouldn’t be reality. The map is not t
he terrain.

Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
When, by the strength of your beliefs, the reality that is stored up in your head becomes the reality ofyour actual life.
This happens because your mind is always seeking out evidence, even if it’s obscure, to reinforc
eyour existing beliefs, and because of the confidence you have in those beliefs, you draw people into
your reality and inadvertently get them to act in ways that they don’t expect.

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If you approach a girl and fully believe that she’s friendly, of course there’s a 95% chance thatshe’s gonna be super
-friendly. You can tell when someone expects everyone else to be
friendly (ex: hot girl) to them vs. someone who doesn’t just by looking at them.
If someone tries to tool you, by calling you a smarty pants, etc
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there’s 2 ways you can interpret it:

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Many people interpret that being called “smarty pants” makes them feel bad. They lose a bit
of state and at some level, the other people can feel it and feel that they called you out and itreinforces the reality in th
e other people’s minds that they were correct.

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On the other hand, if you don’t care, think it’s fun, and you treat it as if it was a joke, itreinforces the idea in the other people’s minds that they were just joking all along.
-> The strongest reality win
s, you don’t have to have the best comeback or the better answer all the
time.

Anything that you don’t like in your life, you don’t have to acknowledge it. You only have to
acknowledge the reality that you want and then the self-fulfilling prophecy comes to exist.
Micro Behaviors
Things much more subtle than most sub-communication.
(Ex: Like when you can look a girl in the
eye, and your eyes hold steady, shows you are not running through images in your head. You’re
outside your head.)
You CANNOT consciously control or understand most of these like you can with sub-communication.
You can’t and you don’t need to –

it flows from state/within, and when you are flowing, it’s all handled
for you automatically. All that you need to know is how to flow.
Congruence
If you have full belief
in the anticipated responses you know you’re gonna get, that’s gonna drive your micro behaviors, and it’s what makes you really, really good at this.
You’re fully assuming that what
you want is the reaction to be is gonna happen.

Ex:
When you’re telling a story, you can make a girl laugh on the spots on the story that you want her to laugh just by believing that she’s gonna laugh. It’s like this vibe.

Flinching
(Or Retreating Into Your Mind)
When you doubt yourself, it’s
gonna blow your anticipated responses. If you retreat into your head,the great
assumptions you have won’t work.
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> You’ll come off as creepy.
This knowledge (The Blueprint) can both help you or hurt you. Can help by letting you see the socialphenomena and do stuff yo
u couldn’t previously do. But it could hurt you if you’re
going through life
constantly asking yourself: “Do I have the stronger reality here?”, “Am I retreating into my head?

…oops, I guess I am.”

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The solution is that we can look at it with a large scope or a much simpler one, which
is “HAVE FUN”.

When you’re in the science lab, be a scientist. When you’re out, be aperson. It’s perfectly fine to teach and learn this stuff because it helps us, but

if we’re thinkingabout it when we’re out, that’s only going to go against us. And isn’t there a funny irony there
that in working to understand social dynamics more subtly, you could actually become lesssocially savvy? You could become less socially skilled and lose that coolness about you.


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when you’re focused on
it too much. You have to be able to disconnect yourself from it whenyou go out.
Giving Value
If you believe that women don’t enjoy sex as much as men do, if not more, then when you’re callingthat girl over, you’re gonna feel like you’re taking value, like you’re trying to trick her into something.
Having a high level of integrity as a person and knowing that you always offer value to the people thatyou interact with is gonna allow you to come across so much stronger.
How To Fully Believe In Yourself:
When we learn new bearings like now, we have not developed the reference experiences yet that wecould trust in them.The process
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1. You’re learning the ins and out of how the new behavior works.

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2. You’re gathering evidence. Looking at what other people are doing and you’re
experimenting.
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3. You eventually get it to the point where you don’t have to think about it anymore. You have
fully trusted in the bearings. Your mind has gone through the process and you now have ananticipated response, new assumptions. This is called internalization.
Internalization

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the process of trial-and-error that you have to go through to create an assumptionthat you never have to think about ever again. For something to be internalized:
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1
. You do it naturally.
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2
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You’re in the moment when you do it, because it doesn’t require any thought.

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3
. You never have to think about it ever again.
Your beliefs/assumptions about what will happen if you approach a stranger are, unless you’ve done
it hundreds of times, second-
hand knowledge. It’s the same as jumping out of an airplane

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you think
you know what would happen, but it’s based on second
-hand knowledge. Unless you really tried, you
don’t know. But because most SC says that you can’t, you don’t try.

Newbie’s Paradox

A newbie, if he’s not confident when he’s approaching, is gonna get bad results/negative evidence.
The paradox is that, in order to get that unwavering belief, you need reference experiences inorder to believe it.

But you can’t get the r
eference experiences without the unwavering belief a lot ofthe time.
To have unwavering belief you have to get to a point where…

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1. You fully assume that what you’re gonna do is gonna work and…

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2. You have to be totally indifferent to the odd times that i
t doesn’t.

…That’s how it’s gonna be totally relaxed, natural and congruent when you approach. There’s no

pride attached to it. It’s just a funny thing to do, and you know that anybody else could figure it out if they were to try. You can’t make an identit
y out of it, believing that you can do all this stuff other
people can’t. Don’t make it a big deal –

you shouldn’t have this false sense of superiority just cause
you know how to approach women.
Ego Defense Mechanism
Telling a newbie to go approach a woman
is a lot like telling him to go walk into a wall. There’s alwaysa little dip as he’s approaching
, that little bit of flinch. That self-
protection. It’s like dipping your toesinto the pond to see if it’s warm vs. JUMPING IN. It’s an inability to put your
real personality on theline.Ego Defense Mechanism