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[Insecureboy]

Logical evidence
:
“
I got this girl, this one, that one.
”

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People
’
s opinions
: You try to
“
find yourself
”
in other people
’
s opinions.
►

Rationalizations
:
“
This person
’
s such a dick and the only reason other people like him isbecause they
’
re stupid.
”
Everybody has a story (connected to other stories, etc.) to come upwith their sense of self.
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Comparisons
: Life is about the unknown (no one knows where the universe is, whetherwe
’
re actually alive, what happens when we
’
re dead, etc.), but what the ego does is it tries toshelter us from the unknown through labels/judgments/comparisons. Tells us
“
I know theenvironment
”
and tries to shelter us from the very frightening truth that we are constantly inthe unknown. Our mind says
“
we have to find a context.
”
Human life is absurd in that we create relationships, do amazing things, all to eventually die. Life willend.
Ernest Beckert:
“
The fact that someday we
’
re gonna die leads to a denial of death where we can begin to view the world as an arena for heroism.
”
The ego always wants to kick the next man down so you can show why you
’
re better. Because it
’
salways looking for context, it has to show that you
’
re more real/tangible.
“
I want to be the best.
”

►
It leads to looking your whole life at the surface of things and not the depth. A life of runningaround, trying to figure out who you are, to heal that wound.
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But you later realize:
“
The more personal the wound, the more universal the wound.
”
We all have stories:
“
This happened to me, this is my identity
”
, but look at all these girls wholike me, the good responses I can generate.
The ego is unsustainable because you always have to have reference material to validate it.
It
’
s a black hole that creates neediness. You need evidence that those old wounds don
’
t matteranymore.
►
Are you shaping your reality from this desperate feeling of lack or are you doing it for thesake of right action? To feel the flow of creativity or to deny the unknown?


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The now is the only moment there ever is

–
do not seek happiness in the future, it
’
s now. The waythat you feel now, this is it.
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We
’
re taught from an early age to go to school -> high school -> college -> job -> and whenwe retire is the glory. Like a
“
deferred life plan
”
. We
’
re always taught to measure/gradeourselves and
get to the next thing, get to the future
.
►
Once you realize, yes there
’
s a future, but this moment is it, then the concept of time becomeirrelevant. There
’
s no real use for time.The result can never be as good as the doing. The now. If happiness is default, there
’
s no differencewhen you get something. It
’
s all the same thing.
Offering value to people is the best thing you could ever do.

Value Givers and Value Takers
(Tyler
’s “Method”)

Whenever you
’
re operating through the ego and you
’
re trying to get someone to react to you, that istaking value. When someone is trying to self-seek by manipulating your reactions, you can sense it.
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But when you
’
re authentic and you
’
re just offering value, it
’
s amazing how people willrespond. Don
’
t make your criteria for success
“
how they responded
”
. Your only criteria is youput yourself out there and were true to yourself, just said what you though in the moment.Whenever you
’
re just trying to add value, that
’
s an attractant. Take value = repellant.The Formula: Everyone is unique, that
’
s their inherent value. And since we have a socially createdreality we always enjoy interacting with people. But if they
’
re giving you knowledge in order togenerate reactions, that
’
s not really giving you authentic knowledge/perspective/vibes = no valuegiving.
Self-amusement

–
you say things that
’
ll pump your own state, not like most other guys who arethinking
“
What will she respond to best?
”
Say things you find funny, even if they
’
re ridiculous. As longas what you
’
re doing amuses you.When you
’
re bringing the party, she
’
s interested, when you
’
re trying to wedge your way into her party,she
’
s repelled.
Emotional state is your full cup.
Your centeredness is your value to a woman as aman.
Ego
(cont
…)

Ego starts with the wound at a young age, and you rationalize your identity/uniqueness is that,
BUTIN REALITY WE ALL HAVE WOUNDS.You have to accept both your good and your bad
. Accept that the more personal it is the moreuniversal it is, and you have to accept the wound.It
’
s when you can look past the surface/glitz/glamour, look past that and realize that we
’
re all human,there
’
s a click that takes place and you become comfortable in your own skin.
Authenticity
Everyone was born fine, happy, but them something happened that moved you away from that.
Butyou can re-find that self-esteem.
Anything that you think that is bad about you, without self-esteem, is an embarrassment, but whenyou have self-esteem, they
’
re endearing quirks.
The self is always coming through.