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Mark Manson (Entropy) - Newbie Guide to PUA Development
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2013-05-02,18:28,
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Mark Manson (Entropy) - Newbie Guide to PUA Development
About two and a half years ago, I wrote a post titled The Newbie Guide to PUA Development. It was designed to give newbies a blueprint to follow to help them improve and succeed as quickly as possible. It became widely popular, being stickied on various forums around the world and garnering tens of thousands of views and hundreds of replies.
This is a much-needed update and revision to that first document. Information and theory in the PUA industry has evolved quite a bit since early 2008. Not to mention my own understanding of people's development. There's a lot of information out there to sift through and a lot of people telling you that THEIR way is the CORRECT way. The truth is, developing your skills with women is a personal journey, and everyone is going to gravitate towards their own style and interests. But there are some common sign posts that we all pass along the way which I hope to elucidate here. This is my best attempt of organizing everything out there into a comprehensible "big picture" format to base your learning around. Focus is on what types of practice and action you should be taking, not just theory. Finally, as I said in the last version of this document, the common denominator in everyone's success with this stuff is the same as it is with any other skill-set: the effort you put in and your willingness to change your behavior. Nothing written below will mean anything to you if you're not willing to humble yourself enough to learn or put in the necessary effort to achieve the results you want. A few notes before we begin:
[SIZE="3"]Stage 1: Newbie[/SIZE] Experience: Varies widely. Commonalities usually includes being very passive and supplicant, failed relationships or complete lack of relationships in the past. Social skills range from decent to abysmal. Personal lifestyle ranges from very strong to very weak. Purpose: To educate himself and try just enough to figure out what works for him and what doesn't. Average Timeframe: 0 - 6 Months We all come from very different backgrounds. From 18-year-old high school students to 55-year-old retired professors. Divorcees and virgins. Engineers and artists. Every country, all walks of life, rich or poor. Some of us come wanting a new girlfriend/wife. Others want to fuck everything that will stop and let us. Either way, the idea that we all should be taught the same thing or that there's a one-size-fits-all-formula is ridiculous. As a newbie, you must take it upon yourself to educate yourself as much as possible and then experiment enough to understand what works well for you and what doesn't. Everything out there is "right" in one way or another -- in that it worked for the author. But that doesn't mean it will necessarily work for you. So you must try it out and see how it feels. It's also your responsibility to get your baseline lifestyle in order to even give yourself a chance to meet and attract new women.
Recommended Products for Newbies:
[SIZE="3"]Stage 2: Intermediate[/SIZE] Experience: Able to open and hook many sets. Can consistently get phone numbers when going out. Has a solid understanding of basic pick up theory. Has been going out for a few months. Has probably gotten laid a few times, although it's very inconsistent and feels "lucky." Most importantly, understands what works for him and is able to focus on that. Purpose: To improve their results from inconsistent to consistent. Average Timeframe: 6 Months - 2 Years Guys in the intermediate stage can often be deceiving and to an untrained eye often appear better than they actually are. They can open and hook many sets, often in a very charming and exciting manner, and to most civilians and newbies this looks very impressive. Unfortunately, they don't get laid often and when they do, it's usually because the girl is very easy and/or she puts in most of the effort escalating. A lot of intermediate guys start believing they're better than they are as well, and often begin coaching. Which is fine, as long as they're coaching newbies. Intermediate guy's worst enemy is lack of persistence. His lack of persistence comes from the fact that he's still somewhat sexually inexperienced and he hasn't developed much emotional resilience to the unforgiving ups and downs of chasing women. Intermediate guys often complain of their state. They also often eject too often congratulating themselves that they got a girl attracted to them or a make-out, yet not having the balls or persistence to take things sexual. Intermediate guys have the fundamentals under their belt and have a good understanding of what works with their personality and purpose. Now it's just a matter of honing that into results on a consistent basis.
Recommended products for Intermediate guys:
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2013-05-02,18:29,
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Mark Manson (Entropy) - Newbie Guide to PUA Development
[SIZE="3"]Stage 3: Advanced[/SIZE]
Experience: Can get results with some consistency. Almost always has sexual options. Has had and maintained multiple casual relationships. Has 20-30 lays under his belt. Is versatile in that he can meet and seduce women in many situations (day and night) and in various ways (direct and indirect). Able to travel to a different city or country and fares a solid chance of picking up a woman there in a short amount of time. Purpose: To come to terms with the emotional realities of their social and sex life. Average Timeframe: 2 Years - 5 Years Advanced guys are what we used to refer to as "mPUA's" back in the day. They get laid. They usually get laid a lot. And when they talk about it, it's immediately apparent that it's true. They've gotten laid and dated girls in a wide enough variety of circumstances that they can formulate some pretty deep thinking about the topic and about their own success. These days, guys either start coaching when they hit this stage -- if they didn't already start as an Intermediate ("ZOMG! He approaches so many girls!") -- or they slowly remove themselves from the community. For years and years, our metric for success was little more than lay count, and perhaps looks of the women involved. As such, advanced guys have been treated as the pinnacle of seduction until very recently. Luckily, as more time goes on and more is understood and the more we all evolve, this mentality is falling by the wayside. Racking up a ton of lays (some guys up into multiple hundreds) is not only being seen more and more as a bit excessive, but some times as a compensation. The easiest way to explain the plight of the advanced guy is to sum it up like this: self image and identity always lag behind how we actually are. Fat people who lose 80 pounds usually still perceive themselves as fat for years afterward. Well, guys who all the sudden rack up 35 lays and a few girlfriends over two years still feel themselves to be that nerdy loser who couldn't get a kiss if his life depended on it. This causes some serious internal dissonance and often erupts in behavior that's self-sabotaging, misogynistic, or painfully over-compensating. Their emotional self or what's sometimes referred to as "core confidence" hasn't caught up to their outer results. And this actually causes a number of problems. The biggest problem is that most guys who reach this stage (very few, maybe 1% of guys who join the community) do so because they're driven by something deep down. Often it's some sort of emotional issue, past trauma, or baggage from their life. Learning to get this good with women -- and let's be honest, learning how to go out and bang 100 women is not a reasonable use of one's time by most of the world's standards -- it usually comes from some sort of emotional quirk. Advanced guys are forced to face this quirk eventually. I can tell you from experience, the rush and the validation from banging more women eventually runs out. Eventually you hit a point where sleeping with number 87 makes you feel absolutely NO different than you felt after 86. They become interchangeable faces and ironically, might as well all be the same vagina for all you care. Once this happens, once the need for validation and affection runs its course, you're faced to confront what's actually driving you in your sexual deviance. Most guys realize that they've been compensating for their lack of masculinity. Some realize that they have issues with mom. Some realize that they've been exacting emotional revenge for the bitch that cheated on them and dumped them. Some of these guys have some sort of neuroses or compulsive disorder. Some are actually sex addicts (seriously). Either way, the next step is to confront this original impetus and resolve it. If you're the domineering and compensating short guy, it's time to chill out and realize that you don't have to prove yourself anymore. If you have some strange obsession with female attention because of your family life, it's time to let it go. If you have some neurosis that causes you to constantly seek validation from people, then you need to come to terms with that. In my experience, this can't really be forced. Some guys figure it out pretty quickly and confront it. Some guys need to sleep with 50 girls to get their fill before they start realizing that they need to chill out. Some guys need to go nuts for years and bang 200 or more and have dozens and dozens of relationships blow up in their face before they finally confront. It's a different pace for everyone, and unfortunately, I've met a number of guys who seem perpetually stuck here indefinitely (they're fucking amazing in-field though).
Recommendations for Advanced guys:
[SIZE="3"]Stage 4: Integrated[/SIZE] Experience: Has more than his share of notches on his bedpost (probably at least 50-100). Has experienced the ecstasies of serious multi-year relationships, the excitement of one night stands, and appreciates them both. He's integrated his love and pursuit of women with his emotional desires. He's more or less impervious to rejection as he sees it as women screening themselves out of his life. He's experienced a wide variety of women of all ages, backgrounds, cultures and personalities and is pretty clear on what he enjoys and likes. Purpose: To organize his lifestyle as best possible to efficiently screen for the women who will make him happiest. Average Timeframe: 5+ Years Eventually you come to a point where the behavior you've spent so long studying and practicing is simply integrated into your being. You may still push yourself here and there, but women come through your life fairly naturally and you know how to capitalize on opportunities. As an integrated man, you no longer have a pressing emotional need driving your seduction. An integrated man is cool with one night stands, but he's not necessarily looking for them. He's also cool with a long-term monogamous relationship, but he's not necessarily looking for that either. He's open to everything yet seeking nothing. His actions are based upon what he wants, not what the each woman he meets wants. The clear cut sign that you've made it to this phase is that you regularly turn down women that you're pretty confident you could sleep with if you wanted to. In fact, you probably turn down five to ten women for each one you end up with. The reasons can vary widely, anything from looks to personality, to a lack of emotional interest, to logistical issues. You've gone from trying to be chosen to the one doing the choosing. You no longer seek to meet women's standards but seek women who meet your own. Whereas a newbie will walk into a bar and be grateful to have ANY girl in it, the integrated man will often walk into a bar, talk to the few he finds physically attractive and find he has no interest in any of them. The crux of the matter is that you no longer receive validation from sex or women's attention, therefore you're free to exercise 100% command and control of your interactions and which women you allow into your life. The problem for the Integrated Man is finding a woman who meets his ridiculously high (and hard-earned) standards. He's done everything and slept with everyone. He knows what he likes and sets about to get it. The name of the game changes from effort (as a newbie or intermediate) to effort versus reward. An integrated man isn't willing to spend his valuable time chasing a woman who he's fairly sure he won't enjoy his time with that much. Since effort/reward is the new name of the game, the goal has changed from persistence to efficiency. The integrated man invites rejection and experiences it regularly. Everything is a screening process, and everything he does and lives is designed for the qualities he's looking for in women. He loves artsy girls? He schedules his life around concerts and gallery showings and immediately screens for women with his similar interests. If he's looking for intelligent women, he'll purposely speak very rationally and logically about in-depth topics to weed out the ditzes and party girls. This is far easier said than done and is a constantly ongoing process. This isn't to say that the integrated man has flawless game... he usually hasn't mastered everything. But he's experienced to the point where he knows his strengths and weaknesses and knows how to use what he's got to get what he wants. Another progression to look at is newbies usually focus on day game because of it's ease and how casual it is. Intermediate guys and advanced guys usually focus on night game because it's the most challenging, makes you improve the fastest and rewards you with sex the quickest and in exciting fashion. Integrated men focus on lifestyle and social circle. They realize that the odds of meeting a woman who meets their criteria in a random bar is fairly low and that the effort required for even a one night stand with most women no longer seems worth the meager amount of excitement (and mediocre sex). He realizes that the most significant relationships one can have -- casual or not -- are borne out of similar interests and social connections, and therefore he spends his time positioning his lifestyle in such a way that it automatically attracts the appropriate women into his life. Whether this is starting a band, learning photography, becoming a teacher, or whatever. They then use their strong pick up skills to convert these high quality women with a startling consistency. By this stage, integrated men have usually developed their lifestyle to a high enough point that it makes them incredibly attractive in their own right. They also understand that the constant approach-a-thon of classic pick up is a hamster wheel -- designed only to train your muscles, not to actually get you to a real destination. Fulfillment comes from emotional connections and shared experience, not accomplishments and notches birthed from hundreds of nights out at the club. About the Author Entropy has been a part of the PUA community since 2005 and coaching since 2007. You can learn more about him at http://www.entropypua.com/blog If you got something out of this document, I encourage you to email it to others, post it to other forums (if not sticky it) so that others may gain from it as well. Please do not edit it. Thank you. |
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2013-05-03,13:41,
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Mark Manson (Entropy) - Newbie Guide to PUA Development
RIKTIGT bra skit
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2013-05-03,14:31,
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Mark Manson (Entropy) - Newbie Guide to PUA Development
Hmm, kände igen mig i intermidate, advanced och intergrated, vissa delar i varje. Verkar som han som skrivit det förutsätter att alla som börjar med PU är totalt losers innan de börjar med PU, vilket inte stämmer in på mig eller de flesta jag känner som håller på med PU.
Förstår inte rktigt va för nytta man har av denna text TBH |
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2013-05-03,14:52,
Inlägg: #5
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Mark Manson (Entropy) - Newbie Guide to PUA Development
illdan Skrev:Hmm, kände igen mig i intermidate, advanced och intergrated, vissa delar i varje. Verkar som han som skrivit det förutsätter att alla som börjar med PU är totalt losers innan de börjar med PU, vilket inte stämmer in på mig eller de flesta jag känner som håller på med PU. han skrev ju att vissa kommer känna igen sig i flera delar beroende på vad man tänker på jag kände igen mig jävligt mkt mestadels i intermediate, och fick ett par insikter i hur jag ska ta mig vidare i utvecklingen, tyckte det var fett bra faktiskt =) |
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2013-05-27,22:45,
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Mark Manson (Entropy) - Newbie Guide to PUA Development
mmm diggade den, gav lite insikt. Tack för att du delade med dig.
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2015-11-15,00:49,
(Detta inlägg ändrades senast: 2015-11-15,00:53 av {2} ångest101.)
Inlägg: #7
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RE: Mark Manson (Entropy) - Newbie Guide to PUA Development
Bumpar denna, ger en jävligt bra fingervisning. Lätt att ta till sig om man gillar "models" boken. Dom olika "stagen" stämmer förvånansvärt bra för många verkar det som. Det är ju ingen sanning direkt, men jag ser den som en bra skiss helt enkelt
Motiverade artikel då man på ett enkelt vis kan se "vart är jag ungefär nu, vart vill jag komma, vad är rekommendationer för att nå dit" |
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2015-11-18,16:46,
Inlägg: #8
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RE: Mark Manson (Entropy) - Newbie Guide to PUA Development
Skummade igenom lite snabbt, sjukt bra text. Generaliserande men tror dom flesta kan relatera till diverse stadier och vilka problem man bumpar in på. Alla män möter ju samma hinder bara på olika sätt och vid olika tidpunkter/kombinationer.
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2016-11-23,15:58,
Inlägg: #9
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RE: Mark Manson (Entropy) - Newbie Guide to PUA Development
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