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[Insecureboy]

2. I’m

chatting you because I’m
having fun. Girls aresilly/adorable/fun to be around, and
I’m chatting you. That’s it.

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3. I am totally fulfilled in everything.I have everything I need.
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4. You seem cool, and if you turnout different from the other girls, wemight hang out.
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5. When I want something I take it,
but for now I’m just chatting and
having fun.
How to tell who has a stronger reality in an interaction:
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Who is Screening vs. Qualifying
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who is trying/reacting more in the interaction? Can beobvious (trying to impress) or very subtle (who is going into their head more and exertingmore effort?) ->
There’s no “tactic” for this. The self is always coming through. Ex: Even if you are talking more than her maybe you’re just in a blabbermouth mood and she’s t
rying to impress you by seeming aloof.


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Who is emotionally affected by the other person’s acceptance, and who would feel no
change?
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Who is losing their concept of what’s cool and who feels no change?

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Who is changing the way that they normally talk in order to keep up and who is setting thetone of the conversation?
(Ex
: White guys who start talking gangsta, “Yo”, if around a cooler
dude who does it all the time.)

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Who would be having just as much fun if the other person wasn’t there and who would feel
like th
ey’re getting kicked out of the warm end of the pool?
The ability to amuse yourself is
one of the most attractive qualities anyone can have, because it’s gonna eradicate thehighest level of neediness and you’re the party.

Being Unreactive
By feeling good,
you’re not feeling that pull of neediness and it allows you to be unreactive.
Neediness makes you react. By not allowing your own behaviors and emotions to be thrown off by
the other person’s reality, you are being the most unreactive.

This DOESN’T mean b
eing unresponsive or inexpressive.

It’s about being yourself, responding to
the world, but on your own terms. Another way of looking at being unreactive is acting through yourown intentions. When a girl tries to push you into the role of chasing/impressin
g her, you don’t allowthat into your reality. You don’t react to that as being a part of your reality.

THE KEY:
You stay positive, upbeat and being you, and draw her into that good reality and state that
you’re in. “Not only do I not put up with negativity, I don’t even realize that negativity exists, becauseI’ve never seen it.”
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> It’s outside of your reality, like trying to fit a square block into a circular hole.

Trust In Your Faculties
Most people need to be told what to do by watching others, they do not have the muscle to go off offirst-hand experience.
When a girl tests you (Ex: “Ew, you have a hairy back. That’s nasty.”), you have to remain unreactive.
Think about it
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does the girl care about the actual aspect of you or does she really care about
how itaffects you?
If it bothers you or causes you to react?
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You only react to people you perceive as having higher value than you
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would you be
bothered if a mentally ill homeless person said “You’re a meanie”?

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By reacting when someone criticizes you and keeping talking and convincing other people
that you aren’t what they said, you are showing that the other person is obviously in your RAS and high status to you. You’re giving your power away when you react too strongly to
criticism.
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Basically it says
“I don’t value my own faculties highly enough to take my own opinion of myself over somebody else’s. I need other people to believe what I believe
in order to make it
real. I value other people’s opinions more highly than I value my own.” You have no trust
inyour faculties


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The Formula:
(Dominant Reality)

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Most people’s views of reality are very subjective and always up for grabs, when you have
the dominant reality people will tend to look to you. Usually people are always pinging, whilea guy with
a strong reality isn’t
(much):
…But as they start to accept the dominant reality, it gets imposed because of absolute certainty:

…Most people are always looking to others and seeking out certainty
.So if you believe that whatever limitation you have (looks, money, etc) is a shortcoming, then it is. But
if you believe that it’s no big deal and completely arbitrary, then it’s not. If you want to fix something
about yourself, then do it for you, but realize that
it’s you who decides whether it’s an issue or not.

When you take a woman out, you have to bring her into your reality.
Most guys have it
backwards, they try to think “what would she like?”

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She’s gonna take a journey into many guy’s realities a
nd stay in the one that gives her themost good emotions. Let her mess/play around in your reality, which is 100x more exciting
than what every other guy is doing. That’s what she wants.


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The 4 Pillars Of A Strong Reality1. Who you are.
Your identity.
2. Your values.

Taste/opinions. When you have these, you’re not mesmerized by superficial
qualities. You become a naturally screening person.
3. Personal boundaries.

Strong sense of what’s acceptable in your reality/what’s not.

4. How you expect people to act around you.
Whatever price tag you put on yourself is your price.Other Factors:
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How strong your beliefs are.
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How much your beliefs influence people to think and act how you expect.
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How little your beliefs depend on the people around you to reinforce them.
Strength Of Reality Is A Muscle
The strength of your reality is a muscle
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becomes stronger as you get more centered, as you getmore experiences.
Just like a muscle, you have to break it down first by putting yourself into situations that testyour sense of reality.
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A man always has to be leaning into his fears, pushing his fears, or else he’s s
tagnating.Living on your edge.
Progressive desensitization and GO OUT
is the process to become a good PUA. Any night out
where you’ve accumulated new reference experiences is a good night. That’s why you try the
difficult/challenging approaches, the ones that intimidate you.
Imagine yourself in your most pimp image, when you feel best, and LAUGH AT IT
. You have tolearn to laugh at yourself and let that image go. Let go of trying to control what other people think ofyou. LET GO. Express yourself freely without thinking that you have something to lose.
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When you get shot down and feel humiliated, the big pimp image dies, so you learn to stoplooking to second-hand opinions to validate your sense of self. You stop self-seeking in other
people’s reactions to you.
“The more fire you blast onto you, the more it melts off all the shit around your core.”

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With every inch by painstaking inch, you COME INTO YOUR POWER.
Coming Into Your Power
You make internal and external distinctions whenyou do this.
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External: what her reactions mean, what
you should/shouldn’t say.

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Internal: Not being stuck in your head,not sheltering yourself with existing
beliefs/assumptions, and being “
in the
moment”, dynamic.
You learn how youneed to be in your head.
What
thoughts you allow/don’t allow in your
head.
This is about where you are moving towardson a day-to-day basis.
Every day, you have toask yourself if you are growing and leaning intoyour fears or not.


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Masculine / Feminine Polarity
Very attractive woman will respond to a man who has a stronger reality than her.
Masculine polarity is your grounding amidst the emotional chaos.
It is the magnet that drawswomen towards you in the form of your deepest self esteem. Total trust in your faculties and ability todetermine reality.
(Ex: not value scanning.)

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1. Acting only through your own intentions.
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2. Being entirely uncontrollable and above manipulation.
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3. Dictating the reality around you rather than being affected by it.
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4. Being in the moment and walking through the world with ease.
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5. Having absolutely no intimidation of the girl or the world whatsoever.
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6. Tapping into the energy inside you, not around you, as a source of your mood.
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7. Feeling no spikes or lulls of self esteem from any girls’ responses to you. You might gain or
lose attraction, but it does not affect your sense of who you are.

When you go out, and you’re thinking of some complex
explanation about
what’s happening, there’s 2 words to
simplify it
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HAVE FUN


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State
Here’s what to do if your mind is trying to block you from accessing state:

Principle #1: You are not your mind.
You know what a cool guy acts like
, because you can recognize one when you see one. There’s amanual in your mind, it’s just that your mind won’t let you access the manual.

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Imagine you’re flying an airplane and your mind has the flying manual for it. It doesn’t want
you to take off
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it wo
n’t give you the manual –
but you start down the runway anyway.
You’re doing it whether or not you get the manual, like a crazed lunatic.
So all your mind
can do is say “okay, okay” and give you the manual to stop you from not crashing.

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This is the same as
when Tyler sees a group of girls he wants to approach. “Hmm. I can’tthink of anything to say right now. Well, I guess that’s going to be awkward.” And then he
goes.

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Trust yourself. Force that snap. You don’t want to sit there procrastinating and getting
stuck
in your head. You want to be like that obnoxious guy to your mind. It’s like going into the
ocean
, you don’t tiptoe in, you jump in. You
will mess up every so often, take it as a reminder.
The best guys can approach with NOTHING in their mind.

They’re just feeling. They’re just feeling
good. This is counter-intuitive, because in almost all endeavors, your logic and intelligence is your
greatest asset, but in meeting women, thinking is your greatest weakness. When you’re not thinking astep ahead, it’s
cocky.

2 principles to get “unclogged”.

(Never get the “I ran out of things to say” syndrome.)

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1. What you have to say is valuable purely because it comes from you.

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2. What you have to say is interesting, not because of the content, but because she’s
interested in what you find interesting.

If she finishes talking, and there’s a silence and you go into your head to think of what you should say –

if there’s that type of pause, then probably you’re done. But if you stop and
keep the tension,consider what sh
e’s saying, then probably she’ll giggle because of the tension.

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You’re not retreating into your little bullshit shelter of judgments, interpretations, labels,comparisons, etc. It’s a shelter for you from facing reality for what it is. You’re not really
experiencing it.
Polarity
Like a draw of attention towards you, a magnet. A woman’s gonna feel it standing close to you andeither know it’s attraction or rationalize it in some way.

Congruence tests
are so the woman can see that you are centered in your own reality, creates a lotof polarity. Playfully brush them off.

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Another type is when she breaks the rhythm of the conversation and you hold it
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getattraction.

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(SIDENOTE: Advanced supplication
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when you are acting indifferent in order to make her like you.)
MAN -> ACTION, GIRL -> REACTION