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Quotar Tyler:

They don't walk up like some nervous guy saying "I saw you and had to meet you..."

They hover around giving proximity and making eye contact, and then if I glance at them they throw out a comments, and maybe another one, etc. Or they try to get in on our conversations, or just walk by and say hi,. Girls are constantly throwing this stuff out there if you give off good energy.

I also get called cute / handsome ./ blah blah almost every day I go out, and THIS is because of the game. During LMR I hear "You're cute, buuuut..." as they try to weasel out of sex, until it happens. Then they say "Oh you're so cute I wanted you blah blah..."

In fact when I tease myself based off my looks in my mind I'm like "Actually I'm hella good looking I hear it all the time..."

Tyler

The guy with better "game" -- ie: more confidence, more "in state", will always get the hotter girl. Period.
Back when I was learning this stuff I was kind of a dickhead with a lot to prove. There were a lot of dickhead things I used to do that I wouldn't do now, one of which was to steal the girlfriends of high-profile guys.

In Hollywood I would often be in venues with A-Lister celebrities and remove their girls right off of them -- ie: with them standing RIGHT there. Some of them were chodes riding off of their fame, sure. But many of them were cool/funny/confident guys who'd be getting laid even without all of that stuff.
However, I STILL wound up taking their girls off of them -- not because I was WAY funnier or because I had WAY better game. I didn't. You guys have seen me in the DVDs. I'm a regular guy. But just because I had maybe 1% or 2% more confidence than they did.
Just from a 1% or 2% personality edge over them. Do you see how nuts that is?! It was PURELY game.

When I look out into the world -- I don't see things like looks or money. Like literally, I don't see them. In my brain what I'm seeing is "How in state is this guy? How assertive is he? How upbeat of a guy is he? How much value does he offer to the vibe? How much of a price tag does he put on himself? Does his energy project outwardly or is it stifled in at his core?" I see these things the same way that you guys see looks, because they are more accurate models of what is really attractive.

Tyler

Zero difference whatsoever... I could shave my head and leave a ponytail hanging off the side and it would make no difference.

This whole thing is all in your head. "The self is always coming through."

I realize the obvious response to this is "Tyler's gone too extreme saying that nothing matters" etc etc, but dude, I'm SO SERIOUS when I say it's all in your head and that it has no effect whatsoever -- I walk my own talk here.

Tyler

I always find it vexing when a guy who knows he's a novice with women won't do something so simple as to manage his appearance, and especially his grooming.

But that said, do you not think that Dennis Rodman could frame control you even while wearing a wedding dress (as he often does)?

Do you not think Conan O'Brien could frame control you while wearing a garbage bag?

So long as you control frames, it makes very little difference.

"The self is always coming through."

All that looks/money/height/etc do is allow you to make more mistakes and get away with it. If you're a cool guy though then it makes little difference.

One of the exercises for RSD instructors is to pull dressed worse than any of you would ever dream of.

Why not, as an experiment, go out dressed in some way that you feel is a hinderance, KNOWING you're dressed in a way that's a hinderance, and see what happens?

You might be surprised.

Tyler

Bottom line is you get a range of responses. Many girls will think you're hot when you have your shit on point. Want to know the easiest way to get complimented? Being a non needy, fun, self amused guy who is approaching and making out with various girls in the club. Then as the girls see you're one of the "popular guys" in the area of the venue they start to compete with eachother for attention, and load you up with compliments. Then take girls home and fuck them, look them in the eyes as you fuck and they'll look up and you and say "OH MY GOD YOU ARE SO FUCKINGHANDSOME" etc etc.

Over time these reference experiences build up -- and you wanna know what you realize? When you're "on" your face somehow becomes more relaxed and your eyes light up and you "become good looking". And when you're a needy little value leach who wants validation you become a little gollum troll who everyone thinks sucks. So just focus on what's in your control and let the chips fall where they may.

Tyler

If I have time to do this I'm considering making an infield compilation of all the compliments I get on a nightly basis...

"You're soooo handsome..."

"You're so handsome for a ginger. I normally hate gingers but you're soooo cute...."

"You're pale. Kinda gross. But I like it. It's hot. Like creepishly hot."

"You know you're hot. You know you can fuck any girl in here. Why do you even like me?"

"You must have fucked hundreds of women..."

"I love how you're not too tall. We can kiss so easily..."

"You are CUTE. And the worse part is you KNOW you're cute."

"I know you're not going to call me. You do this all the time. You're onto the next..." (from hot girls I've just slept with)

"You're rich I can tell..." (girls rationalizing my confidence since I'm not traditionally good looking)

"Are you even capable of having a girlfriend?" (girls assuming I get laid so much I could never be in a relationship -- again I find this so funny they just assume this when they're way better looking than I am)

Etc etc. Infield examples would be like from the 8 minute mark in this vid, "you're kinda hot, you're turning me on, meet me later" blah blah...


Then again I also get...

"You're not hot enough for her, go away!"

"I wouldn't date a guy who looks like you, I only fuck hot guys..." (I also get this directly before sex though)

"You're going BALD? How old are you? I feel bad for you."

"Does this EVER work for you?" (implying I never get laid)

"You're a short small guy. You look kinda gay. I want a man not a little child."

"Get the fuck away from me you're disgusting...FUCK OFF!"

So it's a range of responses. Usually the top ones are from 9's and 10's, the lower ones are from 6's and 7's or angry fat friends. But the odd time a hot girl will say the lower ones too. OH WELL.

Now let's talk about how often a night I get approached. I'd say around 5 to 10 on average, usually by hot girls although sometimes less hot girls give it a shot. Does that mean they WALK UP and say "I want to fuck your brains out"? Obviously no. But they circle around and throw out little comments, stare at me, throw shit at me, brush up against me, etc.

I generally avoid saying this stuff bluntly for the reason that I find the more I brag my ass off (which I love to do...) the more I get this weird "neediness" for this stuff to happen, and the less often it happens. So usually I try to avoid using myself as an example since I want to live this stuff not just talk about it. And it doesn't happen every night -- just most -- so I don't want BC students showing up saying "Hey bro could you do that thing where you walk around and girls approach you, that would really break my reality, thanks man..." Don't ask me to "do" this -- just take my word for it given I have no incentive to make this up, it would be perfectly fine to simply say "Looks help but you don't need them..." and just as many people would like RSD.

(I'm speaking from over 10 year's experience. These are my experiences. They're biased like everyone's experiences -- my RAS obviously focuses on certain evidence and ignores other evidence, like all humans. But there's enough evidence here and I'm a clear enough thinker that it's generally pretty accurate. Just go with it.)

Anyway I may create an infield compilation of this, despite that half of people will find it inspiring and the other half will think it's pure bragging. I think I'd include pictures of my looking retarded, like pictures of the bald spot on the top of my head and other silly angles, just to make the point that there's no excuses in all this. The whole looks thing is so lame from my perspective. Wow what a limiting belief. Totally reflects that guys haven't taken the time to learn game and want to simplify their lack of results.

Good looking guys get laid more easily for the simple reason that 1) they get "gimme's" from mid range girls (6's and 7's, and the odd 8) who are easily validated by a "cute guy", and 2) they don't have to escape "group think" in order to feel confident, they can simply say to themselves "Hell yeah society is right and I'm the shit..." whereas a non good looking guy will have to brainwash himself ala RSD style in order to allow himself to act like a normal cool person (ie: a guy who approaches and pimps girls).

Nonetheless you need to learn the shit we talk about here or else naturally do it on your own if you want the most legit girls. Point blank period. The best girls don't respond to looks very often because they're not validated by it -- it's too "weak a form of value". Here in LA they often fuck older guys in their 40's and 50's who are "type A" entrepreneurs and make millions of dollars, as well as funny bar tenders who are just fucken assholes and treat them like shit, so their "RAS" is attuned to other types of value than a 7 who thinks a "cute guy" is the paragon of awesomeness for a girl to date.

Seriously, fully get over it. Do what you can to improve your looks to the maximum degree and then.....drop it. And frankly to be honest even when I've improved my looks a lot I find I become obsessed with looking a certain way and then I compare myself to other guys and realize that I can't measure up, and my success drops. Then I stop caring maybe get a lil fatter or sloppier and because I'm more "irreverent" it's -- poof! -- numbers start racking up again. Doesn't mean to ignore your appearance but take it into consideration. The main reason I want to look good is because I want access to the best clubs and bouncers are superficial as hell.

Tyler

NO EXCUSES