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BY Alexander~ | October 19th, 2009 at 3:29 PM
“Strength Of Reality” Part 3


Interestingly, I think a person’s innate awareness of their society provides a biological explanation for peoples’ spirituality. If every human is born with a mechanism in their brain to be aware of the higher power that is their society around them - which they need to fit into to survive, could it be that this is misunderstood by most people as God, religion or spirituality?

That distinct feeling that most people get of a ‘higher power’ or of something that is bigger than them is interpreted by a lot of people to be a God or a spiritual force. I wonder if this distinct feeling of a higher power isn’t actually a God or a spiritual force, but rather just every human being’s evolved mechanism in their brain that makes them acutely aware of, and pay respect to, the society in which they belong?

People fear, trust, have faith in and react to Gods and spirituality in the same way that they fear, trust have faith in and react to their society and the people around them. I Personally believe in evolutionary theory, but always wondered why I had distinct feelings of spirituality that others attributed to religion. I could never reconcile the two. My best guess now is that the spiritual feeling I experienced was my innate awareness of a higher power that isn’t the work of God or deities, but rather my inborn evolved mechanism in my physical brain that serves to pay attention to the social culture around me.

Awareness of society as a higher power helps me to understand that I belong to a bigger force, human society, that I depend on to survive. I, like everyone else, is biologically driven to fit in more and more, to build a strong reality as reinforced and validated by the people around me.

This need for an externally reinforced reality and a desire to fit in is true for most people, but not alpha males and those who have alpha mindsets. Understanding that spiritual feelings and that your awareness of a higher power is just an evolved mechanism in your brain is very important when it comes time to trust yourself and make your own decisions that go against the way you have been socially conditioned.

Once we establish the fact that most people are striving to form and reinforce their reality, we can understand and explain why, for the most part, everyone you meet is insecure in one way or another. Usually people are a lot less secure than the way they behave when they’re around you and the way they interact with you. These feelings of insecurity go hand-in-hand with feelings of un-fulfillment, which most people struggle with on a daily basis. Feelings of un-fulfillment means you will be unattractive, and it means you won’t pick up girls for a few reasons. Firstly, girls are attracted to guys who are natural and the first sign of a natural guy is if he feels fulfilled in life and with himself, usually exhibited by an overt good feeling or state – if the guy feels fulfilled and good he will instantly inspire attraction in the girl. Secondly by nature, the way a man forms his reality is different to the way a woman forms her reality. Ultimately, a man has an ability to have a stronger reality than a woman, so if you have feeling of fulfilment and good state as a result it’s a reflection that you have a strong reality and you have something of value to her, and she is attracted to you because you can offer her a sense of security and the good feeling she gets from that. This means you will be better at picking up the girl because the girl will instantly categorise you as the sort of guy she would want to be with.

A strong reality can come in two forms, but both of these forms are characterised by certain behaviours. When I did my Bootcamp many moons ago at a time when the Blueprint was still on the cusp of release, JLAIX taught me the importance of four things: core confidence, unreactiveness, offering value and being assertive. To be honest I didn’t really understand what these things meant, nor did I have any idea how it would help me pick up girls, and at the time I was pretty deeply immersed in all things self-help. So I imagine that other less learned students of the game would really struggle with comprehending these concepts, let alone implementing them...


BY Alexander~ | October 21st, 2009 at 12:18 PM
“Strength Of Reality” Part 4


Core confidence, unreactiveness, offering value and being assertive are all behaviours that inspire attraction in women. Not because of the behaviours themselves, but because they are the markers that you’re an alpha male – and thus, desirable to be with. On a superficial seminar level on bootcamp, these things made no sense to me, because they can’t be internalized through a seminar or reading online. They need to be internalised through life experience, and during my bootcamp those things were indeed internalized and have continued to be ever since.

These things inspire attraction in women because men form their reality differently than women. The difference in men’s and women’s realities provide mutual evolutionary advantage, which has driven natural selection and left us with the genes we have inherited today. One way to demonstrate this difference is the caveman example, where men do the choosing and make the decisions and women vie to be chosen - or that man take risks to make progress and women question taking risks to mitigate danger. Again, of course, I'm just speaking emotionally and socially. In modern day, women and men are completely equal. But it is in the emotional and social realm that attraction and picking up girls exists. While men and women should form their realities differently, most men don’t behave like real men or ‘alpha males’. Instead, they act like women as well. These sorts of guys are called beta males, but are more well known as little bitches.

Before we look at the way a strong male reality is formed with core confidence, unreactiveness, offering value and being assertive, we first need to look at the female reality and beta male realty - which is one and the same thing. For the purpose of understanding this, think of it in terms of females, beta males and alpha males in caveman times. The alpha male has an alpha reality and is self-reliant, so much so that others look to rely and depend on him. The females and the beta males have to rely on others. In a physical sense, all men have the potential to rely on themselves whereas women do not, especially during pregnancy – the primary difference between men and women.

Through the process of evolution, women have developed an alpha/beta recognition system that rivals telepathic mind reading. When they sense the alpha male, they feel very strong attraction. When they sense the beta, they feel no attraction at all. If you can inspire women to feel attraction, then you pick up girls. If you can’t do this, then you won’t - and there are a lot of people out there who don’t get laid.

In animal culture, all the females have an innate urge to mate with the one alpha male, whereas the beta males get left behind in the gene pool. This is not necessarily true in human culture, but it’s a similar dynamic. All the females look at the alpha male first and do silly things to make him their own (if they have the self-esteem to think they’re good enough for him). A commonly recited fact is that 20% of guys sleep with 80% of women. This is true - the men who behave like alpha males in today’s society sleep with all of the women. Those that don’t are not alpha males and are not getting laid. In modern society, how do women know if a man is an alpha male or not?

In this day and age, there are probably a lot of men who have enough money to be self-reliant (a provider) and have a woman rely on him, yet these men don’t behave like alpha males. Through natural selection. women are simply hard-wired to be attracted to men who BEHAVE like alpha males. The way alpha males behave is with core confidence, unreactiveness, offering value and being assertive - the same ways that primitive males behaved in ancient times that caused females to evolve a recognition system in their brain that feels attraction for men who behave in certain ways, regardless of their modern day social status.

A ‘modern day alpha male’ might be the head of a corporation, someone who inherited a company or someone born into privilege, but because they didn’t earn it or because reality has taken responsibility for them, instead of them having to become an alpha male by taking responsibility for their reality, many ‘modern-day alpha males’ don’t behave with core confidence, unreactiveness, offering value or being assertive, and hence they do not inspire attraction. Sometimes ‘modern day alpha-males’ do have the mindsets and behaviours of a traditional alpha male – Donald Trump is an example of this. Even though he is not the prettiest looking billionaire, I would image that if he was to lose his fortunes he would still inspire attraction in women. His mindsets and behaviours that have led to him to massive international business success would be the same mindsets and behaviours that would inspire attraction in women. Richard Branson is another example of this.