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BY Alexander~ | May 24th, 2010 at 9:08 PM
Day Game and Solid Interactions

Hey dudes, here are some very straightforward notes on day game. The sort of notes that you can literally take, deploy and get results with straight away. Credit to Saad who got me onto a lot of these ideas which have been refined, replicated and used successfully in hundreds of instances around the world since.

For these steps I would recommend the bookstore as the best place. You get a stationary crowd for the most part making life easier for you if you’re learning.

Some other basic notes to remember before deployment:

Don’t get too physically close during the day.

No physicality except for handshake and MAYBE a shoulder tap if approach logistics are awkward.

People aren’t used to being approached in the day, expect that, get over the 10 second awkwardness hump and the interaction will shift into more comfortable territory.

A lot of people in the world have partners, that’s life. Soon you will have a partner and you will expect that people approaching her will respect that she’s with you. Don’t harrass a girl if she says she has a boyfriend or a husband. Be friendly and make friends if appropriate. Otherwise excuse yourself.

Nine key steps to having solid interactions in low energy situations:

1. Ensure that you are in a good low anxiety, relaxed and talkative state. Do warm up sets, talk to people, motion is emotion, take the initiative to talk bullshit and entertain yourself.

2. When you approach, approach in a direct line unapologetically. Chill and relaxed, not ‘look at me everyone, I don’t give a fuck about how I conduct myself’. You should be in a good enough mood to be smiling, make eye contact and say ‘excuse me’. Starting with ‘excuse me’ is polite not a DLV. Such a simple approach is within a person’s reality, anything too complicated is beyond their reality. If you’re behavior is outside a person’s reality (what she can understand) than you will be too.

3. Ask a question. Any question that’s normal, it doesn’t matter. Asking questions will gel with a girl’s reality, anything too fancy or technical game talk is over the top and weird. For example, ‘what are you reading?’, ‘what’s the time?’, ‘are fiction books good?’ The value is in you as a person, not the content you ‘spit at her’.

(Girl will respond)

4. Change the topic! If you change topic you spark the interaction. When you change topic of conversation you create an illogical frame that can go in any direction. If you don’t change topics you’ll get stuck in non-emotional logical mode. If you want to be more effective or fancy you can misinterpret the girl’s response as a form of topic change. If you want to be even cleverer you can make a joke in response to the girl’s response.

(The girl will usually giggle or stop)

5. Transition from strangers to friends. Say ‘Hi my name is ‘dude’ by the way, what’s your name?” extend your hand for a handshake. Once you do this you go from being a random weirdo to someone she now knows. The energy of the interaction becomes significantly less anxious at this point.

(The girl will usually reciprocate with her name and handshake, usually she’ll be relaxed with you by this stage. Others call this hooking)

6. Shit talk, chit chat, fluff talk. By this stage you’re ‘in’ as in you’re not scared of each other, so ask the standard chode questions. Where are you from, what are you doing, what's happening tonight, what are you reading, where do you party, how old are you, what do you study et cetera. She will usually reciprocate. For each question you ask it’s important that you create value with info of your own. Don’t be controlling in the conversation by bombarding her with questions. It is important during this stage that you create comfortable pauses to give her a chance to ask you questions as well and make an investment in the interaction.

(This next step is the most important part of verbal outer game)

7. QUALIFY THE GIRL! Qualifying the girls mean to tell her why you like her other than her assumption that you want to sleep with her. Girls like sex, but only when they know that the guy doesn’t value them solely for sex. She needs to know why the guy LIKES HER FOR HER (credit this info to Jeffy and Tyler from pre 2006).

a) State why the girl is different and unique. “You are very down to earth, you are very self-assured, you are very trusting, you have a good sense of who you are, you have an awesome work ethic, you have a positive work ethic, you can deal with people who try to bull shit you, you can think for yourself, you know who you are and what you want.” If you have spent some time talking to the girl you will surely have begun to appreciate her in a unique way. If you can’t appreciate her at all walk away. This personality compliment will appeal to the girl’s (or any person’s) ego.

b) Compare the statement about her to everyone else “Most people are lost posers, most people are pretty insecure, most people don’t trust other people or themselves, most people have no idea who they are, most people are lazy, most people expect other people to do everything for them, most people can’t take a joke and go to pieces at the first sight of drama, most people don’t think for themselves, most people have no idea what they want.” This creates a unique connection between you and her. It shows that you set her apart from other people as well.

c) After stating why the girl is different, then comparing that to everyone else ask her why she is unique in that way. It appeals to her ego. When you take the time to actually articulate why you like her you will stand out from every other guy. “Why are you so down to earth, what makes you so self-assured, what made you such a trusting person, where did you get your strong sense of self, where did you get your work ethic, where did you learn to deal with bullshitters, how come you think for yourself so much more than other people, where did you get your sense of who you are and what you want?”

8. Take her number. Avoid the word ‘number’ some good ways to do this are ‘we should talk later’ – pass your phone, or, ‘we should network’ - pass your phone.

9. Last thing, make sure the last you do isn’t taking the number and leaving. Chat a little longer. Make sure the last thing you do isn’t ‘getting the number’. Other options are instant dates like shopping together or getting a coffee together which is available in most book stores.

During the day game your results will be extremely more solid than nightgame, however there are usually less sets to work with. If you’re still learning day game is great because the interactions are so overt and upfront that you can clearly see where you are lacking or miscalibrated and make adjustments – your lessons are much clearer and easier to self-correct.

Day game is the quick path to learning progress and results.

You’ll also note that when you do day game before you go out in the evening your indifference threshold is low as it can be, so it’s a great way to ‘get yourself warmed up’ and have great momentum for creating value.

Have fun!

Alex~

PS… if you see the White Wizard in Sydney… don’t be scared of him. He’s a chode. The White Wizard is the over protective manager of the bookstore in Sydney.