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BY Alexander~ | March 8th, 2011 at 5:05 AM
The Huge Importance Of The Tiny Details; Controlling Your Mind!
Tags: Self Actualization
When it comes to learning something unfamiliar to you the way you learn it will have massive repercussions to the end results.

If for example you were going to trade in sums of trillions of dollars over several decades the 15th decimal place of the rate of trade would have an implication of hundreds of thousands of dollars. Like with life coaching and personal life development the semantics of your understanding will have profound long term effects on your behavior. The semantics of your understanding will have profound effects on the automation of your behavior and the response/reaction behavior that you automatically respond to stimulus with.

In even clearer terms, the words with which you understand the same rather basic ideas will make profound differences.

An applicable example would be to compare the terminology of ‘I don’t give a fuck what anyone thinks of me’ with the terminology of ‘unapologetic’. Both basically mean do what you want to do, not what other want you to do. But one focuses on shunning others while the other terminology focuses on centering and strengthening yourself.

One is reactive, one is proactive. Both are good, one will have profoundly long term better effects. Especially if at the time of reading this you are sorry for who and what you are, and you do give a fuck about what people think of you.

With semantics, they are the ways in which you digest ideas. Semantics and the way the idea is posed that you are left with to meditate on. In learning pick up you need to learn new ideas. Under the pressure of the field you don’t usually have to stop and recite things you’ve learnt from others word-for-word or action-for-action, it’s more like stimulus-recognition-response.

-For example something happens in field – Stimulus

-In the pressure of the moment your brain recognizes there is something you are supposed to do in this situation based on what you’ve read or learnt – recognition

-You instantaneously react/respond – Response.

The way you semantically learn things shapes your recognition system allowing you to generate the best thing to do at the time based on others’ guiding advice.

To go even further again, the semantics should be specific enough for you to know what to do in any given situation, but not so specific that you lack maneuverability in the social situation under the social pressure of the moment.

So be sure, the way ideas and actions will be described are designed to be the perfect balance between guidance and freedom. Researched and carefully chosen words successfully field tested personally for years and successfully with live students for 18 months.

You will see that the things I will say gel and combine and clarify many other ideas you have heard before, but they give you the best possible understanding that will accounts for all prior knowledge and application in the field of pick up.

Semantics are the start, the mode of communication to teach you. This is the foundation of your inner game. Inner game is the most important place to start, but semantics of how to learn inner game precedes inner game itself.

When learning new ideas about your behavior and emotion it’s like rewiring your brain.

For the purposes of pick up you can think of your brain as your computer’s software. Your inner game is your software that makes you work. So the integrity of your inner game and software – the way you understand things and the way it runs – will translate to your behavior and success.

The tighter and smoother your understanding of the social world is the tighter your frame will be and the more you will trust yourself. With a strong frame and self trust your behavior will come into alignment with that and you grown into congruence with a natural. Naturals are successful with women, they don’t do game, they are game.

I’ve written about this before and referred to it as natural instincts. In the previous article I said that game to coaches is as simple as the self perception that ‘I’m awesome’ which has resulted in self programming to the point that now I, and other really successful guys in the game are instinctual in their game.

Good understanding leads to good experiences. Good experiences lead to congruence between thought and behavior. When thoughts and behaviors align, you are instinctual. Being socially instinctual is to say you are a natural. Being instinctual is the opposite of routines or manipulation. It’s also the same as being a guy who is automatically naturally attractive.

I, and Real Social Dynamics teach natural game. And the above description is what natural game is. Growth into congruence with a naturally attractive guy. I’ll get to the how or what actions you actually need to do later.

This is a bit of a mind fuck. For a guy who already is good with girls this doesn’t even warrant mention. But for guys who are yet to transform into alpha males this is the process before you.

Teaching good inner game is more of a cancellation process than it is a building process. Its is a series of realizations that concerns are not actually concerns.

It’s realizing, then internalizing, that things that were once limiting beliefs are not actually limiting beliefs. Teaching inner game is a process of dissolving social concerns and social cognitive dissonance until you have an air tight belief system. That’s inner game.

The core of having good natural instincts is self trust. When you have nothing to worry about you have self trust. Trust is the deepest factor that drives the attraction dynamic. Once you have that good inner game, you have nothing to worry about and you are left with a supreme self-trust. I’ll explain later where you get the self trust from and why it is attractive but for now all you need to know is that you will have supreme inner game when you have realize flawless social self trust. It’s easier than you think when you understand yourself properly.

Then ultimate realization you will have in the game is that ‘there is no way you can’t not trust yourself.’

And in realizing that you can’t-not trust yourself, you realize that it’s even something worth taking into consideration anymore. You’re socially invincible.

Like I said before it’s as simple as “you’re awesome” let’s go talk to girls.

Brad, how do you consider yourself?

Sean how do you consider yourself?

Jeffy how do you consider yourself?

In italics above I use the terminology can’t-not. That terminology is the same as saying you ‘can’ but, the difference between ‘I can do something’ and ‘I can’t-not do something’ is huge.

The holy grail of natural instincts pick-up is self trust. And the whether or not your trust yourself simply comes from the way you think about yourself. Not about the way you actually are.

For example if you think ‘I can get that job’ it’s a hollow way to think about something. Like an idea walking a tightrope that could possibly fall. If your idea is in a state of ‘can’ then it could just as well be the idea of ‘maybe’ or ‘can’t’. This form of self perception doesn’t have an absolutism about it. And without an absolutism you can’t flawlessly trust the idea.

Alex~