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BY Alexander~ | May 10th, 2011 at 6:32 PM
Trust, Rapport, Arousal, Sex.
What even happened to the idea of having rapport with a girl? Didn’t there used to be all these elaborate techniques that you get you some deep rapport?

They still exist, but in natural game you don’t need techniques to create support, it will happen on its own naturally.

But it’s important to know why you need rapport.

Rapport is comfort plus trust. And you need a girl to be comfortable with you, to have sex for frivolous a one night stand. She’ll need to both be comfortable and trust you if she’s going to sleep with you after a few dates, which is more common way of sexual intimacy happening.

Sometimes you may not need anything at all with a girl for intimacy to happen, but that girl would probably be very slutty – from what I’ve seen, these types of girls don’t make the best company, and even then, the girl herself can get buyer’s remorse after such quick intimacy.

So let’s focus the most normal situations – getting to a point of comfort and trust so that the intimacy can go ahead.

Firs you need to know that if you are a true natural you don’t need to do anything special other than just chat with the girl over time to develop rapport.

The reasons why this works is because a true natural has no ego and therefore no defensive barriers up. Everything he says is a ‘heart to heart’ conversation. And if the natural can handle the frame of a heart to heart conversation, he can soon bring that out of a girl as well. Connection is well on its way – naturally.

Physicality itself can help people to trust each other, so make your goal in public social setting to develop ‘physical rapport’ with the girl. That basically just means you need to be comfortable in each other personal space. Stick to the basic, escalate smoothly, no to fast and not too slow and voila, you’ll have physical rapport.

Bear in mind that the way to be attractive is by being arousing; interesting, chatty and not predictable.

So if you can just keep chatting to a girl and get a ‘heart to heart’ conversation going you are indeed going to be very arousing. Girls are open to talking about significantly more topics than guys are.
So, talk about deep stuff about you and about her and the arousal factor is going to go through the roof.

Some of my personal favorite topics that get the deep rapport and arousal going are things like dream jobs, heroes, things you love, things you hate and places you dream to go. You get the idea.

The most important point in this article is the following: you need to know that the longer you know someone the greater the magnitude of your arousal from that person!

If a sales person in a mall approaches you and tried to chat you it means nothing to you, whereas if a sibling where to talk to you it would mean a lot more (if it were a serious conversation).

Of course I’m assuming you have siblings and you have extremely deep rapport with them – if you don’t think of someone who fits the description.

If the sales person broke convention and called you a moron (and meant it) you wouldn’t really care – there would be very little arousal to it. If a sibling called you a moron (and they meant) then it would mean a lot to you, it might start a fight or passive aggression. It would be very arousing, albeit negative.

Knowing that, the longer you talk to a person you just met, you as a source of arousal to them grows exponentially. That is to say, you as a source of attraction grows exponentially.

Understanding this rapport dynamics is just one more pillar of self trust for you, a positive attractive energy that you’ll project onto anyone who crosses your path.

So, in terms of ‘what you do’ to be better at pick up, make your goal to hold conversation as long as you can, while at the same time sharing good physical rapport. The girl will quickly begin to mean something to you, and you will quickly being to mean a big something to the girl.

To reinforce this idea, as good of a pick up artist as you may be – it’s going to be very fucking hard to take a girl away from an alpha male (a guy who intuitively understands game) because the arousal she gets from that guy is going to be so intense, compared to the arousal she gets from you – a guy she’s just met.

This is the same for you. When you do find the girl you want to settle with, know that over time you’re going to be more and more arousing inevitable eclipsing every other guy she’s going to meet from then on in her life.

From what I’ve seen, girl who date the guys I know who really ‘get’ the game, never cheat on them. I’m references the RSD instructors here.

Trust, rapport, arousal - sex.

Alexander~
Executive Coach
Australia & Europe