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BY Alexander~ | May 18th, 2011 at 6:25 AM
The Profound Enlightenment Of Ambition.
Simply having a set of goals and working towards them is something that put you into an empowered mood and drive influential behaviors. Working towards goals is something you can do for yourself that will give you an amazing feeling that will be automatically projected onto whoever you interact with, inner game thought loops that lead to good results.

The desperate times motvate you towards the privileged times. If you didn’t know the pleasures of the privileged times then you don’t know what you're turning your ambitions towards.

Money certainly isn't everything. During my times studying I had barely any wealth, living on a tiny budget. Prior to my employment with Real Social Dynamics as an executive coach I was desperately broke and constantly sick with anxiety over where my next food would come from or how i could transport myself to my next work shift.

But even in those hard times it wasn't the end of the world. And even thougn i was doing it tough financially it had no effect whatsoever on that fun I had when i was out in the bar.

But living day to day asking my roommates for $3 dollars to do their washing for them so I could buy a 50 Pack of Dim Sims was utterly depressing. I will never be able to eat dim sims again. If i stopped to think about my situation I felt like a fucking failure. I fucking hated it. I, like all guys, felt like I deserved elite status in life.

For a while I moped around and felt like a victim and let this lead to make me behave like a loser.

After a while I realized that no one was going to get me out of the bad situation but me.

When I started to make a plan to get out of debt and take control of my life it was the most empowering feeling.

In hindsight I realize that the desperation of my situation was the catalyst for my self-actualization.

While I found that it was great to plan to get back on my feet, it’s was exceedingly empowering to make plans that were ambitions. To aim high.

Maybe it’s like the secret or something like that, but when you turn your focus towards what you want in life it really does come to you, as long as you commit yourself to it.

Just having something towork towards change my whoel demeanor, despite that fact that I hadn't even com close to acheiving my goals yet. Just feeling as though I was moving forward made me infinitely more attractive. Perception is projection.

I used to wonder about these guys who'd write on RSDNation and the way that girls would say that ‘there was something about them’. As soon as I switched my primary focus from 'not losing' towards my ambitions I became inherently higher value.

I distinctly remember being in social situations talking to girls – during a time when I was trying to wrap my head around being naturally attractive – and the girls just weren't anywhere near as important to me as I used to think they were. The focus had shifted towards myself and my own ambitions.

The dyanmics was changing right there within me, it was identity level change in action. Girls and people would be right there infornt of me in conversation, simply reacting to me and being around by me, instead of me trying to game her. I was all about me, and the more you are about you, the more influence you have an the more others look to you for reliability and stimulation.

When you really think about it, if you’re ambitious and you sart to fulfill some of your ambitions you truly do put yourself first for a while.

But there is a big misconception about those kinds of people.

It canb be thought that ambitious people are selfish, self centered or that they ‘don’t take the time to think about others for once’. The truth is, these ambitions people are motivated by never, ever having to depend on others in the same way that they once desperately did.

More than that, one of the biggest underlying motivations of an ambitious person is to become something so significant that his loved ones can rely on him. So that he can serve the role that he has respected others for. Helping him when he was desperate.

Its growth and identity level change from beta-males to naturally attractive alpha male.

I've gone through this and I've seen in it so many others as well in this RSDnation as well.

You might have to be truly desperate to have the leverage to develop huge ambition. But reading about it here amidst your own self actualization it should motivate you to raise your own ambition-bar to be something more for yourself, and those you’d love to be able to influence positively.

Friends, family, self and girls on the cold approach.

Aim high, and keep going.

Alexander~
http://www.alexattitude.com