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BY Alexander~ | May 24th, 2011 at 1:55 AM
Push Bitch. Absolute chode.
You want to get good at picking up girls? You need to be arousing. You need the girl to react to you more than you react to the girl.

You need to have created a situation where you as a product inherently inspires interest in others. How do you do this?

Pal-ese… yuo sey.



This video makes the point that if you grow, then you are going to be cooler relative to the girl, and when you understand how that growth works, you trust yourself significantly more in social situations, make you less reactive to others, and others more reactive to you.

Internalizing the ideas gives you a strong frame.

The basic idea is that you need to grow more than the girl in order to both be less reactive in more situations and cooler than the girl, thus naturally offering value.

These are called the embarrassment comfort zone and the success comfort zone. See the diagram below.

For the newbie, when he goes to approach the gorgeous female socialite its almost certain that that gorgeous female socialite will have had more emotional disasters and more emotional delights than that wannabe-player.

But in learning natural instincts game through cold approach pick up you seek emotional delight and endure emotional disaster until they come within your comfort zone.

Things that once excited you – starting a conversation with a stranger – becomes ‘within your reality’ making it who you are. The natural experience progress is then, contact exchange then intimacy then who knows.

Things that once embarrassed and scared you – a stranger not paying full attention to you off cold approach – fade into something your indifference towards. Short tempered people overreacting to you for no good reason becomes funny.

That’s why, it’s so important to seek the edge of your comfort zone and explore your unknown. Sooner or later your contextual confidence becomes your core confidence. It gets to a situation where ‘there is no reason why you would have anxiety’ (note the double negative) everywhere. That is core confidence.

But from my point of interest, the enlightened level of pick up – natural game – knowing this dynamics only gives you more trust in what you are doing and self evident growth dynamics. Leading you to better self esteem, self trust and less anxiety.

And a dude with that shit, will have awesome natural instincts game.

Go and meet people,

Alexander~