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BY Alexander~ | June 1st, 2011 at 6:18 PM
The Perfect Approaching Frame! Part Two
In my personal experience I had a crush on a girl for six years. In the meantime, I remember I had ample chances with countless other girls (because I was indifferent, hurrr durrr), which I didn’t take because I was waiting on the (self hypnotized) ‘one’.

Leaving me to think I was a fucking failure, when in reality I was probably just pretty normal guy. It was all self sabotaging thought.

There was once a case when I did in fact get the girl that I had built up to be so massive in my head. For the first month or so I was so excited that I got my ‘dream girl’, but after all the projecting onto her that I had built up in my head, when I actually got to know her she was nothing like I thought she would be. Which turn out to be even more heartbreaking and frustrating. Making me hate myself and people even that much more.

AS you get good at the game you make the shift from thinking that another person will complete you to thinking that you are complete on your own – as you are. At which time you get this massive disappointment in people in general. Usually, that’s the time when the indifference to approaching will kick in.

This phenomenon happens to guys who’ve had some true success, but only just a little bit.

When you step back from the emotions of it all an amazingly beneficial dynamics presents itself.

Guys get disheartened when they get to the stage that ‘they don’t care about getting girls anymore’.

But I am empowered because I’m in the stage that ‘I don’t care about girls anymore.’

So in reality, I can step to any girl with absolutely no outcome dependence!

You’ll get to a stage where you approach so many girls that their so called ‘level of attractiveness doesn’t worry you anymore – as long as you still get visceral physical attraction from the girl – that you don’t get intimidated by hot girls.

You also won’t care about the outcomes you have with these hot girls.

So you shift the attention to yourself.

Once you have these realizations, you become emotionally invincible in the interaction.

Once you realize these things, you have the PERFECT approaching frame.

With no crush, no upfront significant emotional investment in the girl you can say what you want, be honest with yourself and the girl and express yourself freely. Everything you need to perfect natural game.

What then do you do with the interactions?

Well, think of that girl you put on the pedestal. Soon enough if you’re in the close presence of an attractive girl you simple emotions begin to kick in and you begin to see the girl as attractive, and your motivations to escalate also naturally kick in. Your blueprint works for you and the interaction should go well.

What then of caring about girls?

Again, reference the girl you put on a pedestal. It takes time to care about someone. If you were to see this girl a few times, I you were to sleep with this girl, all the while you are becoming more emotionally invested in her. It’s just that this way, from the abundance mindset approach, the emotional investment happens at a slower, more realistic healthy rate. It leads to relationships – if there person is likable. And the truth is you will click with some, and you won’t click with some. That’s life.

Either way the pressure’s off you and you have the abundance to play the game to the hilt.

Last thing though. What’s your favorite flavor of ice cream? Say it out loud.

You only know that is your favorite flavor after sampling many different flavors.

It’s the same with the women that you meet, make harmony with the idea that you’re not going to intensely love the people you’re only just meeting – but you can certainly enjoy them all.

After a while, when you have abundance, you can choose which flavor you want to stick with.

If you want to be good at picking up girls, close first, discriminate later.

Alexander~
Executive Coach
Australia & Europe
http://www.alexattitude.com