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BY Alexander~ | October 12th, 2011 at 7:42 PM
The Way To Use Your Phone, The Way That Phone Game Works Series! 1
This is a set of ideas on phone game that have been in circulation since 2008. I ask all my students on bootcamp and during workshops if they’re familiar with my phone game article and almost everyone says they’re not. So I’ve taken the time to re-edit the article and update it and bring it main stream to the main forum so everyone has a though easy to use guide to phone game.

This article is designed to help you understand what it takes to go from the pick up itself to the meeting. It includes the dynamics that drive a successful transition from meeting to meet up and the part that your phone, facebook and text messages play.

Like all my articles I write this assuming that you are getting close to the congruence that ‘you are enough’, implying that you are naturally attractive – or at least you think that way.

The ‘I am enough’ mindset makes you the highest value person in your reality. Others around you play subordinate roles in the highlight reel that is your life. You focus on yourself first to make yourself a valuable entity and connect with people through your positive influence on them.

Remember when we talk natural game I can’t stress strongly enough the reiteration of the GOLDEN RULE.

“Whatever you feel, she feels.”

Whenever you have an influence on a girl’s reality, her perceptual experience of the world, what you feel will play a big part in determining what she feels.

If you’re a cool carefree guy who is firm in his belief that ‘you are enough’ you always feel good, because you draw state from within and you can live in the moment stress free.

You’re a man who has the unique ability to draw state from within. If not, stop being the victim, and take responsibility of your state. Start looking on the bright side.

You are at the helm of your own reality, steer it in a constructive direction and others will follow.

Referring to the interaction itself, I used to hear a lot of girls use the terminology ‘you’re in’, which means that the girl likes you and is interested in getting to know you. If you’re a guy who gets social dynamics ‘you’re in’ is quite common.’

‘You’re in’ means that she considers you a sex-worthy guy.

Once ‘you’re in’ it’s only a matter of time and logistics until physical intimacy occurs. Whether or not this intimacy ever arises depends on your dedication to the interaction, how far you’re willing to take it.

A lot of guys don’t even call the number, make the effort to set the date, endure flakes, or go on a second date to encounter the physicality. With the phone game and dating game the responsibility for things moving forward need to be facilitated by you – the guy.

Whether I’m interacting in person and on the phone at no there is no reason for me to ever compromise my mindset that ‘I am enough’. Why wouldn’t I? I offer value, don’t take value without returning it and I’m usually fun and arousing to be around, results of my initiative.

Strong perception equates to strong reality, so spread the love.

Furthermore this means staying true to yourself and not attempting to ‘work’ the people you hang with. When I talk to old ladies consistent, when you talk to turbo club bitches hold your frame and your sense of self be will communicated and accepted.

Strong perception equates to strong reality, the good influence.

As for the phone game itself the underlying factor that will define you phone game success is succinctly the following:

“The key to good phone game is a good interaction” RSD, 2005.

Good phone game isn’t something that happens on the phone, it’s something that happens in the field. It happens in person.

What makes a good interaction?

For an interaction geared solely towards the intention of a later meet up there are a few misconceptions that will be cleared up below.

And of course this info is a guide and collective experience and there are always exceptions to the mainstream trends.

But understanding what works will help you to adjust your interactions to increase you meet up to conversation rate.

An interaction that is most likely to yield a day two meet up is usually a low energy, low sexuality low fireworks affair.

It’s generally short in duration and doesn’t leave the girl with a conclusive impression of you but rather leaves her wanting to know more about you. So keep it simple.

It generally doesn’t involve excessive physical escalation.

Makeouts on the first interaction are usually detrimental to the prospects of the date.

Picture a chill comfortable light hearted anticipation building interaction in a low energy environment. A social meeting that inspires curiosity and mutual respect.

However this scenario is rare in an intense club setting. But it’s not so uncommon earlier on in the night before energy levels spiral out of control or much later on after the club environment, maybe in a diner or food venue. The smoking area is also a good chill place to have good solid interactions...

Continued parts 2,3,4,5,6 and 7.

Alexander~
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