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When you are learning game you have to gather new references experiences to expand your reality and make you comfortable to do anything in a social situation. At times aggressive physicality is very useful in the interaction so you need to make yourself comfortable with it and familiar with co-ordination of physically performing the action. Knowing the boundaries of physical confidence and escalation can be best learnt on a Bootcamp (Bootcamp Information Page).
You can use aggressive physicality as expressions that spike arousal (attraction) for fun at sporadically during the interaction. Physical expressions must be used sparingly, I’ve seen many guys led to believe that the more they escalate the more the girl with like them – this is not the case. The more you escalate the more the girl will appear to react to you, but if you use aggressive physicality to cause reaction in the girl you are actually reacting to her. Specifically, you are living in reaction to the hope that she will pay attention to you or fix her attention on you (hooking). The more you live in reaction of hope that the girl will pay attention to you the more you get drawn into trying harder and harder to get her attention with increasingly aggressive physicality. Obviously this is a dangerous pattern with numerous negative repercussions. Beware if you see yourself going down this path and re-adjust.
Instead, adhere to physical rapport style interaction with sporadic aggressive physical expressions. Sporadic physical expression within physical rapport style is a dynamic that clearly shows the girl that you are socially well adjusted and sexually comfortable resulting in her categorising you ‘as an attractive guy’. With sporadic physical expressions within physical rapport your demonstration of physical-sexual comfort leads to her physical-sexual comfort and her increased compliance to your escalation.
Run chill interactions and occasionally do something playful that is more physically intense, like: picking the girl up, neck kissing, dipping, neck biting, embracing her on a wall and grinding (amongst others). These moves are only permissible if you are unapologetic, chill and relaxed (Relaxed Arousal video). These kinds of moves acutely spike a girl’s arousal in that moment, but you have to be sure to retract the aggressive physicality soon after expressing it. You never want to get the girl anywhere near close to sexual arousal in the bar.If you put a girl into a sexually aroused state where she feels she is involuntarily going in the direction of unintended intimacy with you caused by your sexual escalation you may cause her to become evasive. A girl’s simple reaction to unexpected seduction is ‘evade’. A girl’s friends’ simple reaction to this is ‘rescue’ and ‘prevent friend from being a slut’. Whether these reactions are anappropriate recourse to your escalation doesn’t matter, that’s just how girls react.
Use Physical Expressions to give the girl a taste of excitement, but not to satisfy the excitement. Using physical expressions from your perspective are really fun to influence the girl, induce tests that you can beat and watch her involuntarily react well (excitedly) to you. You can literally witness her become aroused (attracted) to you by the things you do which give you a satisfying sense of influence, a frame that further arouses (attracts) the girl because that is the kind of frame she is hardwired to be attracted to.
Don’t make the mistake of overdoing the Physical Expression moves. The goal is to have the girl wanting to get more arousal after the club therefore considering spending time with you on at an afterparty or date not to be satisfied with the arousal she’s had from you in the club and to leave with her friends. The Physical Rapport skills you need to develop are patience and timing for when you and the girl would be likely to leave the club, usually sometime after the apex of the energy of the night (Timeframes Of The Night Article.
Physical expressions are good to demonstrate to the girl that you are capable of making whatever moves you want whenever you want. This implication is important for inducing the ‘inception’. Once you use physical expressions and them take them away the girl clearly knows your capabilities. This leaves her aroused (attraction) with anticipation of when you might make the next move. Even better is the arousal of ‘if’ you might make the next move, putting through the girl through a full range of self imposed emotions (arousal), with her becoming more attracted to you.
When it comes to the end of the night you need to be able to use physically assertiveness to make decisive moves to take responsibility for the pull if the girl is indecisive about going with you, letting you come with her, or leaving her friends. It takes some intuition to know when and how to make this move. Bootcamp (Bootcamp Information Page) will address that, or over time you will get a good sense of intuition with your own field experience.
Beastmode does employ the use of aggressive physicality. We use the term Beastmode as approaching decisively at the end of the night to find out who is receptive to party and who is not. More aggressive physicality is calibrated at the end of the night and a quick and accurate way to find out if a girl is in a party mood or not. Only use Beastmode as a backup for physical rapport style for a short period of time just before and after the bar’s closing time if you don’t have a solid connection with a girl established by that point in the night. Beastmode has proven to be a great way to reignite physical rapport interactions from earlier in the night.
Other than these few exceptions you want your interactions to be sociable, not aggressive.
Physical Rapport in contrast to physical aggression has many benefits for personal growth (inner game). Physical Rapport is excellent for practising and internalising the principles from the Alexander~ Natural Instinct Method (Natural Instincts Method) of “I Am Enough” “Be Arousing Not Attractive” and “The True Indication Of Interest (IOI) Is Quiet and Attentive”.
If you set out to, and begin to have interactions with limited physical aggression it helps you trust that you as yourself are really all you need to be attractive to a girl. Most guys are under the impression they need to do something that stands out to validate themself. Engaging a girl without doing something to stand out gives evidence to “I am enough” and helps you come into congruence with it.
If you start to have longer interactions, including the ones with intermissions (time away from each other) you start to see the arousal dynamic much better. The misconception is that a girl reacting to you is attraction. A girl’s attraction to you is not a solid thing, but rather a potential thing (Arousal =HV + E Article…there will be an attraction article on this one day). Shifting to the intention of a longer timeframe gives you a chance to see how she can warm up and cool down towards you. You begin to see that you can use your empathy (sense of how the girl feels towards you) to amplify your expression or retract it in response to how the girl receives you. Longer more subtle sets help you develop the vision of arousal dynamics so you can use it to create better connections with the girls you talk to.
Physical rapport is huge for internalising the phenomenon that “The true indication of interest is when the girl is quiet and attentive.” You can have a very simple conversation with a girl for an extended period of time – without much visible affection and without forcing her to react you by being aggressive – and be comfortable with giving you her number, moving venues with you or even dating you. As you gain better vision for subtle attraction dynamics, you change your RAS (reticular activation system) to notice that even though the girl is behaviourally introverted this is a sign that she is actually more drawn to you (potentially attracted to you).
Of the skills in the Alexander~ Natural Instinct Method (Natural Instincts Method) the “Time is your Ally” is what really makes physical rapport style escalation work and is what can lead to the girl to the ‘inception’ resulting in you hanging out with the girl in isolation faster than ever, while making the interaction easy going in process. The variable that makes physical rapport work is time. The longer the interaction, the more the arousal (attraction) the better chance you have of hanging out with a girl in an isolated place.
I am enough + slow and steady accumulation of arousal + trusting that you don’t need visible indications of interest from the girl + time = the girl comfortable with you + feeling excitement towards you = hanging out in an isolated place = you get the girl.
Physical rapport is all about time. Failure to acknowledge the role of time leads guys to become impatient, which leads to physical aggression the problems that come with it listed above.
The perilous dangers of impatience are frustration, rushing the girl, miscalibration and sociopathic traits, all of which go against the golden principle of “I am enough”. As soon as a girl senses any of these things you have no chance.
What you need to know is that arousal is a function of time. It takes a certain amount of time for a girl to be aroused enough by a guy to hang out with him. Girls go out to be aroused by a ‘night out’, not to have sex, but sex can be a part of that arousal.
It’s a fixed variable that girls will be out for the duration of the night in once place. They go out, let their arousal build up and once they get bored they move on. Until then it is highly unlikely they will leave. So you have a timeframe to work with, for example 10pm until 3am.
Side note: On extremely rare occasions I have seen girls leave for sex with a guy they met from cold approach before the time frame. On those occasions the girl was unattractive or very drunk. It’s possible that a girl will leave before the end of the night, but unlikely.
Side note: Sometimes you can physically arouse a girl so much that she will be turned on enough for sex there and then. On the rare occasion that you can convert her arousal to sex by having a logistical way to get her alone and actually have sex you are only going to work her into a frenzy which will fully satisfy her. If you arouse the girl too much without the logistics to act on it then she will experience a come down in regards to her arousal towards you. This can also make her feel regretful for being slutty or feeling like she’s losing control. This usually results in her leaving with her friends.
Side note: Sometimes aggressively physically arousing a girl so much that she is turned on enough to have then and there can actually work. This is where bathroom pulls, car pulls and other public sex can occur. If this happens from cold approach it’s usually more to do with the girl’s risqué disposition on that occasion than your game being good. However, if the girl does have sex with you very quickly you can give some credit to yourself for your capability to make her comfortable and aroused enough to act on her risqué disposition. These scenarios happen very rarely from cold approach but are talked about far more than is an accurate reflection of reality. This results in guys trying for bathroom pulls and heroic-game which is very difficult for guys learning game. Guy who are learning who don’t get what they think they should is frustrating and leads to all kinds of negativity making them aggressive towards girls. Realign your focus on typical cold approach pick up, get better results (or some at all) and get more out of learning the game.
In the fixed time frame of the night you spend time with one girl in one interaction and build up arousal. The more experience you get the more efficient you can be at creating arousal. The longer the interaction with the one girl, including her friends, the better chance you have of hanging out later. There is no point using physical aggression to rush to pull the girl, but you can use physical expressions as a fun way to play like you’re going to pull the girl, then drop it, to accelerate arousal (attraction).
To find which girl you want to spend that timeframe with you can go around and start several Physical Rapport interactions, talk about the intentions for the night and, called screening (Screening Article) and see which girls are single or not, called the Relationship Reaction Matrix (Relationship Matrix Article).
With physical rapport you can go around starting good interactions and screening at the same time without being a seen as a player. Because physical rapport is physically sociable it is acceptable to interact with multiple girls this way while weighing up who you want to choose to spend time building up arousal with. It is very rare that another girl would be receptive to you if they have seen other girls blow you out due to over-escalation. They might interact with you, but it’s rare that a girl will go home with you if she, or her friends, suspect you are trying to be a player.
You have the advantage of knowing that there is a fixed time frame of the night. Within that timeframe you can have fun with the girl expressing a range of emotions as per normal. The big advantage of interacting with a girl using physical rapport style is that your only goal in the interaction is to be comfortable in each other space, because you follow the assumption that it’s not worth the effort to try to escalate the interaction towards sex until after the timeframe of the night.
Not only are you a socially well adjusted guy, once you have a connection with the girl you don’t instantly play for sex. Instead you are in the moment focusing on bringing out your fun side. Image you are stuck in detention for some extent of time, you have to amuse yourself so you don’t die of boredom. When you embrace physical rapport and the timeframe of the night you put your efforts into having fun which accelerates the way you arouse the girl whereas other guys would be boring, or waiting or pushing the girl for sex. A lot of guys even let sets go where they have connections with the girl because they consider the girl too boring, losing the girl.
Side Note: If you are training yourself to become more ‘high value’ assume that the girls you meet who don’t study self help and social dynamics won’t have the same value as you. This can make them seem boring, especially if you bring out their quiet and attentive side. Once you start to come into congruence with ‘high value’ you have to run the entire interaction yourself. Don’t hope that the girl will interest you, hope that she is pleasant company.
For the actual physical interaction you will be spending time with the girl you have chosen. You will have escalated just enough that you are comfortable in each other’s space. While you escalate with your girl you can also include other girls you have already met that you didn’t choose to spend the night with, increasing your value (arousal) even more. You interact with the girl like you have known her for some time, comfortable standing in her space or bringing her into yours in a relaxed way. Sometimes you might play little physical games or push-pull. You include sporadic physical expression in your interaction to keep the set interesting for yourself, knowing that you will elicit a test that you can beat and accelerate arousal (attraction) then you pull it back to a relaxed physical rapport frame.