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In physical rapport frame you’re not worried if the girl has to go and talk to her friends, and you’re not too worried about you leaving her for a moment to talk to your friends, go to the bathroom or get a drink. In fact, this is a good thing. If you are cooler with her walking away than she is with you walking away then you are on the brink of the ‘inception’.
The magical idea that physical rapport is designed to spawn in a girls mind is something like “I like this guys, he seems to like my company, he has social skills, he’s not rushed, I’m physically comfortable with him, I know he could make moves. All guys like me, especially guys that get close to me. Why isn’t he making more moves? I have never experienced this before. He is very smooth and very nice. Maybe he’s not into me?! Everyone is into me! Especially the quality guys!”
And the ‘inception’…
“I’m going to get him to pay more attention to me and take me more seriously.”
Maybe not then and there, but with that “you’re in”. Once a girl has has the ‘inception’ idea her decision to get you to take her more seriously will accelerate you and her hooking up faster than anything else from cold approach meetings. You can get a sense that she is in this headspace when she starts initiating contact, laughing at your jokes and asking you to take her number. Sometimes she’ll say things like “don’t leave”, “watch my stuff” and “where do you live” which is a pretty clear indication that she interested.
Beware that she is only interested, not sold. Based on arousal theory, she will lose arousal if you suddenly start to rush things. Once you start to rush she knows that you want her, and it takes the anticipation (potential arousal) out of the interaction. Hold the frame, play it out. Make sociable suggestions to hang out elsewhere as the night goes on, logistically organise it with anyone involved and go off into the night. Once she has the made the decision that she wants you to take her more seriously and the longer you hold the physical rapport frame the more urgent the girl feel about wanting to hook up with you. Overall cutting down the time from meeting to sex, making this dynamic a fast fast way to pick up girls.
If you are going to follow this frame work I expect that it will be with a girl gorgeous enough to want to spend that amount of time with, both before and after you have sex with her. As you get better in the game you realise that there is no way of knowing which girl will go all the way to having sex with you, so you stop focusing on that and start to focus on the most attractive girls (looks/personality/attitude/style) and seek their company. It can be worth spending the night in the company of a gorgeous girl and interacting with her in close proximity and not have sex because her beauty and her company is that much of a pleasure to spend time with.
That thought gave rise to my Romantic Revolution (Romantic Revolutions Article) and the massively accelerated attraction, abundance and quality of girls that suddenly seemed drawn to me in life. Overall, it was the massive rock solid ‘it’s all good’, chilled out relaxed arousal (Relaxed Arousal Article) frame that NEVER risked getting me into a negative (frustrated/desperate/aggressive/reactive frame) that girls could instantly sense – and loved me for it. Or anyone else I’ve seen with the same frame for that matter.
If you first priorities are physical rapport, fun in the club and appreciating the company of the girl you are with and she will eventually get the idea that she really likes you and wonders why you don’t like her back the same way, she’ll have the ‘inception’ and make it a certainty.
Sometimes the girl won’t be convinced about you due to girls’ indecisive nature, and you might need to make assertive moves to get everyone to the afterparty, or into a taxi. This is a judgement call and can best be learnt from Bootcamp (Bootcamp Information) or Hotseat (Hotseat Information).
There were times in the past where I would relentlessly harass the girl to go with me, and then to get alone with me, and then to have sex. Eventually I might get her attention, then get her to go with me, then get her alone with me and after a lot of last minute resistance have sex with me, but every step of the process was a struggle. The pushing method is not charming and less effective. I think the pushing mode of interaction takes longer overall to ‘get the girl’. Physical Rapport style that leads to the ‘inception’ make the process smoother, easier, fun to go through, less risky and stress free. It doesn’t risk alienation and it does build abundance.
If you can’t party with the girl you had chosen to hang out with that night but went as far as to continue the interaction all the way to where she has to travel home, to her door, or to eat with her afterwards it’s like an instant date that is the kind of solid interaction the converts into a weekday date.
Compile these effects over a longer period of time and you will have a lot of dates, casual sex partners and become very familiar with the one night stand. That familiarisation will lead you to have them more regularly.
You have to realise that on nights out following physical rapport style interactions will yield either getting a girl into bed or pretty much nothing, albeit a couple of phone numbers from interactions. Sometimes there are simply no single girls to be met who are down to party. Don’t stress it. Keep at it, find better parties and acknowledge the night of experience.
You can go around doing a lot of physically aggressive interactions and get a lot of exciting interactions and make outs. Usually this way of going through the night doesn’t allow for the trust to build that girls need to go with you form a social location to an isolated location. So while you might have 5 make outs, you have no pull and no dates. The 5 make out night can be a very fun thing, but you want to be able to make the shift to physical rapport if you want to get actual results with girls.
In conclusion physical rapport style escalation is a very effective way of turning cold approaching into sexual interactions. It is a method governed by the Alexander~ Natural Instinct Method and something great to practise to start to internalise the principles and skills taught therein. It’s a great reality check to those guys getting frustrated by the game and a reassurance that grabbing girls is not the answer, but rather being nice and getting an intuition of when to ‘grab’ girls (lead them, use physical expression)is the key to getting better results.
Hope you get a lot more results using these ideas.To continue to get good at pick up the most important thing for you is a consistent emotionally relaxed state as advocated by physical rapport style, not the frustration and anger that plagues so many guys.
Have fun, get better results.
Any props, questions, comments or clarifications in the comments below.
Love from Japan.
Alexander~