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BY Ozzie | October 28th, 2010 at 4:21 AM
Meeting Women on a Night Out, a Beginner’s Mission
A beginner has to understand the following: get through your 2000 rookie mistakes fast so you can get to the 2000 master’s mistakes. In other words, a complete beginner to cold walk-ups with women must understand his mission is survival on a night out. He must get through the night.

Cold Approach/Walk-up: To approach and start a conversation with a total stranger.

Shivers

Last week, I had a complete beginner here on my live in-field program in London and he was terrified as we walked into one of the loudest, meanest, hardest clubs in London. He said to me later in the night that he was shaking with fear as we entered the club for the night. “How do you feel now?” I asked after we had gone through several hours of approaching girls. He said, “I am fine. I survived.” What he means is “I can do this again.” So if I were to bring him again to the same club the next night, his fears would be less and so on.

Challenging venues

I throw complete beginners to the art of cold walk-ups into the worst of circumstances and then give them tools to survive there. I do this over and over until they learn to use the tools. I am not afraid to do this since I understand that survival in challenging situations leads to high levels of confidence and results in better performance in the long term.

Fear as fuel for performance around women

I believe fear has its use. I believe fear can help you when you walk up to beautiful women in crazy night venues. In fact, it can provide the fuel you need to perform better. Fear as a source of energy, if harnessed properly, can be extremely profitable when you decide to improve your dating life.

A beginner’s drill

Write down on a piece of paper your worst fear around beautiful women. The following examples come from my live in-field programs. This is what beginners write at the beginning of their training.

1. Walk up to a couple and being beaten up by boyfriend

2. Being ignored by a beautiful girl in front of her friends

3. Being rejected and humiliated by a stunning girl in front of her hot friends

4. Running out of things to say in front of a girl(s)

Once you have identified your top fear, it is time to expose yourself to it. If you fear jealous boyfriends, your mission is to SURVIVE. So walk up to 5 different couples in the night and start a conversation. The first one will be your hardest. But as you keep doing your mission, you will feel less fear and your interactions will get better.

(For more articles about Ozzie, check out http://www.pickupmadesimple.com and http://www.physicalgamebook.com).