Daytime: Moving from indirect daytime opener to sexually framed number close

[YushaP]

Daytime: Moving from indirect daytime opener to sexually framed number close

Hej! Har kört daygame ett tag nu. Samlat ca 50 nummer hittills och 2 ligg. Mycket direkt, en del indirekt. Indirekt var svårt och kändes mycket slumpartat - men jag tror att jag äntligen kommit på hur man går från indirekt dagtid-öppning till sexuellt betonad number-close på ett mycket naturligt sätt - så att hela interaktionen känns som "det bara hände". Detta är något jag kom på när jag analyserade mina interaktioner retroaktivt, och upptäckte att "oj då, det var visst så jag gjorde de gångerna". Skrivit ner det nedan, och ska nu testa det lite mer formellt:

Technique for going from my indirect question to me asking them where they’re from: I need to make a statement that needs to a logical question. This removes one of the gaps by filling it in with a logical transitioning step. Me asking them about them directly is weird because it’s such a sudden jump from my indirect question. Me telling them a story that has logical relationship with my opener is more understandable. Then, from that story, asking them a question that has a logical relationship to my statement is also understandable. My story thus acts as a bridge from my inidirect opener to my question about them. FOR EXAMPLE: If I’m in the university, asking “where is X?” -> Bridge story: “This university is so big compared to where I studied, there are like buildings everywhere” -> Question about them: “Have you studied here long?” After they answer I can either ask a follow up question (for example “Ok so what are you studying?”), or tell them another bridge story related to my first one: “Ok, was thinking about studying here actually but I chose the other one to get away and get some adventure”, then follow up with another question about them: “Are you from here or did you move here to study?”. Then based on their answer I can extract a natural conversation. If I get a natural conversation, I can throw in at the end “you’re cute, and you’re fun to talk to. I’d like to have a coffee with you so we can talk some more.”. Then I have established the sexual frame. Then number-close.