Alexander~ Attraction Manifesto NOTES

[Benson!]

Suttit och skrivit ner skit under 5 h, god damn.

En liten period där jag inte skrev utan bara försökte göra kopior av hans grafer i word, men blev inte bra. Så ska se om den delen och ta notes så uppdaterar jag detta då.


Det är nog luddigt för er som inte sett videon men slänger upp den ändå, tyckte det var JÄVLIGT bra skit.

Hoppas det ger er något. Puss.

Trusting you are attractive will give you an attractive vibe
She becomes compliant when you are inspiring a range of emotions.
She will like you, and dislike you, become upset and excited.
It’s OK to harass the girl, pushing, being assertive, being persistent, being patient. As long as you are unapologetic, aka high value AND arousing. This will make her feel selected. Positively validated.

When having sex from a position of abundance, it’s screening for the best girl possible.
Discover what life would be like with them. Therefor it’s OK to “use” girls for sex, since it’s a way of screening, like being the CEO, screening for the kind of people you want in your life.
Being fun AND annoying. This is arousing.
Girls feel guilty for being attracted. It comes with a lot of inherent risks, like being slutty, reckless, superficial etc.
Don’t be too clever with your game, dumb yourself down, be goofy, fun-loving, unapologetic, imperfect and DOWN TO EARTH. Which makes you REALLY connect.
There’s no reason I’m not enough. It’s a passive and naturally attractive mindset.
Know who you are. Chase what you like. Be unapologetic.
Put yourself first, be indifferent to other people. Know what you like to do and do it. Be unapologetic about it – people only have as much power as you give them.
Call people out on their shit, challenge people.
Almost like being bored with people, put other people aside.

Too high status can make you a bit emotionally disconnected from other people. When you start thinking other people are more stupid, less experienced, and boring, you become high status. Now you need to be PATIENT with people, other people will not stimulate you as much, downwardly connect. Take time to appreciate every single person you meet. You have to take responsibility to make the vibe fun, so speak about what you like. Let people be stupid, it’s OK, let people speak anyway.

People are less emotionally strong and charismatic than you, accept this and let them speak anyway, it’s OK. Let them finish their sentences, this inspires loyalty. Seek to understand first, then to be understood.

Be diplomatic and democratic. Connect and inspire loyalty, have the king frame.
Make people feel comfortable, go slow, be on their level, get on their rhythm and then safely show them a cooler rhythm.
Initially people aren’t as cool and inspiring as they are later on, because they get uncomfortable and insecure in new situations. Like AA.
Don’t be bothered with people, just laugh everything off, it’s all silly. Like a little niece if you are an uncle. The King frame or The Man In Her Life frame.

Never seek to be impressive. Don’t try to be attractive. Just re-approach four times, with time you will eventually start to inspire a range of emotions, and while enduring tests as well and becoming high value in her eyes, you become arousing.

High value men don’t need to make women attracted, there is no need.

Who you are individually is your OWN culture. Offer you culture to the girl.

The longer the girl spends in the culture the more connection and emotionally one to it she becomes and appreciates it more.

Find your own specific culture and learn to express it. Know WHO YOU ARE.


The oven metaphor

When a woman’s initial defenses welt away, she becomes interested, aka star chatting, then she relaxes even more and becomes excited and gets butterflies in her stomach, and later she becomes turned on in her VAGGY.
She heats up in her head, then it goes down to her stomach and eventually to her pink little squirt shirt.

It may take 10 hours or maybe 5 minutes. But always expect it to take ten hours, stay super patient.
She also cools down when she is not exposed to you.

STAY IN SET: Just keep spending time together. Engage each other both verbally and physically.
Let everything UNFOLD, don’t reach for anything.

Arousal comes from contrasting emotions.
All positive: Ned Flander
All negative: Macho boring guy
Range of emotions: Dynamic and interesting. AROUSING.
Don’t be super confronting and hilarious. Take it slow, be SLIGHTLY arousing. Don’t be too intense.
Chill out. Spike positive emotion.
Chill out. Spike negative emotion.
Over a LONG period of time. =)
A girl is not attracted to you, she is attracted to her relationship to you.
Become more intense, slowly, don’t start out confrontational.
Let her get arousing even if it’s other guys arousing her, arousal is always good, learn how to capitalize on that arousal.


High energy comes with tension. Start small and become more energetic slowly.
The true indication of interest is when the girl is quiet and attentive.

Be prepared to be out until 6 am.

When she can sleep on it it’s the most effective with the HOTTEST girls because she won’t feel like she is rushing.
If you make a good first impression, you simply didnät make a BAD ONE. She is not DISINTERESTED, and is inclined to let you keep talking and watch things unfold.
Just don’t make a not good first impression, by relaxing, re-approaching. She will start to open up.
When approaching they either categorize you as NO or MAYBE. They might test you or whatever, but that means they are engaging you and are becoming aroused.
You can’t be attractive in the first minutes, because it takes time for their defense to welt away.

Don’t be not OK, that’s all. Dress OK, don’t dress not good enough.

RANGE OF EMOTIONS
Express yourself in an emotional way. Express yourself as a character. Fun, joking expressions. Flirting is an exchange of emotions.
Learn to express yourself emotionally. Express what you like and don’t like.

Compelling characters REALLY like what they like, and OPENLY WITHOUT APOLOGY says they don’t like shit.
Simon Cowell for example.
Excited, heart-broken, thrilling, affectionate, decisive, adventurous, dangerous, calm, annoyed, happy, surprised, angry, sad, burdened, frustrated, euphoric etc. EVERYTHING.

Contrasting emotions keep people engaged.

Your initiative is somebody’s stimulus.

Initiative = Stimulus
Stimulus= Positive or Negative

Owning the frame: Keep expressing/Taking initiative, spinning the wheel her direction. You stimulate the other persons feelings, you arouse her.

Leading the frame is her reacting to you. She will like you all the way to isolation, having sex etc.
Do not react, just simply respond to her reaction.
The more relaxed you are = The easier to respond quickly and smoothly.

“Having comebacks” or “Being witty” AKA HAVING A CLEAR CONSCIOUSNESS
CLEAR YOUR HEAD, bitch.

When you have weird shit going on in your mind your expression will be damaged. You become held back and stifled. Inside your head.
The more you realize things don’t matter the more you LET GO.
Unclog your brain.
It’s a process of desensitization. When you go out and get good and bad results you slowly start to free up space in your brain, your head becomes clear and you get filled with positive and productive energy, and you can be really expressive all the time.
You become arousing to be around.

You have to come into alignment with who you are naturally, to become high value.
Personal boundaries, positive dominant, risk-taking, man of action, achieve shit, have fun etc.
Present
Positive dominant
Man of action

Be HV + Expressive and you are now arousing. With time and escalation you now get laid.

Seek things that you enjoy.

You are the king of your culture, hold the frame, she will eventually buckle, and that is the arousal that you are looking for. Don’t react to her negative reaction. Stay chill.
“Suppress fire”
Don’t break them, simply say anything back, just don’t do anything actively. Just stay chill and say retarded shit.
When under social pressure, you become high value by not buckling, endurance is key here. Don’t make ground, necessarily, but don’t go backwards either, just stay in place and stay relaxed.


Proximity
Be at a slight distance from her, don’t get in her face. Don’t make her defensive.
Talk over your shoulder etc.

Physical communication
People of high value initiate physical contact. Taking up space. In an innocent non-confrontational way. Not lingering and taking value, just simply expressing free of thought.



What causes emotions: A range of expression

Mimic her
Lead her
Kiss her
Take aways
Be affectionate
Talk to other girls when you are with her
Beat tests
Be promiscuous
Be out of control and confrontational with other girls
Seek to understand her, empathy (making her feel comfortable)
Anticipation: physical expression and then pull back
Tease her
Sexual misinterpretation
Cold reading
Compliance ladder – jokingly ask the girl to do things for you
Verbal and physical push-pull
“Let’s play a game” – Who cannot react to a head massage longer
Dance off
Nickname – positive and negative

Qualification
Why do like her – part from the fact that she has a vagina
It is connecting and validating her from a position of status.
Unless you qualify the girl is going to feel insecure and like you don’t appreciate her.
Make sure it is meaningful and deep.
Mean it when you say it.
The anomaly effect – show your insecurities.
Show your regrets etc.
Show you have weak points.
Things you’re not good at.

Take-aways
Use these, to go to the bar, bathroom etc.
Sometimes don’t even say in a nice way. Just say THIS IS OVER FOR NOW and then leave without further explanation. Do it on a high note. Re-approach later.
She is slowly warming up to you and letting the guard down from doing this. Let her have girl-talk and decide what she wants to do.

Multiple-threading
Start a thread, in the middle: “Hold on, hold on, blabla”

Elastic snap-back effect: Say something controversial and provocative. YOU ARE AN AWFUL PERSON/FUCK YOU/YOU ARE A DOG/etc. (LAST RESORT)

Shock-and-awe
Super-escalating with a smile. AKA sixty.

Us vs the world
Playful role-plays of us against the world
Romance novel plotline

Beat tests
By that you mean…
OK
Hahaha yeah blablbala

Physical rapport
Making moves is arousal

Eye contact
Relaxed

Storytelling
You are leading someone’s reality when you describe a situation.
Explain your sense perception and emotions.

Faux pas
Use a language that is a slightly more edgy than normal conversation.
Sex etc.
What might elicit tests.

Creating the fire aka eliciting tests
Confrontational language etc. what you know will make the girl react acutely.
The fire can be small or big.
What do you do? Come here often? Your clothes would be better on my floor…
“AAHHH!!!”
You are so predictable blablabla DAMAGE CONTROL.
Depending on how emotionally strong you are will be how much fire you can handle.
You are a DOG
It’s fine, just kidding blabalbalb

Do NOT flinch. Then the fire might burn the girl, but not you.
This takes trial and error and going beyond comfort zone.
If YOU get burnt though, arousal might get destroyed.



Arousal is a function of time
If you overly express yourself early on in the night then it does not leave the girl anticipating what might happen later. Therefore, only create drama every once in a while. She can then anticipate that you might have more to give and she hasn’t seen it all yet.
Anticipation = Schrodinger’s cat


WHAT IT IS TO BE HIGH VALUE AND HOW TO BECOME HIGH VALUE
Beating tests. Develops a strong sense of self. Gathering new experiences.
Who you are is a man of presence, positive dominance and a man of action. This is high value.
Normal, alpha male, outgoing, smiles, doesn’t take any shit, seeks to amuse himself.
Developing your emotional self is like climbing to higher levels in a game of congruence.

This changes RAS from scared of neg. reaction to excitingly expecting pos. reactions.
It is scary as hell, and legendarily fun and awesome.
Just like building a muscle, when you push your mind, and stay in set, expanding your reality – you feel resistance and anxiety. This is good, it is expanding. Your mind and body becomes more relaxed and calm with doing this over time.
The end result to seek is realizing this: There is no reason why I am not enough!
Your sense of entitlement will increase, naturally.

Emotionally you will over-and-over be shocked positively AND negatively, all making you humbled and chilled-out and centered. Eventually not looking at externals seriously but looking for your own values etc.
Desensitization. Monopolizing your emotions.

Don’t manipulate others – manipulate yourself to be free to express in any way you want to.
Confidence happens you perceive that nothing holds you back. It is a relaxed vibe. Nothing hold you back so you can do whatever you want without hesitation.

Resistance training.
Take supplements: Acknowledge you’ve done it before (get laid). Push. Acknowledge anything you feel acknowledges you can do this, anything that is empirical evidence that you are enough.
If you have more life experiences you are thrilling to be around.
Traveled more. Met more people. Had more job opportunities. More one-night-stands. More rejections. More confrontations. More set-backs. Embarrassment. Shit-talking. Run into bankruptcy. Etc.
TURN EMBARRASSMENT INTO HUMOR. Risks etc. works sometimes, and sometimes not.

OBS!
Remember to acknowledge the expansion of the positive side of your reality. Do not only seek hard negative shit.
Learn to be comfortable with success too.

Then you downwardly connect with sub-ordinate people. You expand others’ realities.

Eventually you will become able to be responsive to VERY difficult situations.

To make the ultimate transition you have to past a hump of extreme anxiety, pushing yourself intensely and eventually crossing the indifference threshold.
Approach.
Stay in set.
Create fires.
Confront guys and authority figures.
Make moves.

Eventually you have crossed the point of no return and you realize you have now lived through everything and nothing ever really faces you anymore. This happens when you are COMPLETELY indifferent to getting good or bad reactions from other people.


“You become the emotions you experience the most”

A*=HV (+/- E) T
HV=> Beating tests, expanding reality, frame
Emotions=> Initiatives
T=> Re-approach + stay in set

Culminates into => AROUSAL & ATTRACTION

No rush, trust the by-product of the way that you are will lead to the girl becoming aroused.