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BY Brad- | February 9th, 2009 at 2:59 PM
How to Build a Sex Life Out of Your Wildest Dreams
Tags: Dating Techniques | Self Actualization
So you’ve been going out consistently, heading to the bars and nightclubs trying to find that perfect girl.
Have you been hitting the “glass wall”, where you can get a conversation started, you can get a phone number, but are having problems getting the girl back to your place?
What follows are the five most important factors to consider when you want to move things forward quickly…
1. Manage Logistics
If you start going out consistently, it is not going to be very hard to get a girl to like you, your biggest hurdle is going to be logistics. This is something you need to consider BEFORE you even step out of your door.
Where are you staying?
Your place:
Is it close to the bars? Do you have easy transportation to your place?
Friend’s Place:
Do you have a key? How are you going to get there? Do you have a room/couch for isolation?
Hotel:
Don’t forget multiple room keys. How do you plan to isolate her if there isn’t a separate room? Make sure your bed is made

2. Have the right mindset
The most CONSISTENT approach is to determine RIGHT OFF THE BAT what your goal is for the night.
If you are traveling lets say, and only in a city for one night, a more assertive “go for broke” style works best. You want to set the frame of “This is going down tonight!”
Screen right off the bat to see if it is even possible. Go into every interaction with a hard core screening frame.
For me that means these golden words within the first five minutes…
“So, what are you up to later?”
Bad Responses:
-“Ahh… Well… I’m the designated driver, so I’m just hanging with my friends for a bit then heading home with them.”
-“I’m staying with my brother, just visiting my family for the weekend.”
-“I am showing my friends a good time, then we are all crashing at my place 30 minutes away.”
It doesn’t matter how attractive she is, or how much she loves you. These situations are going to be very hard to work through, so I’ll usually move on.
Abundance Mindset!
Good Responses:
-“Looking for a party!”
-“Whatever, what are your plans?”
-“Who knows, we’ll see where the night leads me…”
Obviously these are great answers. Look to lead in these situations and push the interaction as quickly as you can.

3. Convey yourself as the “sex-worthy” guy
You want to convey PHYSICALLY that you are a man that TAKES WHAT HE WANTS and isn’t held back by social constraints.
Get physical right off the bat and KEEP ESCALATING.
You need to lead the conversational as well. To lead things in a sexual direction I like using the tried and trusted “push-pull” technique.
“What are you doing to me?! I was just trying to have a good night out with my friends, and you got me all hot and bothered!”
As the night progresses and it looks more and more like she is down to hookup, I’ll escalate to even bolder statements. Here’s an example:
“You don’t even want to know what I’m thinking of doing to you right now.”
This gives you an opportunity to see how receptive she is towards going home with you. Based on her response, you will be able to see if she is ready to leave, or if you need to build more trust and comfort first.

4. Prepare for Paydirt

It just comes down to putting your balls on the line and LEADING.
LEADING is key. The circumstances are tenuous, and you can’t show any signs of uncertainty. So it is important to be assertive and decisive.
There are two different techniques for when you leave the venue.
Have a reason for taking her to your house.
“Oh, I have to show you these cool fish/DVDs/youTUBE videos!”
The key here is to OVERSELL IT! “You have to come see the COOLEST FISHTANK IN THE WORLD!! C’mon, it is going to be SO FUN!!!”
The other choice is not to give a reason at all.
“C’mon. Sko’ sko’ sko’. Right now. We are leaving NOW!”
I actually prefer the second option because it is usually obvious that we are going to hookup.

5. Closing the deal
It is important to keep the energy UP as you go back to her place or yours. Again, it’s a tenuous situation where too much lag time will dissipate the tension to a point where neither of you are in the mood. So keep flirting, joking around, messing with the cab driver if in a taxi, and so on. Just keep the energy up until you get to your place.
If you do things right it should lead to a Win/Win situation where both parties are happy. You took all the right steps to prevent any mishaps and resistance, ending in glory. Congratulate yourself… and the girl.