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BY Brad- | April 6th, 2009 at 5:32 AM
Let's Dance!

It’s time to taste the forbidden fruit.
We’ve all had the experience. You’re walking through the club, trying to feel out the vibe, but something seems awry.
No one is making eye contact. They all seem fixated on something else.
Every man in the room has his attention on ONE thing.
You turn around and see her. The stunning gyrating gorgeous woman looking like god’s gift to mankind. She’s drawn all the attention, seductively dancing on the dance floor, soaking in all the validation.
You try to inch your way over, but guys are just waiting, hovering around, trying to get her attention.
You think about making your move… But everyone is going to see it! What if you get rejected?!
The music is so loud, how would you even talk to her?
What most guys don’t realize, is that this seemingly “impossible” approach is one of the easiest you can perform. There are ways to build MASSIVE levels of attraction with this archetype of girl.

95% of guys are too intimidated to approach, or if they do, it’s a half-assed attempt at grinding her from behind. The funny thing is, the mere ACT of approaching properly and directly catapults you so far above every other guy in the place, that most of your work is already done.
Based on superficial standards, she is the hottest, most high value person in the venue. This gives her a VERY strong reality of being “THE SHIT.”
Your job when approaching is to have that much stronger of a frame. Your state, intent, and intensity all play a huge part in this.
The key is to have an internal state that is SUPER INTENSE with a hint of sexuality. Not the dancing monkey/entertainer man…
It’s the hot burning coal as opposed to the raging brush fire.
YOU MUST GO HARD.
Too many guys just hover about, waiting for the girl to make the move. They just drift around, circling the girls, waiting for one of them to back up and start grinding them.
Don’t be that guy. Take responsibility.
You have to go straight to your target. Like a straight fucking line!
Plow through whoever is in your way and get right in her face.
You should always be walking through the club like you own the place. You are the coolest motherfucker in there, now walk like it!
It doesn’t matter how crazy she is dancing, if there are five muscle-bound guys orbiting around, or if her friends are blocking her out, you got to go straight up to her.
Don’t worry about winning over the friends or group theory, there will be time for that later. Right now it is all about making that initial impression, and building MASSIVE attraction.
Like always, right off the bat you want to initiate a strong physical connection.
The easiest way is to grab right behind her neck and pull her in, with her ear right next to your mouth.
Then YELL in her ear…
The words aren’t important, but the most consistent approach is to use some form of a statement of intent.
“You’re cute. You’re a great dancer. You’re sexy as hell.”
Something that states EXACTLY why you are talking to her.
This is where the stronger reality part comes in.
NEVER dance on the initial approach. Just stand there and pull her in. She will slowly follow your lead, stop dancing, stand there, and start talking to you.
This conveys so many of the right things.
You are unique, following your own path, taking what you want, and not afraid to say what you want or worried about what other people think of you. You are also getting physical, dominant, and leading right from the get go.
These are all VERY attractive qualities.
The girl will most likely answer with something like “Thanks.” Or “You are too.”
The glory of the dance floor is that you don’t have to say much to keep the conversation going. Usually she’ll just start grinding on you after this and you can intermittently exchange names and short little conversations.
Mid-dancefloor game:
When you DO end up dancing, take opportunities to spin around and let her grind you from behind, or spin her and make her grind her backside into you. The dance floor gives you ample opportunities to get physical, you are already basically dry humping, might as well hold onto her hips too.
Feel free to back away every so often and give her some space. Take a few steps back, so you are like 6-7 feet away, and just check her full body out. Then pull her back in and keep escalating.
It’s also pretty easy to go for the kiss from here. With the loud music, your faces are going to need to be fairly close just to be heard. It’s very natural to pull her in for a kiss.
After dancing for a while, it is time to talk with the friends. This is VERY key because you want them to be your cheerleaders, helping you out at the end of the night, not being the drag away girls…
After a few minutes of dancing, ask her something like “So is this your crew?” Get her to introduce you to her friends.
Dance and talk with them for a while. Convey those social cool qualities you have been working so hard to develop. Get them to realize you are a cool guy, not some creep that is trying to take advantage of their friend.
After some more dancing, take the opportunity to isolate your girl to an area that is quieter where you can have a longer conversation and escalate further.
From there, game per usual and take things in the direction you desire.
This technique is SO CONSISTENT. It conveys all the right qualities. Only a super confident, really cool guy would approach her this way, and for your ability to put your balls on the line, you will be rewarded.