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BY Brad- | August 14th, 2009 at 3:47 PM
The Million Dollar Mouthpiece (Never Run Out of Things to Say and Vomit on the Girl)

So in the last article we talked about why the words don’t matter when trying to build attraction with the girl.
You know, it’s interesting because my verbal skills used to suck. I mean, they were shit.
But I got away with it.
That’s why I so deeply believe that the words don’t matter.
I had so much success with just great tonality, body language and escalating physically. To the point where I even became an RSD instructor with that dearth of verbal skills.
But I’m looking to reach the level of mastery here, which I’m sure many of you guys are too.
The situation arose where, if I approached the girl, and she was receptive, things would go great, and I could pretty much take it as far as I wanted.
But what about the girl that wasn’t initially receptive?
Do I just give up? Play the numbers game and try to find another girl that IS receptive?
That’s not what I got into this game for. I want CHOICE!

One last thing before we get into specifics.
Let’s look at the most recurring problem people encounter when having conversations with strangers.
That’s all we’re talking about here. This isn’t “How to pickup girls!!!” This is just how to develop rock solid conversational skills.
Interview Mode!!!
What is a guy REALLY thinking when he goes into interview mode?
Let’s get a little stream of consciousness writing going here with how a shy guy thinks.
*Ah, cute girl, let’s go up and talk to her. Hmmm… I don’t know what to say here, so I’ll ask where she is from.*
“Where are you from?”
*Nice, she’s talking now. Keep talking. Keep talking. I have nothing to say. I hope she keeps talking. Oh man. She’s stopping. What do I say now? Umm…*
“What do you do?”
Do you see what is going on here?
He is passing off the responsibility to the girl. Making her fully responsible for talking. Is that leading the interaction?
I think not.
Having great verbal skills allows you to FULLY lead the conversation, in the direction YOU want.
It’s similar to martial arts.
If you study a martial art like Kung Fu or Ninjuitsu, what happens once you get proficient?
Usually you get in fewer fights because you give off a certain vibe. People just know not to fuck with you.
You have self trust.
The same thing happens when you develop really good social skills.
You can just chill back, with full confidence that if you need to talk, you can.
It’s like having this verbal ninja star in your back pocket, only needed in an emergency.
You can also use these new found skills to get the girl to invest more. You become more comfortable with silence because you are in control, it’s silence with meaning as opposed to silence because you have no idea what to say.
It also allows you to free up mental RAM so you can be thinking of more advanced things like logistics, group dynamics, and actually LISTENING to what the girl is saying.
So let’s get into developing rock solid verbal skills!
It comes down to basic social skills, how do we communicate?
The girl can say anything. Any sentence. Inside that sentence there are multiple threads that you can go off of. You just need to key in to the right things.
So lets say a girl says “Oh, I visited Chicago with my parents. We went fishing and hung out at the beach.”
Chicago. Parents. Fishing. Beach.
From there you just pick one and flow off of it.
So one option is… FISHING
“Ah yeah, I used to go fishing all the time with my dad in the northwoods of Wisconsin, but have been too busy lately traveling with my job.”
And now this is giving HER material to work with.
What you need to realize is that girls aren’t these verbal ninjas who are just going to start talking your ear off.
Sure, on average, they are more social than men, but they need some CONTEXT, commonalities to converse with you.
So basically all I am doing is taking one thread from her, and telling some sort of story in my life. Anything. Doesn’t matter how trivial.
Remember, the words don’t matter!
You are just VOMITing words here.
Ah yes, there it is… Vomiting…
Remember the old skool concept of multi-threading?
Basically you want to incorporate multiple threads/topics into a conversation so you aren’t just talking about one thing. The reason for this is that if you only talk about one thing, at some point you exhaust the topic, and then the conversation ends because it was solely based on that thread.
Look again at my response.
“Ah yeah, I used to go fishing all the time with my dad in the northwoods of Wisconsin, but have been too busy lately traveling with my job.”
Look at the multiple threads we have to work with…
Fishing with my dad. How was that?
Why in the northwoods of Wisconsin? Did I grow up there?
Too busy traveling with work. Where do you work? What company?
It gives her some context to continue the conversation. And if she still needs more…
I’ll just continue VOMITing words off of all those threads until something does click.
HOW TO VOMIT!!!
What I do on boot camp is a variety of exercises to get started with this.
It’s basically taking a single thread, and turning it into a story.
One of the exercises is to just throw out a word, and the student has to do what I just did in the previous example.
So I’d say something random… How about “carpet”.
Then they respond…
“Yeah, my mom used to have this weird carpet in our living room at their place in Warsaw. I remember being like 5 or 6 and I would roll around and pretend to be a dog because it made my sister laugh.”
It gets you telling stories, gives the girl something to work with, and organically multi threads the conversation.
The coolest thing is that you can work on this skill on your own. You don’t even need to be chatting someone up.
Just look around at your environment and find a word, a raisin, and see how you can flow off of it.
Ice cubes. Strawberries. Shiny chest. Three legged llamas. There is always a story and conversational thread to be had.
So find some random topics, and start VOMITING!
(update: Another good verbal game article is The Spectrum of Authenticity)