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BY Brad- | December 11th, 2009 at 8:03 PM
I recently ran my first ALL DAY GAME bootcamp and the experience brought to light a bunch of new insights.


When it comes to the nightclub, I am getting damn near close to that delusional total confidence. I’ve been basically in a nightclub 6 days a week for the past year. And at least 5 days a week for the last 2 and a half years. I probably have more time in the bar scene over the past few year than anyone I know.

That being said, it leaves me little opportunity to run around during the day and meet women. I’m usually in a nocturnal lifestyle, sleeping the day away, and when I am running errands during the day, I often rationalize that I’ll just be out again tonight and can meet women in that environment.

Often times I feel like during the day I am more relying on my night time reference points during the day than actual day time reference points.

Well three days running around a mall in San Diego changed my perspective, along with countless other days out since then.

The big thing to realize, is that there isn’t much of a difference.

Ask Jeffy the difference between day game and night game, and he’ll answer…

“The sun’s out!”

And for the most part that is true.

Here are a few insights will help you when meeting someone outside of the night club environment.

First off, if you are used to approaching at night, there is more social pressure during the day because you don’t have the anonymity of a big nightclub, and loud music. If you approach a girl on the bus or metro, everyone in the vicinity is going to know what’s being said, unlike in a club where no one is really paying attention, or able to hear what is going on.

This can screw with your head, but once you get over this initial hurdle, you will realize that it is actually EASIER to talk to a girl during the day.

This is because there is no external stimulus that you need to fight against. At night, especially on bootcamp, I structure the program so the client builds momentum throughout the night. The first few sets are warmup approaches, getting prepared for later on when girls are more receptive.

This isn’t even necessary during the day, and you aren’t likely to be able to build momentum unless you are in some packed mall and on a “sarge-a-thon.”

It isn’t necessary because, again, you have nothing to fight against. NO loud music, no alpha dudes bumping into you, or friends puling the girl away… The environment is more laid back and you don’t need high octane material to keep the girl’s attention.

You can seriously just chat her up with basic conversation. Interview style. That is enough.

Obviously if something better comes up, a funny story, something situational, whatever, run with it, but it isn’t as big of a deal.

Another reason why the conversation doesn’t need to be SUPER AWESOME! Is that so few guys have the balls to approach during the day. It sets you apart right off the bat.

It also brings into play the old adage of girls getting their hair done and doing their makeup to go to the grocery store and meet their perfect man.

It’s their fairy tale pickup. When their parents ask how you two met, they want to tell them, “It just happened, I was waiting for my train, and he just appeared and we hit it off!”

Not, “Yeah, we met at some nightclub, I was bombed, and he fucked me in the ass the first night.”

Not that the latter scenario can’t lead to a great relationship also, but that is neither here nor there.

I remember my girlfriend telling me about how her friend was going on a date with some guy and her reasoning for why she agreed to the date was, “I don’t really know anything about him, but he came up to me in Walmart, so he must have something going on for him!”

That was enough of a reason for her to meet up with him again.

It is also easier to chat up a girl during the day because she just isn’t that used to being approached during the day. You are less likely to trigger those auto-pilot screening mechanisms that you will encounter in a bar/club.

So.

How to approach.

As others have said before, direct is the best method.

Too many times, I’ve started off asking a question, or introducing myself and the girl is like “No thanks.”
She thinks I am trying to sell her something, and doesn’t allow the opportunity for the conversation to move past that.

But if you open with “Hi, you’re cute. I wanted to say hi/I had to meet you. What’s your name?”

She is going to know what the deal is, that you want to talk to her for very specific reasons.

-Some things that guys run into on the opener.

Especially if you are used to gaming in a club/bar, an issue that guys often have is that the girl freaks out when they go to open her during the day.

What you need to realize is that, a lot of the time you aren’t doing anything wrong if the conversation starts out a little awkward, or if you scare the girl a bit… It is just a BY-PRODUCT of the situation.

She isn’t expecting some really cool guy to come up and talk to her, so she will usually be caught off guard. Just take the opportunity to start vomiting a few lines until she catches her bearings and realizes what is going on.

Another important issue is that there are real time constraints during the day. You want to figure these things out early in the interaction.

Too many times a guy will be thinking, “It seems like she is trying to walk away, she doesn’t want to talk to me.” When in actuality she is just on her way back to work from her lunch break, or has something serious to accomplish.

Just ask her early on what she is doing, you can then just get the number as opposed to running a long conversation if she needs to run off.

But if she does have nothing going on, by all means, try to push it.

I’ve heard advice like have a tight little 5 minute spiel where you can get the number, project yourself as a cool guy, and then go for the meetup over the phone.

I know guys that have a lot of success with this, and I think it is great.

But some part of me, the part that is a FUCKING PIMP, doesn’t feel comfortable falling back on the crutch of only having 5 minutes of impressive conversation.

I don’t have anything to prove to this girl, and feel damn fine talking with her, through out the day, whatever that leads to, all the way into the bedroom.

You should work towards being comfortable talking to a girl at any time, for any length.

I always joke around about the guy who meets the girl in the coffee shop and then after 10 minutes is like “Wow, this is really great. Let me get your number some time and we can.. get… a… coff… ee…”

Ooops… You are already together, already basically on a date, so keep it going.

Lastly, advice about getting physical during the day.

The only real advice you need is USE COMMON SENSE. There are plenty of times where it is completely natural to get physical with the girl, whether a playful hug, hip check, hand-hold… Whatever.

Just realize that these things usually happen A LOT SLOWER THAN AT NIGHT. Like you probably aren’t going to hold her hand for half an hour, whereas in the night club, you might already be in bed with her by then.

So pay attention to the rhythm of the conversation, the girls receptivity, and go from a case by case basis. Not what some guru says.