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BY Brad- | July 21st, 2010 at 7:39 AM
The Ego vs. Self Esteem Debate, and why what you think is WRONG! -vBlog


So the last article I wrote created a little controversy, hehe.

The real controversy is nothing more than a semantical issue of what a good definition of the EGO is.

So I am here to give you that definition.

From here on out, in the Real Social Dynamics Curriculum…

EGO = YOUR COSTUME

You hear all the time in self development spiritual woo woo circles about getting rid of the ego, you have a big ego, and detaching from your ego.

But is any of this even possible?

Let me give you a longer definition.

Ego is the false self. Your ego creates your identity, perceptions, opinions, and beliefs in a way that gives your life meaning.

But there is no meaning.

We’ll save the whole nihilistic discourse for another time, but getting back onto the ego talk.

As a consequence of this, ego creates duality. It creates distinctions that separate you from everything else, and everything else from everything else, and every time else from every time else, and so on…

So to live “in this world” there is no way to NOT have an ego.

Get it?

Otherwise there would be no labels, and therefore there would be no difference between you and a mountain, and a grain of sand. It is all one. All just a “manifestion of isness/silence/the universe/energy/god.”

Again, I’ll stay away from the metaphysicals, but what all you philosophical dilettantes need to realize is that when we are dealing with social dynamics, YOU ALWAYS HAVE AN EGO!!!!

It is the costume that you wear whenever you interact with another thing on this earth. You interact from your perceived costume, and the other person from theirs.

So this gets into what I was talking about in the previous post.

The goal is to discern between “good ego” and “bad ego”, and in an existential fashion, create the costume you want to live your life in a way that makes you the happiest.

Guys talk about self actualization, higher levels of consciousness, and getting to know yourself better. What this all boils down to is not transcending the ego, not getting rid of it, not detaching from it, but analyzing your own self and seeing what is actually up there in your mind.

The bad ego is the part of your mind and identity where you don’t realize that there are things that you identify with, your self concept that YOU DIDN’T EVEN CHOOSE to put up there.

Social conditioning, school, internet, advertising, past relationships, family…

We don’t realize that there are actions we take EVERY DAY, based on certain beliefs we have. And some of these beliefs we either don’t know about, or don’t want in our mind because someone else put them there. And a lot of times the other person didn’t want to create that belief for you anyways. It’s just a weird byproduct of some random event or relationship.

Like you are a rebel because your parents were too restricting. Or someone abused you as a kid and now you think everyone is out to get you. Or even you are social because you grew up in a big family.

Get it? Weird right? Completely arbitrary.

Whereas the good type of ego development is where YOU decide what stays up there in your mind.

These are the values that I talk about in the previous article. Things like being the coolest guy in the world based on YOUR OWN conditions.

CAUTION:

BE ACTION BASED not RESULTS BASED

The big thing to always remember is to have ACTION-based characteristics as opposed to RESULTS-based.

That is why it’s not good to create an ego like “being successful with women” because it depends on some outward force, but it is good to have an ego like “a man of action.” Because this is something that is ultimately under your own full control.

Whether your ego is consciously created or not, good or bad, they BOTH create your perceived reality, and control every action you take. It's your self-image, and how you filter reality, and the actions you take based on your perception of reality.

So I've taken the existential viewpoint that, it's my own decision, and I'm going to choose the most effective identity/ego/personality to get me whatever I want. Right now that is having a rockstar lifestyle with lots of hotties...

And this technique is so sick. It’s worked spectacularly both myself and the hundreds of clients I’ve had in over 25 countries…

1. I am the highest value/coolest guy in the world, and since attraction = value, every women is attracted to me.

2. Every women is an EXTREMELY sexual being, and since they are all attracted to me…

SEX IS INEVITABLE!

Enjoy.