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BY Brad- | September 15th, 2010 at 6:36 AM
How about some talk on how to get physical? Here ya go guys…


I found a few questions related to getting physical, and as this is a concept I really enjoy talking about, I figured it would be a good time to check it yo!

For a full, explicit explanation of physicality check out my old article in my blog called http://www.bradbranson.com/how-to-hug-a-girl/

Oh, and thanks for all the questions and insights in the comments section, I’ll take any comments into consideration.

On to the QnA…

subx Wrote:
You mentioned escalating smoothly.

How do you escalate "smoothly".

And what is "unsmoothly" escalating?

It's basically calibration, which comes from experience. Doing something for a reason, not because you read on a pickup forum that it works.

You just have to get out there and push it, whether it be going for the number or getting physical, and then over time you will develop your own flow, and be able to pick up the rhythm of the interaction and know EXACTLY what to do when.

Like there are all of these rules, even my own like "hug the girl within a minute" which is good for a newbie, but there are plenty of times when I don't hug the girl within the first minute. But it's taken a long time to know when the right time to get physical is and when she will be most receptive. I've pushed it too quick, or waited too long, and even now a lot of times I still surprise myself by wondering if it's alright to kiss the girl or something... go for it... and get it...

In my head I'm like "Oh, wow, that went better than expected. Try to store that reference point for next time you go for the kiss close."

You build up those reference points, and that's what makes you a smooth motherfucker.


yorro Wrote:
Hi Brad

I'm very curious about this one thing. You said once that your conversation skills sucked and your game was almost completely physical game.

So tell us, how you were meeting women in a low-key daytime locations like malls / libraries / cafes / airports / bus stations / etc.

Going physical during the day in a low energy level place is not the best idea IME. It's just fucking weird meeting a girl in college during the break clawing her getting in her face etc..

So how did you do it?

Haha, I didn't.

Yep, read my daygame article on how to approach daygame...

http://www.bradbranson.com/how-to-meet-w...g-the-day/

It took much longer for me to get good at meeting girls during the day.


elemeno Wrote:
I have decided I am taking my bc with you, hopefully by the end of 2010. That will be one of my goals.

question;
So last night I went to this concert with a girl I am friends with and her super hot friend.
I had already hooked up with the super hot friend 4 yrs ago but havnt really seen her since, and I wanted to hook up with her again. It was definitely on from the very beginning as soon as I met up with them at the concert and I could tell she was really attracted to me.
I was told she wanted me to spend the night.

I tried to escalate things between us the whole time and went pretty well because we were touching eachother a lot throughout the night.

But it also felt like there was no rapport and no connection so the attraction seemed kinda weak. Towards the end of the concert the girls started getting kinda bored and the girl I am friends with wanted us to leave and go to a bar. I said okay and went with it, and as soon as we get to the bar two goofy orbiter dudes show up to meet up with the girls. They were of course engaging the super hottie the whole time (girl I was trying to hook up) and buying them drinks, but I could tell these guys didn't have any game so I just chilled back and talked to the girl I am friends with. When we left the bar the two girls invite me back to their place.

I kept trying to escalate things at her house by playing music and dancing with her but it felt it was just me giving her a lot of attention and her just jumping around doing her own thing not really paying any attention to me. It felt like the window of oppuitunity wasn't there. I never got to isolate her and I never really got more than 20 minutes of 1 on 1 conversation with her, and it was nothing beyond small talk. I feel like I could have pushed things farther(especially since I already hooked with her) but I am having trouble figuring out where I went wrong and trying to make sense of it all. If you have advice on this it would be greatly appreciated. I am going to partying with these girls tonight so hopefully it goes better. I am just gonna focus on having fun and escalating at the right moments, hopefully it goes better this time.

Looks like I hit you a little late on this one, but you gotta dominate!!!

If you already slept with her albeit a long time ago, the attraction will still be there, and hopefully the sex was good.

You gotta FULLY assume attraction, and then get really physical and playful with her. Have fun, smile a lot and REALLY get physical. I'm not talking little brushes against her leg, or holding her hand.

Have fun and pin her up against a wall, pull her hair. Get physical baby!!!

Do you guys notice a common theme in a lot of my responses?

ASSUME ATTRACTION. Over and over again, I reiterate this. It’s so key.

Why can you assume it? Because if you approach properly, and work on your internals, as long as you are just comfortable and be yourself, you convey SO MANY HIGH VALUE TRAITS!

And ATTRACTION = VALUE. So just relax and be cool guys.


Lastly, lets get personal…

6am.sedna Wrote:
Yo Brad, how do you deal with doubt about abilities to do something, not necessarily pickup related - but your future? school, career...feeling like you'll fail. etc

I tend to worry a lot, and it's been getting worse the past week.

That’s a pic of Mark Twain and he said it best…

“I have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.”

Life is what happens while you are planning for the future.

Embrace the process. Embrace the moment. Embrace uncertainty.

Learn to stop worrying about all the bullshit and notice that there is a pattern to things. Quiet the mind and you'll know what to do.

More and more I see how everything kind of just happens for a reason, and I just go with the flow.

Again, you gotta stop fighting the current and just jump in the river and see where life takes you.

But then, once you find out where that is, work your damn ass off to get there or it or whatever it might be.

I've learned to stop planning long term. Look at my goals 5 years ago. Would I ever have imagined I'd be a DATING COACH?!

But here I am. Loving life. And hopefully helping you guys reach fulfillment as well.

Cheers until next time,

Brad