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BY Brad- | September 20th, 2010 at 7:27 AM
Time to go inwards again. Let’s work on your mindset


So you guys seemed to like the last inner game QnA so we will head there again.

Also, write in the comments section what category you would specifically like to talk about and I’ll take that into consideration on future articles.

Let’s get right to it.


Showtime~ Wrote:
Im 19, and dont have much money etc. What would you recommend as words of wisdom to a 19 years old being 27 now. (Im not in college yet) Like what would you say to yourself (Im not in a relationship anymore too =P)

Don't build your identity around your career, even if you love it.

I view money as a means to provide a certain lifestyle, and try to "work" as little as possible so I can live the lifestyle I want.

99% of the world idenitfies with their job: I'm a doctor, I'm an engineer, and the personality traits that go with it.

Me... I'm a traveler, a wanderer, an intellectual... Not a dating guru, not a pickup coach...

Also, don't have super set goals for career type stuff, most people change their major 2-3 times, and almost no one uses what they went to school for.

I view college as an opportunity to learn social skills, and to learn how to learn. So have fun and party and meet as many people as you can. And find something you love to study so it's easy to get good grades. And get good grades!


nattyfresh Wrote:
hey dude.

lately i been hang out with girls left and right. im a sexual guy all the time. i keep it moving but lately all the girls been giving me the same excuse as all i want is sex from them and if they give it up too easy ill dissapear asap. i enjoy the chase it fun but im also trying to get it in as well suggestion would be great! thanks in advance

This is usually a sign that there are some incongruencies in your sexual frame.

You want to be fully unapologetic about this. The player frame. Push it hard now, because it will take a while to internalize.

Some girl is like "All you want to do is fuck me!" Your response. "You know it!!!"

That will get you into that player/more unapologetic frame, where the girls will be less likely to place you in the provider frame.

That's your other problem. You are subtly conveying some sort of provider frame stuff in there because they are saying things like "If I give it up, you'll just disappear!"

That means they are seeing you as BF material, which is bad mmmkay... Not really bad, but if you are going for the quick hookup, and not 1950 style courting it's bad.

So make sure you aren't sending off those types of signals, which again comes back to the player frame.

Ooze sexuality, be fun, playful, physical, smile a lot, and trust that it will internalize over time.

You are getting close, it's just a few cracks in the armor that they see.

Also, make sure to get out and be gaming up other girls too, fuck a few randoms and the girls in your social circle will see you in a new light.

Also, just thought of this, make sure you are discrete, those friends of yours might be more worried that if you fuck them everyone will find out and then they will look like a slut.

So find ways to be more discrete, don't brag about other girls you are seeing or fucked to friends, don't be overtly sexual with a female friend in front of everyone else, and then when you are in private ESCALATE!!


Whorelord~ Wrote:
Brad, coming to this forum is distracting me a lot, how do I stop?

Something that I really took away from Brad Blanton's Radical Honesty book was this:

People think that we are separate parts. But we aren't. We are whole..

"Part of me really wants to stop leering on the forum! But I can't stop."

There is no parts, there is just you. And you are on this forum.

So you FAIL!

Be disciplined, use the forum as a reward for when you get studying/work done or whatever...

Get an intelectual understanding of why you come on the forum. Is it boredom? You feel like you are missing something? You are procrastinating?

Once you know the EXACT reason that brings you hear constantly, address it, and then see if you are actually gaining anything from being here...

Prioritize.

Time is everything. I value my time more than anything.


malaspina Wrote:
What's your take on discipline vs. immediate gratification?

It's funny when I here guys who are like "I'm so disciplined! I go out like 5 days a week!"

Like it takes discipline to go out and party 5 nights a week.

Haha, although I have a lot of sympathy for dudes hitting it hard and pushing thru rejection after rejection.

For me, if the question is based on development vs. getting the girl in front of you...

I'd go for the case-by-case basis. Have a desired goal, whether it be working on tonality or hooking, but if a set starts going really well, throw away the gameplan and push things forward with that girl and fucking CLOSE!

ANNNND…. Time for another personal one…


subx Wrote:
Brad.

Think back to when you were uncomfortable in field. What did you do to get past that? How did you view being nervous and coming off as a scared pussy when approaching girls?

I remember you saying you had to re-learn the process after you stopped drinking while in field. Did you get bad anxiety or anything? I think I might be cut from a different cloth because I'm extremely paralayzed with anxiety in field when I am not drinking. Or maybe it's because that I THINK that i am cut from a different cloth. Perhaps I see anxiety different than others. I hate it and i am scared of people knowing that I'm extremely nervous.

Nah, I was lazy.... I just took a bootcamp. That's what got me over the drinking thing.

As for nowadays, I feel like 2-3 warmup sets is equivalent to 2-3 beers.

You NEED to do your warmup sets. Everyone does. Go talk to a god damn fatty, or a bartender, or a married couple, or a dude... Doesn't matter, just get in that social flow so you can start building some momentum...

And realize it's just a warmup set, too many times guys build up so much anxiety because they are trying to do everything with that first girl like...

"Ok, I'm gonna open, her.. Then work on my vomiting, then qualify her, then get physical, then get sexual, then get her number then............."

Stop worrying about that shit, your only criteria for success is the open. Whether it goes good or bad doesn't matter... Just OPEN!

Then you start building momentum, and things smooth out naturally...

Rock on guys, let’s chat again soon.

Brad Branson