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BY Brad- | March 15th, 2011 at 2:51 AM
How to Break Up With Your Girlfriend: Breaking Up is Hard to Doo-woo!
Here is my exposé on how to look at ending long term relationships, getting into new ones and the whole process.

It’s an amalgam of multiple blog posts I’ve had over the last two years.
It starts with my sadness post breakup of a 2 year relationship, and my ramblings and insights gained through the process.

Sit back for a lengthy read, and ENJOY!

Originally posted on www. BradBranson.com December 28th, 2009
Title: How to Find A Girlfriend

What up guys,

So it’s been a LONG time since I’ve been posting up articles on the regular, and it’s good to be back.

I’ve been through some serious shit the last few months – matured a lot. No need to get into the dirty details, but as usual when drama ensues there are usually women involved.

I’ve had some great new insights into the whole dating process, especially more of how the relationship actually goes down, and how to make that as healthy as possible.

I’ve been talking with a lot of guys about the process of being single lately, like truly single, and how hard it can be, yet ultimately how important it is.

I kind of need to get personal here so you guys can gain some perspective, but I’ve basically been in a relationship AT ALL TIMES, since I was like 12.

Now, not always exclusive, or whatever, but there has always been some sort of female presence in my life.

And I’ve come to realize how many guys have that same draw to always have a woman in their life.

How many friends do you have who are the serial monogamist type? Going from one relationship to the next?

How many friends do you know that have settled with the first girl that would have them, because they couldn’t handle being on their own?

It was so weird for me being single, no strings attached, with no fallback, and how I could feel myself grasping to find another girl right away.

Like I even signed up for e-harmony and shit.

Now don’t start thinking “OMGEE, Brad is a chode!!!”

The weirdest part of it all was that I was having more success than ever out in the clubs, the RSD World Summit, multi multi MULTI girlies…

But I still had the weird desire for that strong female presence, and I’ve fought it hard.

Throughout the process of forcing myself to stay single, I’ve talked to a lot of guys and gotten some great insights that drastically changed my outlook on being single.

The first epiphany came from Tyler.

Think about being a man. Each year of your life, if you are working on yourself, you only become MORE ATTRACTIVE.

It is inevitable that you are only going to be able to get a HOTTER woman each year of your life. Just from life experiences, the contacts you meet, how successful you are, it is INEVITABLE.

Think about how you were 2-3-5-10-20 years ago, were you as centered, experienced, attractive?

Relatively, how comfortable do you feel in your own skin now compared to then?

This only makes women want you more, so as you evolve as a man, and grow older, you will be able to attract a more quality woman.

The next insight came from a good friend in Chicago.

Based off of this new book I just finished called the Black Swan, one of its key concepts is that of explaining the science of outliers.

Basically it is about this guy who played the stock market, and did VERY well. At a social gathering some people form a circle around him and ask “So which way do you think the stock market is headed?”

His response. “Up.”

Then they went on to ask his position in various stocks, and the crowd became perplexed because the man stated that all his positions were short, betting that the stock market would go down.

But what he explained was that even though he thought the stock market was going to go up, the gains would be minimal, and the way he was positioned in the stock market, if things went down, they would go REALLY down and he would make a killing.

My friend’s view of relationships is very similar. If you are constantly in and out of relationships, trying new girls, but never allowing yourself to settle, you are going to deal with a lot of emotional turmoil.

It hurts to invest in someone, and break it off if you aren’t totally happy. The pain you feel, and the pain you make them feel. Much like the pain you would feel if you were betting against the market and it keeps going up.

It hurts.

It would be much easier to settle for the comfort of the first girl that comes by.

But what you are doing through each relationship is slowly realizing what you really DO want, learning how to work a relationship properly, and ultimately playing the numbers game until you find that big winner.