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BY Brad- | January 3rd, 2012 at 6:56 PM
Go For Your Girl- How to Prevent the "Drag-Away-Girl"
There is something about being back and having a little bit of normalcy. I could tangibly feel a sense of relief when I was driving around today running errands.

Recharging my supplements, I know where that is.

Buying some organic food, I know where that is.

It’s nice compared to the constant low level confusion of being in a new city and never knowing where anything is.

Well, so much for normalcy, I leave in 2 hours for VEGAS!

I’m meeting Alex at the airport and we are going straight at it when we get in. Probably going to hit up Surrender tonight…

Anyway, I thought I’d dig into some of my seminar, and find some of the old school stuff that still seems to come up on most bootcamps. Standard outer game techniques that will make your interactions go a little smoother.



Open YOUR girl

This goes against the old school mentality of opening the whole group on the approach. The power of the direct approach is so strong, literally, if you open hard, attraction is like a light switch. DONE!

The problem is that if you try to open more than one person in the group, you dilute the power of the opener. Again, the power of the direct approach and going in strong is that it conveys a SHIT TON of value if you do it right. And when you approach multiple people in the group, or the whole group, you are spreading that value amongst all of the people instead of your desired girl.

What about the friends?!

I’m willing to compromise the friends, even piss them off to first convey that value to my girl. The thing is, usually when you open strong, the friends won’t even get mad. Sure, by opening hard, you will get their attention as well, and they usually look at you dumb-founded at the start. But by focusing attention on your girl, and being comfortable with the social pressure of having multiple people’s attention on you, and you being cool with it, it actually builds even MORE attraction.

Think about some of the highest value people, like a celebrity. The focus and RAS of everyone in the room is on them, so people inherently view someone who is comfortable with a lot of attention/social pressure as high value.

Again, usually when you open strong, and draw everyone’s attention, even though you aren’t talking to the friends, they won’t drag their girl away.

They are usually thinking, “Damn, I wish that hot guy would have talked to me instead.” Then they just go back to talking amongst themselves.

Talk to your girl for a bit, and then within the first few minutes, have her introduce you to the friends. Because you have already conveyed a lot of value towards her, and built the attraction, she will be happy to introduce you to her friends, and they will realize she likes you, and WANT you to stick around.

Troubleshooting

If you are having problems with the friends dragging the girl away right after you start talking to her, most likely it is a body language issue. Make sure not to lean in, don’t be too focused on the conversation, and of course GO IN HARD!

Good eye contact, make yourself vulnerable and go in face to face (no over the shoulder bullshit), and use a good commanding tone of voice.

What about if it’s only 2 girls?
This type of approach works best when you approach a group of more than 2 people because usually you go in and talk to your girl, and everyone else just starts talking to each other, and a bubble of joy forms around the two of you quickly.

And I used to teach guys that if it’s only 2 girls, just open both of them, and whichever one is more receptive, the one that is paying more attention, start focusing on her.

But lately, even when there are just two girls, I’ve found myself going in specifically on the one I want, knowing that quickly I’ll have to switch and get the friend involved otherwise she will get bored real quick. (Yet, I’ve realized that if you come across cool enough, even though the friend is bored, she’ll give you a lot of time with her friend, because she can tell you are the shit, and wants her friend to get with you.)

Why You Talking Outer Game Fool?!

Minor tweaks like this come up all the time when I’m teaching bootcamp. Sometimes a guy comes on program that has some decent experience, he’s gone out a lot, but reached a plateau.

Usually if a guy has been exposed to a lot of the RSD concepts, and is successful enough to have the time and money to afford a bootcamp, his inner game is pretty solid. It’s not like he has severe depression, or negative beliefs, although everyone has some self doubt and can increase their self esteem further.

A lot of the program for these types of guys is me tweaking little things like tonality, and how he interacts in groups, dealing with logistics, screening for the right type of girl, and reinforcing a lot of things he is ALREADY DOING.

This is one of those types of concepts. It’s not going to get you the girl, but it can help out and make you more consistent in dealing with larger groups.

Try it out and get back at me.
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God damn I’ve been killing it lately. Life is good, I’ve got so much to do, and am pushing things hard!
Getting back in the US I’m going to start on the consistent paleo-style diet again, start working out more, and hit the BUSINESS SHIT like WHOA!

I increased the traffic to bradbranson.com last month by 2000 unique visitors, and my goal is to DOUBLE my overall traffic within the next 3 months. I should be over 150,000 unique visitors a month by next month, we’ll see.

ENJOY YOUR WEEK!